Question for clients: Does anyone know you see providers?

[AllisonElm]

I am curious about this. I have met a couple people who pop out during work, and their assistant at work knows where they are off to. Others that absolutely no one knows except them and the provider. Do clients ever discuss this with anyone outside of Terb? Is this part of why Terb is popular - to create a sense of community?

Do you ever wonder if your friends or co-workers are doing the same thing? It's possible they are on Terb. Toronto is a small city.

Do you ever wish you could tell your boss or friend about this, because you know it's something they would really like?

I'm sorry if this has already been discussed. I did a half-assed search, if it's been done to death a mod can just delete this.

 

[ha7271]

i never tell anyone, but the providers themselves i don't kiss and tell hehe

 

[milehigh]

We have a number of people at work who visit providers, and it is discussed - I would not say openly - but comfortably. The civilian poplulation often thinks the talkers are joking around. It is always left ambigous. And there is the odd very curious female who does not know if it fact or fiction, and wants to find things out.

But among the people you trust.... there are a lot of recommendations and contact numbers, etc.

For whatever reason, the guys that play sports seem to be more into it.

 

[spendin2much]

I have a feeling my receptionist knows as I leave in a bad mood and all stressed out and come back loose and care free.

 

[fijiman]

I'll talk about it quite openly in a guys only environment where I trust the guys, or where there are enough degrees of separation from them and my work or fitness social circle.

I once had a roommate who told his girlfriend that I see SPs, and after he told me he was oblivious that I was so coldly furious with him ('Hey, I tell my gf everything", says he.) Apart from a hi on the streets, I no longer include him in my social circle.

Would NEVER talk about it at work, even in joking.

 

[ultistar]

I am curious about this. I have met a couple people who pop out during work, and their assistant at work knows where they are off to. Others that absolutely no one knows except them and the provider. Do clients ever discuss this with anyone outside of Terb? Is this part of why Terb is popular - to create a sense of community?

I think a community of like minded folks is a part of it.

Do you ever wonder if your friends or co-workers are doing the same thing? It's possible they are on Terb. Toronto is a small city.

Do you ever wish you could tell your boss or friend about this, because you know it's something they would really like?

Kinda, sorta. I have suspicions some of my friends hobby but don't know to what extent. More to the point, I don't want them to know to what extent I hobby.

 

[wazup]

With all the rules on your sight, I understand the guy has to jerk himself off, is that true?

 

[Nate1]

For me nobody knows. I have some very close friends and don't want the questions--now or in the future. I would never talk about the hobby with a co-worker though I am sure my old boss was a frequent hobbiest in Chicago.

I was with him last year in Chicago and earlier that day he had texted his wife from his iPad, he didn't realize that it would expose he had a gmail account. That evening at drinks and dinner he spent about an hour erasing items from his phone/gmail.

 

[JMrandomstuff]

Manners dude. You don't want what someone is offering, then don't bother.

Some guys want more sizzle and sexuality than just the mechanics of intercourse. Some of my best orgasms have been hand induced - and not all of them my own hands!

And to answer Allison's question - no way would I tell anyone. And that I think is the draw of these kinds of forums. It's kind of cool to have a secret life.

With all the rules on your sight, I understand the guy has to jerk himself off, is that true?

 

[mightymouse007]

We may talk about the topic in general. We don't discuss specifically who we see. That I think should be kept private.

 

[FTWWTF]

My close friends know that I hobby. And when I met my SO I was very upfront about it. She met my ATF SP , and they became friends, even invited her to our wedding. Have had a couple 3somes with my SO and a couple of different SPs. She still knows I see them, but as long as its only for BJs, she doesnt mind.

 

[Mr Deeds]

Since I am single and kids are grown I really dont care what people think anymore. People often say to me "you need a woman in your life" and to that I tell them I have plenty, and for an hour at a time, and I am treated better than any girl friend or wife ever did. Ill admit I wont bring the subject up in a normal conversation because my sex life is nobodies business but mine, but if Im asked I wont deny it

BTW Alison you look amazing

 

[NHFL]

Absolutely no one in my life knows, and I never talk about it.

Interestingly though, I have found two very close people to me who use SP's because they have slipped-up in various ways that only I could spot because I'm part of the hobby. I wonder if I have slipped-up as well.

 

[dirkd101]

It's a private thing for me and always has been. My friends and family don't need to know everything that I do and I like to keep it that way.

