You make some reasonable points...I find people that are habitually late for anything/everything to be a real pain in the ass to deal with...I can understand why SPs do ask for deposits so they aren't wasting their time with losers that can't get there on time.
Proper etiquette when you're late.
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I agree. Having a professional attitude all the way is the best thing to have in a shitty situation. If he isn't showing up - there's nothing you can do at this point.Had that happen a looooot, the first 10 minutes late is fine, a pro should be allotting enough time for such an occurance, the next 10 gets stickier though, but provider should be straight forward and just say, "I may have to cut session short" if they can no longer accomodate the full time booked and both can decide if doable still. In this case, yes I would expect the gentlemen to pay for the full time allotted if 20 minutes late and I had to cut short due to that. I agree, no more would be needed. But a tip would ensure a secondary booking in the future instead of ghosting
If he actually IS late for some legitimate reason, giving him a peace of your mind gets you nowhere... only a negative rantview on Terb.
For all the dudes who are running late and have the intention of coming I say - clear communication is the key. Make sure they know that you're either coming or perhaps circumstances are so bad that you can't make it but they'll be compensated for your fuck up.
Great thread @Tomoreno - for me its simple, life happens and we get it - if you are late - you still have to pay the full amount (this is a no brainer as this was already planned and confirmed) but when you arrive - be honest, ginuwine and most importantly - be kind to the SP - letting them know what happened and whatever time you have - communicate between the both of you what can be done to max. the time still left.
Personally I have been late only once, and when I got there - without any questions I put my payment down and gave my apology of what happened, I even re-iterated that because I was late there is no pressure to do anything if you feel we don't have enough time, instead I will a drink with you if you like, and be on my way. She literally gave me one of the sweetest kisses because no other guy has ever done that before. Had a drink and left, but before I left - she made sure if I book with her next that she will only charge me for an hour for a 2-hour session. That 2- hour was amazing. Being late happens Gents - its how we approach the situation that yields the most rewards.
BTW - haven't been late since - now I probably jinxed myself . All seriousness though - kindness goes a long way.
Personally I have been late only once, and when I got there - without any questions I put my payment down and gave my apology of what happened, I even re-iterated that because I was late there is no pressure to do anything if you feel we don't have enough time, instead I will a drink with you if you like, and be on my way. She literally gave me one of the sweetest kisses because no other guy has ever done that before. Had a drink and left, but before I left - she made sure if I book with her next that she will only charge me for an hour for a 2-hour session. That 2- hour was amazing. Being late happens Gents - its how we approach the situation that yields the most rewards.
BTW - haven't been late since - now I probably jinxed myself
. All seriousness though - kindness goes a long way.My man! This is what I would do too!Great thread @Tomoreno - for me its simple, life happens and we get it - if you are late - you still have to pay the full amount (this is a no brainer as this was already planned and confirmed) but when you arrive - be honest, ginuwine and most importantly - be kind to the SP - letting them know what happened and whatever time you have - communicate between the both of you what can be done to max. the time still left.
Personally I have been late only once, and when I got there - without any questions I put my payment down and gave my apology of what happened, I even re-iterated that because I was late there is no pressure to do anything if you feel we don't have enough time, instead I will a drink with you if you like, and be on my way. She literally gave me one of the sweetest kisses because no other guy has ever done that before. Had a drink and left, but before I left - she made sure if I book with her next that she will only charge me for an hour for a 2-hour session. That 2- hour was amazing. Being late happens Gents - its how we approach the situation that yields the most rewards.
BTW - haven't been late since - now I probably jinxed myself
I'm never late to my appointments. It's a matter of pride! I've been ghosted, made to wait for a long time, but still... i don't hold it against our ladies. Oh, no! And I'm not a suck up or a pushover either. I simply understand this environment... it's not perfect.
Here's a question for the ladies:
If god forbid I can't make it, what is the way I can make it up without leaving a trail? Some of us are not single and have to be as discreet as we can. What other methods other than e-transfer would be acceptable to you?
