Psychology tricks

[Mandala]

Delay smiling at someone for a few seconds, it makes them feel like you do not smile at everyone , they feel special

When your forget someone's name ask them when they say it respond no I meant your last name

Proper eye contact is just notice the colour of their eyes for one second

If you think someone is lying ask them something about the history like what happened before this happened

Use mirroring. Mirror someone's movement it is subconscious to like you

Do something deliberate if they mirror they like you

 

[xix]

What is your source, reference, believe and medication for these theories?

 

[kherg007]

If you ask someone to pull your finger, hilarity abounds.

 

[Mandala]

What is your source, reference, believe and medication for these theories?

Using the net

Feel free to disagree



Compliment their taste, say they have great taste not that what they got is beautiful
Instead of how are you say what has been good lately
Ask for something small like an opinion it brings them in

 

[Zoot Allures]

You cannot change the people around you but you can change the people around you

 

[xix]

Using the net

Feel free to disagree



Compliment their taste, say they have great taste not that what they got is beautiful
Instead of how are you say what has been good lately
Ask for something small like an opinion it brings them in

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[Zoot Allures]

Learn to smile more often. If you have to then fake it till you make it

Hold eye contact

Use people's names

Be the first to say hello

You make friends more by being interested in them not trying to make them interested in you

 

[philonius]

Many of these tips are common neurolinguistic programming techniques and you'll find them in great salespeople too.

 

[Zoot Allures]

Many of these tips are common neurolinguistic programming techniques and you'll find them in great salespeople too.

Neurolinguistic programming ,or NLP, is itself a sales pitch that is meant to sound learned with its crazy name when all it means is change your thoughts about yourself as though that is the magic to a better life

For example, it says if you are nervous about approaching a hot woman then just change your thoughts which is solid advice but if you are inarticulate, unattractive uninteresting dress like a Trump MAGA fan, live in your mothers basement because rent is free have no $ no job etc WTF is NLP gonna do? Convince you to make a fool of yourself?

It is sending a lamb to a slaughterhouse wearing nothing but a positive attitude.

Giving the few $ you have saved to Tony Robbins and his NLP seminar seems like a road to perdition as he is a brilliant salesman and a master showman. He gives you an adrenaline rush, makes you feel like a superhero for a weekend, and then sends you home with a credit card bill and a bunch of stupid CDs.

NLP is the sales pitch version of CBT, or cognitive behaviour therapy, which was proven effective before Tony Robbins became famous. CBT shows you what you need to do and does not sugar coat it. Get a job, learn a skill, buy some nice cloths and stop approaching the wrong women

I wonder if a quality course on sales will teach you how to get people to like you? I suspect it would as it will teach you to listen, which is hard work, and help people find what they want.

I observe bad sales people to spot their manipulation techniques and lies

Last one I spotted was this guy telling me to go visit the competition first while he was really hoping his encouragement would assuage me from doing just that

 

[Zoot Allures]

Each of these behaviors puts our own need ahead of the other person's need to feel valued and respected.
If you want someone to like you use psychology and do not do these 5 errors


1. Social Narcissism
When someone shares a story, we sometimes hijack it with our own related experience. While it may feel like we're bonding, we're actually taking the spotlight away from them. People feel valued when they're heard, not when their story becomes a launchpad for ours.

2. Unsolicited Advice
Giving advice no one asked for comes across as condescending. It sends the message that we think we know better or that they can't figure things out themselves. Sometimes people just want to vent or be understood, not be fixed.

3. Using Their Past Against Them
Bringing up someone's past mistakes or failures in a current moment is a form of betrayal. It tells them that no matter how much they've grown, they'll always be defined by their worst moments. Trust erodes quickly when vulnerability is weaponized.

4. Making Their Efforts Sound Easy
When we say things like "That's no big deal" or "Anyone could do that," we minimize their hard work. What feels like casual encouragement actually undermines their sense of accomplishment and can leave them feeling deflated.

5. Correcting Errors in Their Stories
Interrupting someone to fix a small detail—a date, a name, a number—pulls them out of their moment and embarrasses them in front of others. The story isn't about the facts; it's about the feeling and connection. Accuracy can wait; their dignity shouldn't.

 

[lomotil]

Each of these behaviors puts our own need ahead of the other person's need to feel valued and respected.
If you want someone to like you use psychology and do not do these 5 errors


1. Social Narcissism
When someone shares a story, we sometimes hijack it with our own related experience. While it may feel like we're bonding, we're actually taking the spotlight away from them. People feel valued when they're heard, not when their story becomes a launchpad for ours.

