I think most of us have been there. I told the lady that I was starting to like her too much verging on love. I took a couple of months off, saw some other girls, got some perspective and we are now "sweet friends" but at the bottom line I still pay for the sex.
Poll - Best course of action if you fall for an SP
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We're always paying for it, dude, one way or another. This is just more open and honest, imo.doug51 said:
My SO actually started to do the math... "we've had sex x number of times over the years, and it's cost you x... I'm the highest paid prostitute out there"
House, cars, jewellry, meals, vacations, etc.
It depends on what you are afraid of. If you do not try for love, you are less likely to find it. If you like her, and you tell so, then what is the risk? If she rejects you, you are no worse off than if you had walked away. If you are tough enough to take it. But if it turns out that she likes you, then it can be really good. If dating a provider would upset you, don't do it.
I have had strong, romantic feelings for four women in my life, and two are providers. If I had not met them and told them that I liked them, my life would be emptier than it is.
I have had strong, romantic feelings for four women in my life, and two are providers. If I had not met them and told them that I liked them, my life would be emptier than it is.
nothing ventured, nothing gained.
if you are falling for someone, you might as well try your luck.
i say tell her.
the worst thing that could happen is she decides to not see you again. life goes on.
but continuing to see her and letting your feelings bottle up will never be satisfying for you, truly. so really, you have little to lose. not telling her isn't going to lead to happiness. risking telling her just might.
romances can and do happen
good luck hun...
if you are falling for someone, you might as well try your luck.
i say tell her.
the worst thing that could happen is she decides to not see you again. life goes on.
but continuing to see her and letting your feelings bottle up will never be satisfying for you, truly. so really, you have little to lose. not telling her isn't going to lead to happiness. risking telling her just might.
romances can and do happen
good luck hun...
Just stay far far away, or esle you will have more pains later!
Just remember that SP's have double personalities, and the personality which earns her monies will always over-rule her original personality.
SP's loves variety in their lives, so dont be a fool to tag along with them or start seeing any future with them with you! Always remember one proverb in your mind before getting closer to an SP "Once Bitten, Twice Shy" if you follow this principle, you will be a happier man in your life, never repeate the first mistake you made by being a friend to a SP- not worth at all+ beware of females in this industry who are 420 friendly they are more harmful!
Just remember that SP's have double personalities, and the personality which earns her monies will always over-rule her original personality.
SP's loves variety in their lives, so dont be a fool to tag along with them or start seeing any future with them with you! Always remember one proverb in your mind before getting closer to an SP "Once Bitten, Twice Shy" if you follow this principle, you will be a happier man in your life, never repeate the first mistake you made by being a friend to a SP- not worth at all+ beware of females in this industry who are 420 friendly they are more harmful!
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i once told a regular i like him and no longer see him as client. there was no $$ involve after i tell him that. we would see each other few time each month and this continue for more then 1 year. one of biggest mistake i made was have affair while trap in bad marriage. i had find out thing about husband like him talk online to other people and thing going online. i live in denial about this and looking for emotional conect. thing was good until husband find out and threat him. we still see each other and then month later i get email saying he cant do this anymore cause im marry! dump by email. coward way to get out of something. yeah it hurt but i think it was best thing that happen.i had left both relationship and move on. i later find out he was with new person few month later and i had feeling he see someone else while i see him but to involve in my own problem to see it. he was escape for me at time. maybe he date other people and the husband find out excuse was easy way to get out. i thought i want to be with him back then and he said same thing. i had care about and would have left marriage and escort for him but future to uncertin. i look back and it would have probably fail anyway. there was age difference of 15 year. he was nice guy and did have good quality in him that i look for. he move on to with new life and got marry.
