I think the exact opposite as many of the men in this thread. I enjoy talking to an SP over the phone first. Hearing them out, their tone, their care to polite service. If the SP can be attractive and congenial on the phone that is the first step to a good session. Following with good service and attention is YMMV of course, but a nice pleasant conversation or interaction prior to meeting can be very rewarding when the actual session start. If I feel the SP is capable of exchanging emails and PM's then I do so. Some SP's don't go online, or aren't as internet savy as others. With writing though, it opens up a whole new world, because it is bascially a window into their heads. A reader can find out alot about the writer in what they choose and choose not to put on paper or screen for that matter. So I prefer the vocal interaction first, and if I like the SP enough I then take time out of my busy schedule to write to her. Cause after reading 150-200 emails of work content a day, sometimes a nice polite subtle voice goes a long way to ensure I have a good day. Yet no matter how tired or sick of writing I am, there is always time to review....gotta stay true to TERB. Happy hunting TERBites!!