2. Unsolicited Advice
Giving advice no one asked for comes across as condescending. It sends the message that we think we know better or that they can't figure things out themselves. Sometimes people just want to vent or be understood, not be fixed.

3. Using Their Past Against Them
Bringing up someone's past mistakes or failures in a current moment is a form of betrayal. It tells them that no matter how much they've grown, they'll always be defined by their worst moments. Trust erodes quickly when vulnerability is weaponized.

4. Making Their Efforts Sound Easy
When we say things like "That's no big deal" or "Anyone could do that," we minimize their hard work. What feels like casual encouragement actually undermines their sense of accomplishment and can leave them feeling deflated.

5. Correcting Errors in Their Stories
Interrupting someone to fix a small detail—a date, a name, a number—pulls them out of their moment and embarrasses them in front of others. The story isn't about the facts; it's about the feeling and connection. Accuracy can wait; their dignity shouldn't.

If you tolerate many of these behaviours in certain people, you can end up being an “ ear for an idiot” and a shoulder to cry on for a basket case which can wear you down.

 

[Mandala]

Got this off net from a psychology podcast so it is backed by science (according to the podcast)

This is about how to project confidence and have people respect you - note this is about social confidence not competence confidence as you do not become good at something by pretending you are
unless you are Donald Trump


1 Move Slowly
Why it works: Fast, jerky movements signal anxiety, eagerness to please, or lack of control. Slow, deliberate movement communicates that you're not rushed, not threatened, and that your time and attention are valuable.

How to apply:

• When you walk into a room, don't dart. Walk at a measured pace.
• When you turn your head or gesture, let it be smooth and unhurried.
• When you reach for something, don't snatch — move with intention.
• The key is not stiffness — it's relaxed deliberateness.

2. Low, Calm Voice with Pauses and Breath
Why it works: A high, fast, breathless voice signals nervousness. A low, steady voice with well-placed pauses signals that you're comfortable with silence, comfortable with yourself, and not desperate to fill space.

How to apply:

• Speak from your chest, not your throat.
• Slow down. Let sentences land.
• Pause before answering a question — even just one second. It shows you're thinking, not reacting.
• Breathe through your nose and let your breath support your voice.
• Don't be afraid of silence. The person who is comfortable with silence controls the room.

3 Take Up Space and Relax
Why it works: Confidence is physically expressed through openness. Closed posture (arms crossed, shoulders hunched, legs tight together) signals defensiveness or insecurity. Open posture signals comfort and status.

How to apply:

• Sit back in your chair. Let your arms rest on the armrests or your lap.
• Don't shrink yourself. Shoulders back, chest open.
• If standing, plant your feet shoulder-width apart. Don't shift weight nervously.
• Claim your space — but don't sprawl aggressively. The goal is relaxed ownership, not domination.

4. Non-Conformity (The Red Sneaker Effect)
Why it works: Research shows that when someone voluntarily violates a minor social norm (like wearing red sneakers to a formal event), people infer that they have high status — because only someone secure in their position would dare to deviate. It signals you don't need approval.

How to apply:

• Wear one thing that's slightly unconventional but intentional — a unique accessory, a bold color, an unusual but tasteful style choice.
• Speak your honest opinion even when it's not the popular one.
• Don't follow the crowd just to fit in.
• Important caveat: This only works if the non-conformity is voluntary and confident. If it looks like you didn't know the norm, it backfires. It must look like a choice.

5 Disagree Without Insisting or Raising Your Voice
Why it works: People who argue loudly or insist on being right often appear insecure — they need you to agree. Someone who can calmly say "I see it differently" and then let it go projects unshakeable confidence. They don't need to win.

How to apply:

• Say "I disagree" or "I see it differently" in a calm, even tone.
• State your view once, clearly. Don't repeat it or escalate.
• Don't try to force the other person to concede.
• Let silence do the work. If they push, you can simply say, "That's my view" and move on.
• The person who stays calm while others get heated is the one who looks powerful.
  
  
  
  The Underlying Principle
  All five of these come down to one thing: signaling that you are not needy.
  • Not needy for approval → you move slowly, speak calmly, take up space.
  • Not needy for agreement → you disagree without insisting.
  • Not needy for conformity → you wear the red sneakers.
• Confidence isn't about being loud or dominant. It's about being comfortable in your own skin — and letting that comfort show in how you move, speak, and hold yourself.

 

[onomatopoeia]

2. Unsolicited Advice
Giving advice no one asked for comes across as condescending. It sends the message that we think we know better or that they can't figure things out themselves. Sometimes people just want to vent or be understood, not be fixed.

I was speaking to someone, and a young guy eavesdropping beside us piped in with his two cents worth, so I said to him "Your advice is unsolicited, unwanted and unneeded. One day you'll make some man an excellent WIFE.".