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I'm always perky and punctual. The chicks dig it. But once I was running a bit late but I text to say I might be 5 -10 late as soon as I know. I did have an issue w an agency condo where I was 10 mins early to the building, but where they instructed me to park had no available spots. They suggested a bank next door but a security guard was posted and was giving out a parking ticket when i pulled up. So they made suggestions, none were free, but I kept circling past the original spot suggested. Finally after being now about 10 mins late i saw someone get into their vehicle and i waited till they pulled out and I got their spot (in a tight fit lol). Thus i was around 15 mins late but the agency said no worries.
If you are late for a legitimate reason (traffic, car problem, unexpected disturbance) let SP know ASAP. If you book an hour and will be 20 -30 minutes late, ask if doing half an hour is OK. In my opinion, paying full price for a shorted appointment or for missing an appointment because of circumstances beyond your control is not right and if SP believes you should pay full price - do not see her. After all, if SP is late or totally miss an in-call (happened lots of time when in-call was popular) - she is wasting your time, yet, she is not willing to compensate you for that time, and your time is not less valuable then SP's time. Yes, it is your leisure time that get wasted, but you most likely earn at least $100/hour while working, so, wasted leisure time should be compensated as well.
IMHO, respect and communication is the key. If you are a bit late, take a short reduction in time (10 minutes) if she has booked someone else right after you. If you are late a lot (20-30 minutes), ask SP if she is OK to see you for 30 minutes instead of an hour with 30-minutes pay. If she say no - forget about her. If she say yes - see her and give her a tip (and repeat). If you are very late - say you are sorry and ask to reschedule without offering any compensation. If she say no - forget about her, If she say yes - reschedule and tip her at the next meeting (and repeat).
To summarise: if SP is not a penny counter and willing to accommodate - be generousness with her and repeat with her. If she insists of paying for late appointments - forget about her
IMHO, respect and communication is the key. If you are a bit late, take a short reduction in time (10 minutes) if she has booked someone else right after you. If you are late a lot (20-30 minutes), ask SP if she is OK to see you for 30 minutes instead of an hour with 30-minutes pay. If she say no - forget about her. If she say yes - see her and give her a tip (and repeat). If you are very late - say you are sorry and ask to reschedule without offering any compensation. If she say no - forget about her, If she say yes - reschedule and tip her at the next meeting (and repeat).
To summarise: if SP is not a penny counter and willing to accommodate - be generousness with her and repeat with her. If she insists of paying for late appointments - forget about her
Other than e-transfer, how exactly do you pay an indy or agency girl in full if you are late?
Seem to me that people have grown over-reliant on technology. We assume the tech is infallible and don't factor in any buffer time for unforeseen circumstances.
This might be hard for some to believe, but there was a time before computers, smartphones and the internet. Amazingly, we survived without these things and usually managed to be on time. We gave ourselves buffer time to get to appointments because we had no knowledge of the traffic conditions. The radio was our only source for live traffic. If you were running late, you either had to call the person before leaving or you had to find a pay phone along the way. There were no directories of the location of pay phones, gas stations, parking lots or how your destination looked like. If you wanted to find a location you had to look it up on a paper map and hoped that it was up to date.
This might be hard for some to believe, but there was a time before computers, smartphones and the internet. Amazingly, we survived without these things and usually managed to be on time. We gave ourselves buffer time to get to appointments because we had no knowledge of the traffic conditions. The radio was our only source for live traffic. If you were running late, you either had to call the person before leaving or you had to find a pay phone along the way. There were no directories of the location of pay phones, gas stations, parking lots or how your destination looked like. If you wanted to find a location you had to look it up on a paper map and hoped that it was up to date.
I'd imagine there are ways to avoid SO surveillance (especially those who have joint accounts)
PayPal, Amazon gift card or any other gift card (purchased for cash at Walmart or Shoppers Drug Mart) for that matter, just have to send a code.
Unless of course SP you were about to tells you nicely to reschedule and bring a make-up gift to next session.
I think that this discussion should apply both ways. I have found that providers are late pretty often actually. You get a text" Running late, can you give me another 10 minutes"
Then another.
I have learned in that situation, at the very first text, to just say "No thanks, sorry, I am on a tight schedule today. Another time."
I just won't wait.
Then another.
I have learned in that situation, at the very first text, to just say "No thanks, sorry, I am on a tight schedule today. Another time."
I just won't wait.
