Question about customs/etiquette

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stinkynuts

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Two questions about etiquette:

1)Is it impolite to reply to "thank you" with "yup" to a casual stranger. For example, you hold the door open for them, they thank you, and you reply "yup" or something similar instead of you're welcome.

2)You and some acquaintances are going through a door (such as a store). One of them holds the door open for you, and tells you to go ahead, so you do, instead of insisting that they go first. I heard in middle eastern countries the host always goes last (for example you have company over, and they are entering your house. But what about a door that is not related to your house? Does going in last signify that you are more important/higher status (as if you were host)?
 
stinkynuts said:
Two questions about etiquette:

1)Is it impolite to reply to "thank you" with "yup" to a casual stranger. For example, you hold the door open for them, they thank you, and you reply "yup" or something similar instead of you're welcome.

2)You and some acquaintances are going through a door (such as a store). One of them holds the door open for you, and tells you to go ahead, so you do, instead of insisting that they go first. I heard in middle eastern countries the host always goes last (for example you have company over, and they are entering your house. But what about a door that is not related to your house? Does going in last signify that you are more important/higher status (as if you were host)?
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Personally, born and raised Canadian, I have to admit I've never given this a lot of thought. Interesting how other cultures work.
 
When I moved to the States, it is routine for people to reply to "thank you" with an "uh huh"
Took me awhile to get used to it, but it is not meant to be impolite
 
Never have given thought to your second question at all.

As to your first question "yup" or "uh huh" do seem extremely casual as opposed to "certainly" or "you're welcome."
 
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These days, the reply to "thank you" seems to be "no worries". As to holding the door, it's just manners to me to hold the door open for someone coming up behind you. At the very least, prop it behind me as I walk through for someone not immediately behind. But I also don't bother if the person is more than say, 20 or 30 feet or so away. I just go through and let the door close then. If there is a double set of doors, if someone holds for me on the first, I hold for them on the second.
 
When someone gives me a "no worries" or "no problem" response, I almost want to say, "well, I didn't suggest that it was".

It's an appropriate response when the other person has implied that your efforts were extra-ordinary or involved some extra effort. But for basic civility, a simple "thank you" requires only a simple "you're welcome" (and makes the most sense).
 
SoftHands813 said:
When someone gives me a "no worries" or "no problem" response, I almost want to say, "well, I didn't suggest that it was".

It's an appropriate response when the other person has implied that your efforts were extra-ordinary or involved some extra effort. But for basic civility, a simple "thank you" requires only a simple "you're welcome" (and makes the most sense).
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Pretty much. :thumb:
 
In the South West, ( California, Nevada, Arizona ) I have gotten the You bet! as a response to a thank you. Different areas have different customs. On the matter of etiquette, I was told by a guy that likes to hang around money ( I think he hangs around old money ) about the etiquette of eating peas. According to him, the proper way to eat peas is to turn your fork upside down and with your knife squish the peas on to the knife and then eat the peas. I have checked around but have never found any reference for this way of eating peas.
 
If I open a door for a hot chick with a great ass and she thanks me, I respond with a very sincere "my pleasure!" :D
 
ultistar said:
If I open a door for a hot chick with a great ass and she thanks me, I respond with a very sincere "my pleasure!" :D
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Lol, for sure. Got to do as much to make those beautiful creatures feel welcome again.

Lately, I've been saying a lot of "No Problem" at work, tend to say things differently to females including "You're welcome", "The pleasure was all mine" and "Don't mention it".

With guys who are friendly "Cheers".

With multicularism as we have in Toronto, comes differences. Unfortunately those differences may entail a lack of etiquette altogether.

This is especially so among those who fail to adapt to Canadian ways of life in every other facet including etiquette.

Others seem proud of their lack of etiquette and possibly that it's cool, and let it show at every opportunity.

Some simply may not be aware they lack manners, as they never had it to begin with.

Something we take for granted that would be taught at home from an early age but alas, ignorance breeds ignorance.

I think too, in bigger cities people are bound to be more impersonal and untrusting.
 
Blue-Spheroid said:
I don't know that Canadians are such marvellous ettiquette role models that we should insist all newcomers adopt our mediocre ways.
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'Tis true. Exceptions everywhere. I guess I take for granted that among Canadians, "Please" and "Thank You" are basic staples ingrained into ones constitution/vocabulary but just underused.

Come to think of it, the mark of respect "Sir", might be used more often than "You're Welcome".

Comes down to ones upbringing I guess and as with all things, as we say on TERB YMMV.
 
Miss Jessica Lee said:
I'm with you on this. If you're opening the door with the expectation of thanks then you're opening the door for the wrong reason. When I hold a door open for someone I do it because I'm being helpful and well mannered.... I don't want it to close in their face, I've already used the effort to open it for myself, why not hold it for others? I never expect a thank you but often receive one. I've never thought the order in which people enter through the doorway being of any importance.

"you're welcome" is very Canadian ... I hadn't heard that expression until I moved here. In Britain the customary response is "it's my pleasure".
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But what do you say when someone does say thank you when you hold the door? Do you just look at them funny or say "what are you thanking me for?" That's what wait for it seems to be suggesting.
 
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