i long move on and one day former client call me 5 year later when he saw i leave business. foolish me i meet him for drink and he tell me the reason he call is cause his new wife stay at her ex bf house overnight cause she was drunk and he figure he would do same thing as she did. any respect or warm feeling i had for him was gone at this moment. even after i stop see him i never hate him cause it was best thing and now it all came back and i was angry. angry that i did get involve, angry that i was probably use and angry at myself. i could use excuse that i was young and naive but i think i learn from this experience. maybe he just see it as free sex or good thing until he find who he really want to be with no bagage. and he did very soon after this. i finally come to grip and realize affair from 5+ year ago was huge mistake!! i never thought about it to much until this moment. i had figure relationship end, move on cause he not coming back.
i will regret it forever cause even though marriage was already bad for me affair made it worse. my husband at time forgive me and i forgive him for mistake he make. i went on with life and glad i did cause ive done so many good thing later on. i now look at thing differently and realize to get involve with client is big mistake no matter how good it seem to be. think about how it can mess up your life esp if you married and look to have affair. just run away.
i once told a regular i like him and no longer see him as client. there was no $$ involve after i tell him that. we would see each other few time each month and this continue for more then 1 year. one of biggest mistake i made was have affair while trap in bad marriage. i had find out thing about husband like him talk online to other people and thing going online. i live in denial about this and looking for emotional conect. thing was good until husband find out and threat him. we still see each other and then month later i get email saying he cant do this anymore cause im marry! dump by email. coward way to get out of something. yeah it hurt but i think it was best thing that happen.i had left both relationship and move on. i later find out he was with new person few month later and i had feeling he see someone else while i see him but to involve in my own problem to see it. he was escape for me at time. maybe he date other people and the husband find out excuse was easy way to get out. i thought i want to be with him back then and he said same thing. i had care about and would have left marriage and escort for him but future to uncertin. i look back and it would have probably fail anyway. there was age difference of 15 year. he was nice guy and did have good quality in him that i look for. he move on to with new life and got marry.
i long move on and one day former client call me 5 year later when he saw i leave business. foolish me i meet him for drink and he tell me the reason he call is cause his new wife stay at her ex bf house overnight cause she was drunk and he figure he would do same thing as she did. any respect or warm feeling i had for him was gone at this moment. even after i stop see him i never hate him cause it was best thing and now it all came back and i was angry. angry that i did get involve, angry that i was probably use and angry at myself. i could use excuse that i was young and naive but i think i learn from this experience. maybe he just see it as free sex or good thing until he find who he really want to be with no bagage. and he did very soon after this. i finally come to grip and realize affair from 5+ year ago was huge mistake!! i never thought about it to much until this moment. i had figure relationship end, move on cause he not coming back.
i will regret it forever cause even though marriage was already bad for me affair made it worse. my husband at time forgive me and i forgive him for mistake he make. i went on with life and glad i did cause ive done so many good thing later on. i now look at thing differently and realize to get involve with client is big mistake no matter how good it seem to be. think about how it can mess up your life esp if you married and look to have affair. just run away.
Sorry to hear of your hardships in relationships Ashley. I just hope you do not lock out something that could be possibly good because of experiences. You never know if something good could come along. Even if it is just short term. Everyone has to live for the moment. Also look for the good times you had in your relationships and do not dwel merely on the bad. I find so many people often do that and curse ex's constantly and stop looking at the good that became of those relationships. ie... I for one am thankful that I had my two beautiful sons from my ex husband and there is no way in life I would have wanted to miss out on that experience.
With all the negative things I could say about him at least I know he would stand by them as well. Maybe not finacially but I do believe he would take a bullet for them. I also know with all the bad things I could say about the father of my last baby as well there is many more good things I could say about him. He really does care for all people deep down and would give his last dollar to anyone he believed needed it believing that if you do good to others that things come around. I am sure if you look deep enough you can find the good in your ex relations too. I believe there is something good in everyone. Do not close your heart as love/caring comes in many ways.
As much as where I stand right now just wanting to raise my kids and putting men on the back burner to devote myself to my children. IF I believed a man could be good to me and my children I want to have my eyes wide open and not let is pass me by. But, for now I am happy and content in where I am.
