Thanks Petite
Petite Filet said:
When my red zone ad first went up, I was receiving 60 calls a day! Unfortunately, answering and returning everyone's call was impossible.
Many people want last minute app'ts, but many people can book in advance. I usually plan my day by checking e-mail and voicemail to see if anyone is requesting an app't for the day. (some people book up to 2 weeks in advance, especially if they are from out of town.)
Nice to hear from the other side of the fence.
It seems a lot of hobbyists take the attitude that the SP is available 24/7 (unfortunately some do advertise that way which in many cases is a poor choice), and that the SP is essentially waiting by the phone for his call. The reality as you point out is that you have to try to plan a logical schedule for you day. It seems many hobbyists take the attitude that the SP either sees only them or 48 clients a day in half hour sessions. Last SP I saw detailed a situation where someone she had seen before just showed up at her door and said "hey I was in the area". She was not pleased.
That said I will put my thoughts on this out there;
1. If the original poster had a really great time with her then she has probably gotten very popular and as a result she is probably getting the 60 calls noted above by Petite. Bunny comes to mind as someone who is diverse in her offerings and does a good job and I first saw her when she was new and it was easy... now next to impossible.
2. She isn't doing anything on purpose to avoid you. Most SPs have a plan as to how many clients they will see in a day and once those slots are filled she might as well stop returning calls... to say what?... I'm not available.
3. If she is offering anything non-vanilla, ie: submissive etc., then she is probably getting 200 calls a day.
4. If you want a guarantee then consider becoming a regular and inform her of that desire. Many SPs love to know that every Tuesday at 1:00 they have a session.
5. If you can't commit to a weekly or bi-weekly session then see if she will accept something more further apart, ie: once a month.
6. It is a transitory business and that is the reality of it. You never know what is behind the SP's life. Maybe she found someone? Maybe she got freaked out by a bad client. Maybe she found the trade not to her interest? Maybe she needed an amount of money and got it. For any number of reasons she may just disappear or seriously cut back her time. That's just the business.
So don't take it personal. See if you can contact her, phone/email and indicate that you've been trying to contact her and see if you can come up with some sort of scheduling agreement. Otherwise... it is probably time to move on. I had regular SP for nearly 18 months and literally within 7 days we went from "see you next Thursday" to "the number you have dialed is no longer in service" and she just disappeared into the air.
Sometimes you just have to move on.