 

[Mikehorn]

I never talk about "this thing of ours" My computer guy knows though, he's seen all the escort sites in my history.

 

[destillat]

Interestingly though, I have found two very close people to me who use SP's because they have slipped-up in various ways that only I could spot because I'm part of the hobby. I wonder if I have slipped-up as well.

i'm curious... what kind of 'slip ups'?

 

[peeler_feeler]

I never talk about "this thing of ours" My computer guy knows though, he's seen all the escort sites in my history.

And you ISP knows too

 

[John Henry]

i'm curious... what kind of 'slip ups'?

By using words like SP . In the real world they are called prostitutes , hoes , hookers , street trash and so on . Sp is used on boards like this as not to disrespect the ladies . Oh another word is ladies . Accidentally giving out information about hotels in areas where you normally don't frequent . 1/2 hr rates , 1 hr. rates .

When one takes extra long lunch breaks and your secretary knows that you aren't seeing a client or buddy . If you are a shift worker and your texting someone in the middle of the night . Getting texts while at work during late hours . Speaking to someone on the phone in the wee hours of the night very quietly . Everyone knows that your not talking to your SO at that time of night .

Getting all cleaned up at work or after a work out . If this is not your normal routine everyone has a good idea what your doing . Someone seeing that your using a second phone . Why on earth would anyone need a second phone unless your hiding something . Using the word hobby .

It's very easy to spot someone if their f*ucking around . They think people don't know but they just aren't telling you .

If your having Sp's coming to your residence very late at night . You think your neighbours don't know . Sorry to burst your bubble . They know . Even if you live in an condo or apartment . Your not fooling anybody .

It is soo easy to spot guy's that have special girlfriends or see Sp's . Especially if you work with them or them being your friends .

 

[thumper18474]

Never ..plan to keep it that way..I dont have anyone close enough to me from a personal point of view or even close enough geographically to talk to
One of my co workers jokes with the others about...how miserable his Homelife is ..and keeps saying..hell I should just go bang a hooker...thaty'll show her!

I jokingly tell him..well there is a blond in this hotel..a redhead in that hotel...cute little spinner across the road...but he just thinks I'm joking...if he only knew...LOL

 

[staggerspool]

I haven't told anyone, and I don't know what I would say if someone asked... it would depend on the person.

I don't really care what "society" thinks of the hobby - I generally have a more sophisticated view of life than the vast majority of people I meet, and I don't happen to think there is anything immoral about the kind of hobbying I do. It is a totally consensual thing, everyone involved is fully apprised of the situation, and is free to say NO at any point to any behavior I might exhibit or suggest. For me it is about engaging in an appreciation of beauty and pleasure in an atmosphere of mutual respect. And I do respect these women, some of them are among the most interesting and talented people I have ever met.

I don't do monogamy, and I don't want a nuclear family. Normals find this unsettling, so I don't bother them by telling them what I do. I am happy to talk about this stuff in a general way with anyone who brings it up, but I don't volunteer any personal info. I don't talk about sexuality in anything other than a general way as a rule, and I especially don't talk particulars about encounters as it just seems like bragging or tattling... I don't need the boost some people seem to get from blabbing about their experiences.

I enjoy the general anonymity of big city life - I have no family in the city, I don't want to know my neighbors, I make friends around my real interests, and not based on the fact that they work with me or live near me. I am happy to get along, but I really don't care what any of these people think.

It is possible (or perhaps probable) that some of my neighbors know that I receive female visitors that they would consider rather more exotic than they expect, based on who I appear to be. That doesn't matter to me, because they are unimportant to my life. If any neighbor made any comments, I'd strongly suggest they stay out of my business, lest I start poking around theirs.

Who would I tell? Anyone who I decided I wanted to have a very close continuing sexual relationship with - probably not right up front, but certainly before we dropped the safe sex routine.

One of the things I enjoy in my hobbying is discussing the pleasure/business with the women I engage for play. Often they have insights and experiences that are enlightening, and I find that I have a lot in common with many of them, in terms of their open attitude to social mores, and a generally experimental approach to life. I learn plenty from them.

I think the normals have two basic attitudes: live and let live, or do as I do or I call you bad names. Live and let live folks, I can live with them. Moralizing assholes who don't want me to do things that frighten them, they can be frightened. Fuck em.