Poor parenting skills

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Gentle Ben

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:eek: I was grocery shopping tonight, noticed a 8 or so yr old child in the aisle spraying the room fresheners and saying to her Mom, like this one? what about this one? etc etc... Mother didnt even acknowledge that what the kid was doing was remotely wrong (IMO), anyway, as coincidence would have it, they ended up in the cash line behind me, when I was checked out, started packing my groceries this brat of an 8 yr old kid started mauling my groceries, touching, poking , and anything else her little heart desired, I suggested to "Mom" that she should have better control over her kid, the reply was "For christsakes, shes only a kid, she's not hurting anything, maybe you need to get a life!" Teller looked over at me and was obvious she wanted to say something too.
Great way for Mom to reinforce that the kid is doing nothing wrong
 
Gentle Ben said:
:eek: I was grocery shopping tonight, noticed a 8 or so yr old child in the aisle spraying the room fresheners and saying to her Mom, like this one? what about this one? etc etc... Mother didnt even acknowledge that what the kid was doing was remotely wrong (IMO), anyway, as coincidence would have it, they ended up in the cash line behind me, when I was checked out, started packing my groceries this brat of an 8 yr old kid started mauling my groceries, touching, poking , and anything else her little heart desired, I suggested to "Mom" that she should have better control over her kid, the reply was "For christsakes, shes only a kid, she's not hurting anything, maybe you need to get a life!" Teller looked over at me and was obvious she wanted to say something too.
Great way for Mom to reinforce that the kid is doing nothing wrong
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Nothing worse than some stranger (male especially) telling a mom how to raise her kids. If you were so upset about all your plastic wrapped food being touched the proper way would be to "ask/tell the mother that you don't want your cart/groceries touched". This world is full of children, you were once too. No big harm done, I am sure you are exadurating. The mom was right; you should get a life.
 
Fabulous said:
Nothing worse than some stranger (male especially) telling a mom how to raise her kids. If you were so upset about all your plastic wrapped food being touched the proper way would be to "ask/tell the mother that you don't want your cart/groceries touched". This world is full of children, you were once too. No big harm done, I am sure you are exadurating. The mom was right; you should get a life.
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Don't judge to harshly,


Glass houses comes to mind in your case..:D





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Fabulous said:
If you were so upset about all your plastic wrapped food being touched the proper way would be to "ask/tell the mother that you don't want your cart/groceries touched".
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OK.......... I dont want my groceries touched "that way"

I want everything wrapped the proper way, and carted towards the proper direction.
 
LancsLad said:
Don't judge to harshly,
Glass houses comes to mind in your case..:D
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That's the problem people judging children too harshly. Gentle Ben run off his mouth in a second, but he doesn't know; the child could have some mental disabilty, or some other problem, or maybe the "mom" wasn't his mom. Whatever the case, he is a stranger to the "mom" and we don't take advice from strange men.

Lots of circumstances can be mistaken and as a society people should take better care before they open their mouths to parents.

When my kid was a baby, I stopped in front of Sears to pick up some baby photos and left my baby in the front/baby seat. As I was walking out of the car, some lady started yelling at me "you shouldn't leave your baby in the car alone" With tinted windows big mouth didn't know her daddy was in the back seat.
 
Fabulous said:
That's the problem people judging children too harshly. Gentle Ben run off his mouth in a second, but he doesn't know; the child could have some mental disabilty, or some other problem, or maybe the "mom" wasn't his mom. Whatever the case, he is a stranger to the "mom" and we don't take advice from strange men.
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I would presume the adult that was thought to be the mother was actually in charge of the child such that the presumption she was the mother is not to big a stretch. Still with me on this, if you want I'll slow down??

That being said any "mental disability" that the child may have is NO excuse to allow the child to bother the other patrons.

You are not the only parent on this board and I would hazard a guess that most would agree with me ( a parent) that it is bad form to let your child behave that way.
 
Gentle Ben said:
:eek: I suggested to "Mom" that she should have better control over her kid.
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A better way to have put it would have been to ask her to ask her kid to not touch your groceries.

Telling her to have 'better control over her kid' is rude and insulting.

You say something like that AFTER you've asked nicely and politely a couple of times first.

I have kids... and I don't let them touch other people's groceries or mess around with things that aren't ours... but having said that, it's impossible to watch their every movement 100% of the time.

Looking after kids isn't like driving a car where you have complete control (in theory anyway). You can't control their every movement.

Did your parents totally control you when you were growing up?
 
If an eight-year-old were to touch my groceries, I would "don't touch" loudly, and if the mother wants to make it an issue, so be it. I would say it to my kid if they touched someone elses', one thing my kids have learned is respect for other people and their property. I agree with Gentle Ben.
 
ladyofthenite said:
Anyone else have some tips that works on children? BTW C Dick I agree with you wholeheartedly, however sometimes parents are distracted, have their hands full, are in a daze from children wearing them down, or are simply exhausted from work and life. You know children, if they see a one second opening they snatch it! LOL I try to live by the general rule, if it was me how I would like to be dealt with or treated? I find it helps calm me down substantially when I feel the blood pressure starting to rise...Ok, well that and the treadmill I kick the crap of when I use it for an hour daily! LOL
Sandy
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I say we lock them all up and throw away they keys untill they are all grow up to be GRUMPY OLD MEN. That'll teach'em!
 