With all the negative things I could say about him at least I know he would stand by them as well. Maybe not finacially but I do believe he would take a bullet for them. I also know with all the bad things I could say about the father of my last baby as well there is many more good things I could say about him. He really does care for all people deep down and would give his last dollar to anyone he believed needed it believing that if you do good to others that things come around. I am sure if you look deep enough you can find the good in your ex relations too. I believe there is something good in everyone. Do not close your heart as love/caring comes in many ways.
As much as where I stand right now just wanting to raise my kids and putting men on the back burner to devote myself to my children. IF I believed a man could be good to me and my children I want to have my eyes wide open and not let is pass me by. But, for now I am happy and content in where I am.
You're right Maya - I can't believe how many peole are voting to just walk away. You never know what can happenMiss Maya Blue said:nothing ventured, nothing gained.
if you are falling for someone, you might as well try your luck.
i say tell her.
the worst thing that could happen is she decides to not see you again. life goes on.
but continuing to see her and letting your feelings bottle up will never be satisfying for you, truly. so really, you have little to lose. not telling her isn't going to lead to happiness. risking telling her just might.
romances can and do happen
For the most part we are looking down on them because they fuck us for money, so how can we respect them? Yes it's fraught with peril.doug51 said:
You know there are stranger things that have happened. If Croats and Serbs can get together and happily make babies in the middle of a genocidal Croat vs. Serb war, if Israeli Jews can fall in love with Palestinian Arabs, and if Indian Hindus can live happily ever after with Pakistani Muslims, well then, the odd customer and the odd SP can defy the odds too.
The OP's chances of this working out are near zero, but not zero. It has happened before and it will happen again.
Where's the harm in him asking her out? If it doesn't work out there are lots of other SP's he can visit in this city, and lots of other customers for her. So long as he doesn't become a stalker and she doesn't become a scammer I see his chances are low but really also nothing to lose in asking.
In fact I can see some good in it: If she's really got into his head and he's thinking about her all the time--well making a move and getting shot down might allow him to move on (or live happily ever after).
So I say go for it, just brace yourself for rejection.
Just be aware that the industry is predicated on "paid-for-fantasy-fulfilment" which is just a nice way to say "a lie"... so there is lot of chance for your obsession to go horribly wrong.
HOWEVER, if you're careful and the object of your desire is actually an honest person who doesn't want to exploit you beyond your normal you-exploit-me-I'll-exploit-you sessions, you might have a torrid affair or some nice dinners or just make a lasting friendship. But you CANNOT go back to the way it was. Just ask yourself whether in the grand scheme it might be just better to continue paying and having a good time.
Personally I say go for it, but go in with your eyes open.
I Fall In Love Too Easily
Words & Music by Sammy Cahn & Jule Styne
Recorded by Frank Sinatra, 1946; from the movie "Anchors Aweigh," 1945
There are those who can leave love or take it,
Love to them is just what they make it.
I wish that I were the same;
But love is my fav'rite game.
I fall in love too easily,
I fall in love too fast,
I fall in love too terribly hard
For love to ever last.
My heart should be well-schooled,
'Cause I've been fooled in the past;
And still I fall in love too easily,
I fall in love too fast
HOWEVER, if you're careful and the object of your desire is actually an honest person who doesn't want to exploit you beyond your normal you-exploit-me-I'll-exploit-you sessions, you might have a torrid affair or some nice dinners or just make a lasting friendship. But you CANNOT go back to the way it was. Just ask yourself whether in the grand scheme it might be just better to continue paying and having a good time.
Personally I say go for it, but go in with your eyes open.
I Fall In Love Too Easily
Words & Music by Sammy Cahn & Jule Styne
Recorded by Frank Sinatra, 1946; from the movie "Anchors Aweigh," 1945
There are those who can leave love or take it,
Love to them is just what they make it.
I wish that I were the same;
But love is my fav'rite game.
I fall in love too easily,
I fall in love too fast,
I fall in love too terribly hard
For love to ever last.
