lava works - as long as you stick to the "Casual Encounters" section. The dating/relationship section is filled with women who are looking for Mr. Perfection. In the casual section, women are simply looking for a guy they feel comfortable around, so if there is chemistry, they can partake in some good, healthy sex! And the nice thing is these ladies aren't looking for you to wine and dine them...maybe to a bar for a couple of drinks, then back to her/your place. If you are confident, average looks or better, and don;t come across as some kind of a perv, you'll connect. I've used the system on and off for a bunch of yrs, and just about all of the women I've met over the years are still willing to "get together" even if you only call them once a year. One woman I met about 5 years ago, she lives in San Fran,(she was working in T.O that summer that we got together) and althounow we only email once every few months, she invited me down over the Xmas holidays, and I went, she showed me around town, it was fun. Point is, the women I've met on lava are real people, who are genuinely interested in building a "connection" with a guy and are reluctant to let it end even if your contact with them diminishes over time.