Overall, how happy are you with your life?
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It's a good but loaded question. I think a lot depends not only on financial concerns but age & if a wife and kids are in the mix. Took some time but I'm finally in a position where I'm in the 7/8 category.
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So right now.
I have a roof over my head within a few years of being paid off, enough good food with variety to sustain myself and loved ones. No one is dropping bombs on me, loading me into a truck and handing me a rifle, trying to ethnicly clense me, rape me, or enslave me. I have gainful employment with the options and ability to change it. I live under good laws that protect me and a Constitution that sustains them as best as possible to be fair. I own a passport that is well respected that allows me travel pretty much everywhere in the world. And I have a good family, social structure and supports to sustain me in times of need, and the ability to reciprocate that as well.
You can't put a number on that shit. I'm in the 1% of this world. And understand that.
Oh, and I get to occasionally fuck hot chicks for fun with minimal effort. The rest is just fucking gravy.
I have a roof over my head within a few years of being paid off, enough good food with variety to sustain myself and loved ones. No one is dropping bombs on me, loading me into a truck and handing me a rifle, trying to ethnicly clense me, rape me, or enslave me. I have gainful employment with the options and ability to change it. I live under good laws that protect me and a Constitution that sustains them as best as possible to be fair. I own a passport that is well respected that allows me travel pretty much everywhere in the world. And I have a good family, social structure and supports to sustain me in times of need, and the ability to reciprocate that as well.
You can't put a number on that shit. I'm in the 1% of this world. And understand that.
Oh, and I get to occasionally fuck hot chicks for fun with minimal effort. The rest is just fucking gravy.
That is where I am at. I’ll be a little higher in a fews years when I can fully retire.
Doing well.
Wife is retired.
I am down to working three days a week by my choice in my job.
I have to work hard to use up all of my accrued vacation every year.
I have 4 months of time banked with company for past overtime work I have not chosen to be paid for yet.
Kid 1 still at home has a steady long term girl friend and may be moving in with her soon. He is working part time but hard to get more hours in a unionized food retail environment.
Kid 2 is working in a food prep company having almost got a year in after graduating high school, and is doing ok.
House was paid off 10 years ago.
I ran a report on spending just a day ago to see where money comes and goes.
Last 12 months saw us spend 70K on living and 15K on a long overdue covid delayed couple of weeks cruise ship vacation we like to take every three years or so.
In same period wages brought in 97k, and investment income and dividends that to date are reinvested paid 107K.
All in my household are in good health.
My mom who lives in a long term care home is in failing health.
But when you get to 92 you expect a few things don't quite work right any more.
As to prowling, my wife is ok with my occasional yen to head out and take in a night at the peelers.
Some times we go together.
So it does not get much better, I guess.
Wife is retired.
I am down to working three days a week by my choice in my job.
I have to work hard to use up all of my accrued vacation every year.
I have 4 months of time banked with company for past overtime work I have not chosen to be paid for yet.
Kid 1 still at home has a steady long term girl friend and may be moving in with her soon. He is working part time but hard to get more hours in a unionized food retail environment.
Kid 2 is working in a food prep company having almost got a year in after graduating high school, and is doing ok.
House was paid off 10 years ago.
I ran a report on spending just a day ago to see where money comes and goes.
Last 12 months saw us spend 70K on living and 15K on a long overdue covid delayed couple of weeks cruise ship vacation we like to take every three years or so.
In same period wages brought in 97k, and investment income and dividends that to date are reinvested paid 107K.
All in my household are in good health.
My mom who lives in a long term care home is in failing health.
But when you get to 92 you expect a few things don't quite work right any more.
As to prowling, my wife is ok with my occasional yen to head out and take in a night at the peelers.
Some times we go together.
So it does not get much better, I guess.
Hard to say. Some aspect are good, some aspects are not so good due to struggles with mental health over the years which has had a major impact on where I am today. An outsider would think I’ve got it made, nothing to worry about, but there’s a lot more to it. Suppose I’m lucky to have a good job and good income, and healthy family.
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I’ve lived a very comfortable life to this point. I had a “beaver cleaver” childhood. I’ve had a lot of good fortune just fall on my lap. Things generally have gone my way. I have a big family and a small yet close group of friends. My health had been good (fingers crossed) but I’ve worked hard to stay healthy. I’ve been fortunate enough to travel extensively. I have an above average income and spend my summers at my cottage. Life has blessed me but I still find a way to dwell on the negatives at times. Maybe because I don’t believe I deserve this life. I’m just very fortunate. One day I’ll figure it all out. Until then, I’m going try to enjoy the life I’ve been blessed with. Like some guy in the 80’s said. “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it”.
Funny you should mention it but it has come to my attention more and more how much the life I made for myself sucks big black elephant dick. Things that I had swept under the carpet. Humiliation. Failure. Nastiness that I had somehow managed to completely erase from my conscious memory have returned with a vengeance the closer I get to the end. The whole futile journey punctuated with starbursts of anguished embarrassment haunt me on the surface now more and more.
life for me is pretty good overall. but as i near retirement, maybe 4-6 years away I'm getting stressed about it. I run my own business and it's been a horrible year. So as I should be trying to just relax more, I'm finding myself worried more about finances than I have ever before. I'm in a great spot, with main home paid off, cottage with a manageable mortgage and also a few spaces that I use for work, also paid off. but for some reason I have become very depressed and have a hard time just enjoying what I have. I don't have a lot of liquid cash, but I have real estate that is worth a lot. so i stress about cash flow mostly. I'm having a few health issues, also manageable, but it makes you question where you are in life. I've started with a therapist for someone to talk to, and it's helping. But I should be in one of the happiest times of my life. Marriage is ok, working through a few things. i get to hobby once in awhile, but for some reason I can't seem to just be happy.
Obviously, everybody is different, but I think it is very common for us to worry about things more and more as we get older. Part of it is because we have experience, we've seen more things and realize that pitfalls can and do happen and we stress the possibilities of what may be to come. It's sort of like the wisdom of our years bites us in the ass.
Good on you for getting some therapy.
I was unhappily happy a few years ago. I found that life was a little boring. I felt I had accomplished most of what I wanted out of life and I just kinda fell stagnant in life.
I felt the same. I should be the happiest person around.
It took finding some new hobbies and “rejigging” this hobby a bit and things fell into place better.
Open cash flow is always a stressor. I’m lucky this business affords me a better handle on generating straight cash. (Banked and taxes and all that shit of course)
Good on you for getting mental help. It will do wonders.
My life is fantastic and absolutely could not be better in any way shape or form.
So why the fuck am I willing to throw it all away and die lonely & alone by going to SP/MPs. Fuck me, I'm stupid.
So why the fuck am I willing to throw it all away and die lonely & alone by going to SP/MPs. Fuck me, I'm stupid.
