People that are late for everything ...is my pet peeve

[Claudia Love]

I have a friend who i dearly love however making plans with her is tricky sometimes shes 10 minutes late to hour late to even forgetting she made plans. Now at first when she did this to me many times I was ready to tell her to take a hike but one day i said to our mutual friends i said i love her but dammit this girl is always late. Then they said shes never on time for them either. So to you people out there that lose track of time and dont consider other peoples time ...what is it that you think this will accomplish ....i can understand once in awhile but chronically late i think IMO iis poor management skills. Am i being to harsh about this or does it pee you off with chronic late comers?

 

[Ponderling]

I would consider setting up events with your tardy pal and a few others who are on time.
Wait for her for like 5 minutes, then proceed without her.
With others, the event will still proceed, and if she catches up, fine.
If she misses it all together, well maybe she learns a bit.

Back in uni one summer, all laying around at the beach, dinner approaching, so chat whats to do after dinner.

One guy with a truck, Will says 'We will be at student lot X beside campus to head out at 8 to head to the drive in, ok. Got lots of "fines'
I show up at 7:50 with my truck.8 pm just me and him. We lock and leave his truck and take mine and enjoy Ghostbusters.

Get back to a pub about 11:30 that night, meet with a bunch of beach pals all pissed. We SAID we will head out at 8, and WE did.

 

[jcpro]

You love her, she doesn't give a fuck about you. Constantly disrespecting someone's time is a sign of indifference. Few are late for the things that matter to them.

 

[xix]

Late
- probably ANGRY at someone of an event that happen to her in the past and this is her outlet to be late - only a good can of whoop ass( TALK ) or mention above will help.
- Chronic late, born this way, will never change.
- Chronic late probably anxiety to socialize and will be tardy most times. "Ponderling" idea might work.

 

[Captain Bly]

I have the early gene, drives my SO mad!

 

[curvluvr]

I had a friend who did that all the time, and he never really apologizes for being late.
One day he needed to meet me for something that was far more important to him than to me. Once 10 minutes passed the meeting time, I just left. I left him to catch up with me later. It didn't solve problems, but at least I went on my way.

These people have no respect for your time. If they don't respect your time, they simply don't deserve your respect.
But if they really are your friend, you just simply have to learn to work around them without wasting your own time.

No, you are not being harsh.

 

[massman]

I have a friend who i dearly love however making plans with her is tricky sometimes shes 10 minutes late to hour late to even forgetting she made plans. Now at first when she did this to me many times I was ready to tell her to take a hike but one day i said to our mutual friends i said i love her but dammit this girl is always late. Then they said shes never on time for them either. So to you people out there that lose track of time and dont consider other peoples time ...what is it that you think this will accomplish ....i can understand once in awhile but chronically late i think IMO iis poor management skills. Am i being to harsh about this or does it pee you off with chronic late comers?

I can imagine how frustrating this is. Have you talked to her? Sounds like you are close friends, and simply talking about this issue that bothers you and impacts your friendship could improve things.
I don’t buy the assertion that people who are habitually late don’t give a shit or are self centred. Some people just suck at time management, or overcommit to please everyone. I once used to see an escort that was always late, like minimum 30 min. I figured out why. One day she said “sorry, I was out at place x when you called and needed to get a cab back to my place” I knew that there was no way she could get from place x back home in the time between my call and our arranged time. From then on, I just routinely showed up 30 min late, and everything worked out great! Lol

 

[oral.com]

I have a friend who i dearly love however making plans with her is tricky sometimes shes 10 minutes late to hour late to even forgetting she made plans. Now at first when she did this to me many times I was ready to tell her to take a hike but one day i said to our mutual friends i said i love her but dammit this girl is always late. Then they said shes never on time for them either. So to you people out there that lose track of time and dont consider other peoples time ...what is it that you think this will accomplish ....i can understand once in awhile but chronically late i think IMO iis poor management skills. Am i being to harsh about this or does it pee you off with chronic late comers?

OMG I think I’m married to her!

 

[y2kmark]

I have a friend who i dearly love however making plans with her is tricky sometimes shes 10 minutes late to hour late to even forgetting she made plans. Now at first when she did this to me many times I was ready to tell her to take a hike but one day i said to our mutual friends i said i love her but dammit this girl is always late. Then they said shes never on time for them either. So to you people out there that lose track of time and dont consider other peoples time ...what is it that you think this will accomplish ....i can understand once in awhile but chronically late i think IMO iis poor management skills. Am i being to harsh about this or does it pee you off with chronic late comers?

From your story it doesn't appear there are many consequences for being late. Let her keep getting away with it and she'll never change....

 

[poker]

"....But I have a friend who's never up by 10.00
He's fast asleep with mouth open wide
He's lost a lot of jobs, but he's won a lot of friends
And he says to me, he cannot tell the time"...

"...And he'll blame his clock
Or he'll say he's lost his socks
And they'll tell you that he's been bitten by a snake
His excuses are an art
From the bottom of his heart
And he thinks of them whenever he awakes"

 

[shack]

I don’t buy the assertion that people who are habitually late don’t give a shit or are self centred. Some people just suck at time management,

If you told someone to meet you by a certain time so you could give them $10M, do you think that they would be late?

Hell no. Because that would be important enough for them to make sure that they were on time.

Someone who is chronically late does not feel that it is important to not keep people waiting. No such thing as poor time management. It is what somebody decides to prioritize.