My heart should be well-schooled,
'Cause I've been fooled in the past;
And still I fall in love too easily,
I fall in love too fast
Sad, really isn't it? So, much for really treating them with respect. Because if that is the case than it is obvious it is forgotten that we really are humans with feelings and emotions just like everyone else. I have read oft enough here too that sp's are greedy for money. Lest we forget that some sp's only do it to keep food on the table and to make a living like some men do day to day in thier daily lives too. Maybe there is sp's out there that would use men and I have read of such cases of sp's soaking men out of thier last dime. But, that is not always the case. The same as there is I am sure men that would rob an sp or cheat an sp too. IMHO neither is very nice. Nobody really knows any given persons situation, reasons or personality. So, really the old and wise saying should stand. Judge nobody till you have walked two moons in his shoes/moccasins.fuji said:
Thank-you for your word of inspiration Jade. i let go of both past relationship and thought i had forgive and forget until he contact me again. thought it would be alright but it put salt on old wound. this time i am wait to look for mr right and have become more selfish person now and take care of myself-alot ! before i was selfless and did all thing for other people. i just come to believe to keep business as it is and find relationship outside of being escort. too difficult to have one as escort.Jade4u said:
The reality is that there is probably about the same amout of scumbag hobbiests as there is sp's, maybe more, sp's get bashed for being gold diggers, probably because this is a male dominated board, we rarely hear the other side, but there is just as many hobbiests who befriend sp's for the wrong reasons, ie. the hope of free pussy.
I read a popular girl on here say once that she became friends with a few members, only to find out their only intention was to get free pussy. I think it's a fun hobby but leave your feelings in the elevator and pick them back up a half hour later, for the 2 sog guys, an hour.
I read a popular girl on here say once that she became friends with a few members, only to find out their only intention was to get free pussy. I think it's a fun hobby but leave your feelings in the elevator and pick them back up a half hour later, for the 2 sog guys, an hour.
Lots of girls say the same thing, guys getting close to get free stuff. My ATF and I are very close friends and sometimes this can become so special it is better than romantic love that has a future its just that everybody knows it is terminal, I am almost twice her age and married. Honestly if I were single and 30 I would do anything to persuade her to hook up with me permanently. We have worked out a kind of special relationship. I call her my "sweet friend.", She calls me her "favourite man" everybody is happy-for now. I see other girls so we are on an even basis. It works for me.
I think that is the key to a happy relationship with a provider, that is more than just sex for money, and more than just guy pretending to like her to get free sex. The key being to be open minded and flexible, to find a plan that works for you both, and not be constrained by conventional relationship expectations. It is not like plain sex for money, it is not like marrying your high school sweetheart and living happily ever after, but it can be rewarding and pleasant for both of you, if you get it right.Mrbig1949 said:
I have to disagree with fuji's line "For the most part we are looking down on them because they fuck us for money". There aren't too many people I look down upon and SP's are definitively NOT in that category.
I actually look up to some sp's because they:
1) Don't suck on the public tit for support, they do what they have to to earn a living.
2) They have bigger balls than most men (and that includes ones on this board) to be able to go into a stranger's house, fuck him silly, make him think he's a sex god, even though he's uglier than a football after a pack of putbulls have been at it. How many men can honestly say they could do that?
3) The overwelming majority are intelligent, sensitive and amazing women.
4) There are few women I don't always show respect to, and simply being an sp is NO reason NOT to respect them.....
5) How can any guy rationalize looking down on an sp for what she does, without looking down on himself at the same time? His actions are NO different than hers.......
I actually look up to some sp's because they:
1) Don't suck on the public tit for support, they do what they have to to earn a living.
2) They have bigger balls than most men (and that includes ones on this board) to be able to go into a stranger's house, fuck him silly, make him think he's a sex god, even though he's uglier than a football after a pack of putbulls have been at it. How many men can honestly say they could do that?
3) The overwelming majority are intelligent, sensitive and amazing women.
4) There are few women I don't always show respect to, and simply being an sp is NO reason NOT to respect them.....
5) How can any guy rationalize looking down on an sp for what she does, without looking down on himself at the same time? His actions are NO different than hers.......