I have two small children who behave very well in public with lots of coaching from their parents.

A child of 8yrs of age should know better than to be touching a strangers things.

Perhaps Ben could have been a little nicer, but again perhaps it shouldnt have happend in the first place
 
chazz_matzz said:
A child of 8yrs of age should know better than to be touching a strangers things.

Perhaps Ben could have been a little nicer, but again perhaps it shouldnt have happend in the first place
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Just maybe the kid thought it was their food coming down the line. Big deal, I am sure the groceries didn't get damaged or diseased. IT HAPPEND now we have something to talk about. Gentle Ben should have called the cops :D maybe we could get the kid some mischief charges, or what about criminal harassment?
 
See, the difference between being a good parent and a bad one is shown by (notso) fabulous as a perfect example: she automatically makes excuses why the child CAN misbehave instead of saying, yes it is wrong for the child to be misbehaving. Yes, touching someone else's food IS misbehaving.....

As for the parent being worn out by "life/work/stress" that is BS. If you can't handle life, AND properly raise a child, then DON'T HAVE ONE.

How to stop kids from misbehaving in public? Teach them right from wrong and WRONG is touching someone else's food, and taking items off the shelf....

As for (notso) fabulous' last comment: that is typical of her, instead of addressing the problem, which is bad parenting skills, she comes out with yet another inane comment.

Yeah, fab, the world is a shitty place and thank god, most of the shit happens to you......least in your eyes. To everyone else, it is life, something to be dealt with and move on......I mean how do you live? Every second of every day it is nothing but one big tragedy after another....damn, you must have some good meds!

BTW: I don't know who gave you a presecrip to Tylenol 3 for GI pain, T3's are very hard on the GI tract...

To quote not so fabulous: ".......and left my baby in the front/baby seat." What year was the car? If it had front air bags you should be arrested for reckless child endangerment because if the front air bag went off, the child would be crushed....

Secondly: even I know that children shouldn't be put in the front seat of a car esepcially in a baby seat. The proper place is in the back seat ...christ, that is basic parenting.......
 
Sorry LOTN: no, a parent DOESN'T get any slack....do you think that simply saying "I work x number of hours a week so excuse me if I don't have the energy to be a proper parent" is no excuse. That's the problem in a nutshell. Instead of working 18 hrs a day she should be working 8 hrs a day and being a proper parent the rest of the time. If she can't afford to do it here in the most expensive city in Canada then she should move to where she CAN afford it. No one is forcing her to stay here.....

There is a value to being a proper parent and teaching your kids right from wrong is more important than money.

How can I say this? Both my parents worked when I was growing up and because of this, they taught me very early NOT to misbehave in public. I got away with it once with a scolding. Twice I got a smack in the ass....if I dared do it a third time? Hell, I couldn't sit down for a week....believe me...when we went out to a restaurant, grocery store or wherever, my brother and I sat quietly and did as we were TOLD.....
 
tboy said:
To quote not so fabulous: ".......and left my baby in the front/baby seat." What year was the car? If it had front air bags you should be arrested for reckless child endangerment because if the front air bag went off, the child would be crushed....

Secondly: even I know that children shouldn't be put in the front seat of a car esepcially in a baby seat. The proper place is in the back seat ...christ, that is basic parenting.......
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you are an idiot, from now on you too can argue with yourself AND LETS SEE IF YOU LEARNED ANYTHING: be quiet
 
Fabulous said:
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you are an idiot, from now on you too can argue with yourself AND LETS SEE IF YOU LEARNED ANYTHING: be quiet
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LOL well, it takes one to know one because even idiots know not to put a child in the front seat of a car!!!! (with or without air bags).....
 
how about you 2 short dick racist childless baldies pick up the terb drunk E and have a 3 some or something, time for you guys to get laid

or maybe you can take your kids back to store where you bought them from
 
well the better way to handle it would have been to ask the mother to stop the child from poking at the groceries.. if the mother gives you attitude then let out a big fart.. and say ..ahhh yes your opinion means the world to me.. getting the clerk to run things in and then asking her/him to remove one item.. oh i ment this item please add this one.. take this one out.. what is my total? oh i am sorry i can't take this one.. the child poked a hole in it .. please take this one out... ok.. what is the total? oh.. do you take cheques?.. oh.. i pay debit... oh i for got my number sorry.. i will pay cash then... oh i don't have enouf..please take this item off... oh not enuff.. take this one out also... sorry.. my mistake... i for got my wallet... o.k. i remember my pin number.. please add all my items back.. oh i am sorry i have an appointment can't stay.. got too go.. i don't want anything..sorry...then leave all the items at the regester and go shop somewhere elce...
 
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