I see you have found Shelley Lubben’s home page. I like her page it very informative and helpful in providing information about what some perceive as victims of pornography. However, like most informative site they are usually one sided in their attempt to produce information pertaining to facts.
Firstly, although many of these girls now feel they are victims of the porn industry. One must also realize they chose to enter into it for various reasons. Overwhelming most chose to become porn stars based on their view of how glamorous it could be in this stardom, and it being lucrative to them over time.
What they ceased to understand in their career goals in the porn industry is it is anything but glamorous once one is behind the camera and under heated lighting; it’s a job just like any other type of employment. A very tedious and stressful one indeed, especially when they are made to get into different position, get their assholes gaped, bodily fluids splashed inside, outside, gang banged, slapped object insertion in some scenes all because there is a market place for it.
Now I am not near what you call a person against pornography or sex workers. I just do not like what has happened to this industry or the other. I do not like anyone that disrespects another person, or feels they have the right to hire a woman for sexual activities and infect them with STD’s.
Believe me there is a lot of people in this industry porn, and the sex worker trade, among smaller companies that really do not care, if they pass on Herpes or any other STD a matter of fact world wide contributions to Herpes is now totaling,” 45 million people, or roughly one out of five teenagers and adults. Having genital herpes doubles the risk of getting HIV during unprotected sex. You can get them from having sex (vaginal, anal, or oral) with someone who has herpes.”
This above paragraph is what I feel concerned about idiotic, assholes, who think they have the right to cause harm to another person just because they paid for their services or need money in a sexual activity. These people in my opinion are nothing more than self absorbed ignoramus who places little or no value on life the I; in I syndrome. Does and will probably always run wild in a few self absorbed dumb ass for centuries to come as well. Until someone shove a rod iron up their ass. Sorry being expressive here!
The most common defender of pornography will also say,” Some of these Statistics could be bogus.” I am sure some are in a sense created by advocates against porn in their efforts to shut down this industry, or allowing it to grow further.
However once again, unless you actually been involved in this industry behind the camera, in front of the camera, stage hand, prop person, or merely a participate with a dream to be a porn star.
The reality is one must take their test, cover it up, understand sign of various sexually transmitted diseases, and in order to lessen the chance of contracting a disease. What most people just starting out in this industry do not acknowledge is when you look around it. They are very few people that stay in it over any great length of time.
Most people are what we call,” In and out people,” they come into it with the illusion of stardom, and glamour. With the ideology they will get rich. Then before they know it they fall prey to drugs, alcoholism, and various. It does not take long for the illusion to crumble once you have been their, and begin to understand this is nothing more than another avenue of the sex trade.
Some call this,” cattle ranching” since recruiters come out and write their little ads, glamorizing the industry based on promises of increased wealth, through participation. When in fact, it’s a place where few friendships really do develop out of misgivings and various, gossip and trust related issues.
It is also one where people do not care about ones well being and see one as an objective of sexual gratification, an objective to tantalize there sexual need, desires and release. Nothing more than a business transaction between consenting people.
In all this the only survivors are the ones that have learned, this is nothing more than a business and the job of the performer is to produce an image of sexuality that attracts it customer based into buying and living their own fantasy out.
What makes a survivor in all this in my opinion is a person who understands, taking precautions against sexual transmitted disease is a necessary of two evil, that there is a market place for it, and it really only about the money and providing the customer with something of value.
A well round scenario of quality customer care and the illusion of one hot sexual being willing to drive one nuts in bed. Something most loses after two years of being married and a few arguments.
Do not kid yourself; there is also a cycle that occurs in all this. Firstly, what makes this industry so appealing to some woman is the star glimmer, the label of being a porn star, the glamour of so many people giving them attention, and the recognition they are more than a sex worker.
I met a young lady once who was getting her web site set up by some company in Florida a few years back. She use to be a stripper, who moved into modeling magazines, and getting a few covers in cherrie, hustler, and next door, and finally into the porn industry with a contract from a well known guru of movies in California. Sure she made tons of money. Got to travel a bit, even met a few people in Europe, and did some DVD for them.
In the end, she went back to stripping and then finally into the world of this industry as service providers.” The fascinating part is she really did believe that this label as a porn star really meant something.” She thought with this label she would make tons of money. Men would be mouth watering and lusting after her and she’d get wealthy off of them. Something that only occurs down south at the bunny, mustang ranch for a short period in time, until once again the girl’s needs to move on, only to return in a few months to repeat the cycle of transactions once again.
What she failed to recognize is fantasy girls are only just that. Once the illusion has been removed her value does go down. In the same way as one operates in porn. The longer you are in it, and the more you have been used. Your price tags now become, devalued and the fantasy for many who purchase soon dissipates.
With every new girl led in this industry of the sex trade a star is born. The gossip and reviews begins; the talk of how good she is. What one forgets, is everyone individual experience maybe in fact different. It may either be a positive or a negative. Who knows until the fun is over?
In all this the one statement I hate the most is, “people do not care about my well being,” The second statement is,” They made me do it!”
The reality in both these statements is;” no one made you do it. You took the money and agreed to it.”
The only real victims in this is the perception of the illusion people allow themselves to be drawn into and then when the glimmer dissipates they cry out, “Poor me, they treated me so badly.”
Realistically, a victim is someone who is forced, raped, molested or victimized, which could lead to promiscuous behavior, drug addicted, co –depended on a male, manager or a pimp. However again, if they do not feel comfortable with the scene or scenario, their simple action would be to say, “No thanks!” I do not agree to this and leave without pay.
So in every action there is a cause and effect. There is, two sides or more too every side. The biggest piece of advice I can give to anyone is look at the facts, investigate the statement.
Also remember there is, victims on both sides of line, in the essence some; men and women will cry poverty; and hardship, being of ill treatment only to lure you into there spider web, con game and suck the money and life out of you.
After all there is nothing worse in life than a person holding a resent or feel like the world has done them wrong, nothing worst than a person scorned. You never know what they may do in retaliation for their perceived abuses.
What I do not like in all this is people lack the ability at times to look beyond the label of porn star, sex worker, and are unable to look at the person inside, as someone who laughs, loves art, enjoys music, has dreams, hopes, and passions, as well as a wants to be treated with respect, dignity, and empathy.
Someone asked me once,” How can you chat on boards like this one?” My answer was simple,” Because I am not prejudice. I look beyond the label, and envision the person within. Believe me in both sides of this sex trade there are some very nifty people to speak with, and I find them fun and interesting, as well as some dick heads but this can be expected to chat with.” Beside who’d accept me in the real world, I market and build adult orient web sites. No one really, like most I am labeled.
Once again I say, believe only half of what you read and half of what you see.....investigate the topic...draw your own conclusion.
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