For those that have had a threesome with a SP and your significant other, how does it work with condoms? My wife is on birth control and we've been in a long term monogamous relationship. We've both been tested for STD's. Would I still have to wear a condom with my wife during the threesome? Part of me understands why I would, but part of me would think it would be weird to have to wear a condom with my wife. Anybody been in this situation before?
Question about threesomes with SP and wife
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Perhaps you should explain why you think you'd need to wear one with your wife. It makes no sense to me.
I guess i was wondering whether a SP would take issue with you having unprotected sex in front of them. Maybe it's not much of an issue.
Every provider my SO and I've been with had different instructions and guidance. I think this is a topic you should definitely cover in any prep meetings to set expectations.
One things I've learned is that I found it easier and more enjoyable to stick to putting a new hat on every time you switch. The more times you do it, it becomes more clockwork and not so much a hassle. A regular provider of once brought female condoms and that was a game changer for me in terms of having more more immersive experience and I really really enjoyed it except my SO noticed too and that was the end of seeing that regular as she could feel it was much more intimate for the provider and I and she didn't like it.
Have you and your wife fooled around together before? If not, there's a lot of content online about things you want to consider talking about before hand. I can also PM you some content.
One things I've learned is that I found it easier and more enjoyable to stick to putting a new hat on every time you switch. The more times you do it, it becomes more clockwork and not so much a hassle. A regular provider of once brought female condoms and that was a game changer for me in terms of having more more immersive experience and I really really enjoyed it except my SO noticed too and that was the end of seeing that regular as she could feel it was much more intimate for the provider and I and she didn't like it.
Have you and your wife fooled around together before? If not, there's a lot of content online about things you want to consider talking about before hand. I can also PM you some content.
Just use female condoms...that way if the SP is fine with you not using a condom with your SO she can have a female condom in. You can just go from fucking one to the other without having to take condoms off and put new ones on. If she prefers you to have a condom on for you SO then again female condoms. They each insert one and you can go from fucking one to the other. No lag time between fucking ladies=maximum fucking
So your wife is ok with you fucking another woman, but only if it doesn't feel too good??
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Female condoms are a great idea, but I think what the OP is wondering is whether an SP will have a safety concern about him going bare with his SO.
B88
Totes that's why I wrote if she has a safety concern then female condoms are still going to be the best option
every SP is different so the only person who can answer his question is the SP who's services he wants to retain. No guy on here can answer that question for him but either option will go well with the female condom.
Everyone is there to have fun, you are in a relationship with your wife so bare is fine and then condom with the SP. Simple. I get why you would be confused though, as possibly perceived as 'risky' one time behaviour with a working girl. All good!!
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If the SP is into eating the woman out then that wouldn't make it a problem. If not then she'd probably want a condom used. But only the SP of his choice will have the answer on the issue and what makes her most comfortable.
You pretty much summed it up. She doesn't like it when I'm a little too into it. I have a tendency to be louder and vocal and provide a lot of eye contact and soft caresses when I'm into a woman in bed. Female condoms really ramps up that connection for me. I find regular condoms mute everything, cuts off pressure and if I have had a couple of drinks, my mind starts to worry about losing my hard on because of the decrease in sensation and it becomes this stressful event where I'm trying really hard to not think about my erection. Its still fun and still feels good, but I just have a layer of worry. With a partner using a female condom all that seems to go away and it's just better.So your wife is ok with you fucking another woman, but only if it doesn't feel too good??
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She once explained it to me that when her and I were casual friends for years and we always used condoms. We had chemistry but it was muted. When we became an item, the decision to move off of condoms was a big thing for her and I. That first night together was unbelievable. It was years of never going without one for both of us and I reacted with a lot of passion vocally. I think she believes that reaction was very special to her and I completely understand why she'd ask to limit when we're playing with other people.
Having said that, I have my own quirks that I can't quite understand. For example, for the socializing/getting comfortable part we typically serve tea or wine. I prefer if I serve and pour the drinks for the ladies. For some odd reason, seeing my SO get up and pour the drinks for the 3rd person while everyone is laughing has always made me feel jealous and possessive and that's a weird feeling for me. Not sure why, but we talked about it, and its a rule between us now. I host the guest, not her.
Is this with an SP you've previously seen and your wife knows? There's no formal etiquette, it's based on the SP's comfort level, trust and excitement in the moment. Any professional SP would likely be happy to clarify their specific "rules of engagement", so just ask ahead of time. If things change while "kung-fu fighting", just keep wipes etc. handy in case you want to go bareback from your wife doggy-style, to the SP's mouth while they 69.
In general, my advice would be avoid formally planning this with your wife. It will plant seeds that will eventually grow over-time and blossom unexpectedly, and likely at the worst time in your marriage, especially if you're planning to have kids.
Unless of course you're comfortable with the reverse scenario, her with you and another guy, or her with two random guys etc.
In general, my advice would be avoid formally planning this with your wife. It will plant seeds that will eventually grow over-time and blossom unexpectedly, and likely at the worst time in your marriage, especially if you're planning to have kids.
Unless of course you're comfortable with the reverse scenario, her with you and another guy, or her with two random guys etc.
This is correct. Ya gotta think through wee beastie management...female condoms the simplest solution. Another is starting in SP w condom....but then finishing in SO bare...that can be you and your SO's decision...or just use condoms (of course switch out for different ladies). The latter is the usual time honoured duo technique.
You have to think differently anytime you get beyond the "surface wash zone", like going in a bum or more than a cm in a kitty. The residents in those recesses are not quite what you're wrestling with on the outside.
If it was me I'd explain it to the SP (bare pref for SO) and ask the SP what she's comfortable with (e.g., those 3 options above), then run those acceptable options past the SO for final sign-off.