 

[Mandala]

I was speaking to someone, and a young guy eavesdropping beside us piped in with his two cents worth, so I said to him "Your advice is unsolicited, unwanted and unneeded. One day you'll make some man an excellent WIFE.".

I would have listened as maybe he knew something but that is me.
Zoots is right unsolicited advice can make you unliked

 

[Muchadoaboutnothing]

Neurolinguistic programming ,or NLP, is itself a sales pitch that is meant to sound learned with its crazy name when all it means is change your thoughts about yourself as though that is the magic to a better life

For example, it says if you are nervous about approaching a hot woman then just change your thoughts which is solid advice but if you are inarticulate, unattractive uninteresting dress like a Trump MAGA fan, live in your mothers basement because rent is free have no $ no job etc WTF is NLP gonna do? Convince you to make a fool of yourself?

It is sending a lamb to a slaughterhouse wearing nothing but a positive attitude.

Giving the few $ you have saved to Tony Robbins and his NLP seminar seems like a road to perdition as he is a brilliant salesman and a master showman. He gives you an adrenaline rush, makes you feel like a superhero for a weekend, and then sends you home with a credit card bill and a bunch of stupid CDs.

NLP is the sales pitch version of CBT, or cognitive behaviour therapy, which was proven effective before Tony Robbins became famous. CBT shows you what you need to do and does not sugar coat it. Get a job, learn a skill, buy some nice cloths and stop approaching the wrong women

I wonder if a quality course on sales will teach you how to get people to like you? I suspect it would as it will teach you to listen, which is hard work, and help people find what they want.

I observe bad sales people to spot their manipulation techniques and lies

Last one I spotted was this guy telling me to go visit the competition first while he was really hoping his encouragement would assuage me from doing just that

Was it Anderson windows lol

 

[Muchadoaboutnothing]

I was speaking to someone, and a young guy eavesdropping beside us piped in with his two cents worth, so I said to him "Your advice is unsolicited, unwanted and unneeded. One day you'll make some man an excellent WIFE.".

lol I don’t know. I eavesdropped on someone’s conversation and gave them a good criminal lawyer referral. They got a lawyer to not go to jail. My friend got paid. Kind of helpful sometimes depending on if you can gage their need and it was nothing to me. Just being helpful. I got no payment from it lol

 

[onomatopoeia]

I was speaking to someone, and a young guy eavesdropping beside us piped in with his two cents worth, so I said to him "Your advice is unsolicited, unwanted and unneeded. One day you'll make some man an excellent WIFE.".

I would have listened as maybe he knew something but that is me.
Zoots is right unsolicited advice can make you unliked

lol I don’t know. I eavesdropped on someone’s conversation and gave them a good criminal lawyer referral. They got a lawyer to not go to jail. My friend got paid. Kind of helpful sometimes depending on if you can gage their need and it was nothing to me. Just being helpful. I got no payment from it lol

This was some nobody in his twenties who knew nothing about the topic of discussion, but he assumed his opinion should matter to two guys his father's age.

 

[siestas]

If you ask someone to pull your finger, hilarity abounds.

its hilarity for both parties until one party puts too much trust in his next move then its extra hilarity for one of them only

 

[Mandala]

How to be more magnetic

1 mirror people IE they get excited so do you

this seems to be a common thought and I agree but only if it comes naturally

it does not work as a technique when forced so forget it and when you do mirror you
mirror emotion not gestures

2 Do simple gestures IE pour their water makes them feel special

3 Repeat their name when meeting them by sprinkling it on conversation

IE What do you think Tom? It makes them feel special

4 Magnetism is presence warmth and being satisfied with who you are

 

[Zoot Allures]

What is your source, reference, believe and medication for these theories?

What do you mean "medication for these theories?"

Otherwise great post to ask for verification.

People ridicule the net as a bad source of info but WTF is wrong with getting info off the net? It is the best place ever in the history of humanity by far

A library of wise info at your fingertips. Great emperors of history to the very recent past of our lifetimes eat our dust
when it comes to wise info acccess

Of course, a lot of it is crap on the net or downright scams because anyone can post crap

I use spotify podcasts were the hosts can be verified as legit in their field or at least bright thinkers

For example, Joe Rogan is very popular and a great host but he does not understand every topic, how can anyone, seems incapable of asking hard questions so his show spews out some nonsense that dumbs his listeners down but I enjoy some of his shows where I can trut his guest. Rogan prioritizes entertainment over verification


Know your host source as being reputable and his guests then your job a listener is to listen well.


A lot of people can not listen well