Next door girl

[xix]

Oh well

After 5 years, the chick next door is moving. To where? I have no idea nor do I care, I think.
Never got past saying "hi" to her nor did I want too although opportunity presented it self several times.

Funny I only saw her a couple of time with guys that didn't last long, 2 weeks with the second one. There seems to be a history with the first guy but that is a 10 page story which I won't get involved.

Sure she wasn't so hot maybe a 6 or 7 depending on the weather or season. She tried working out several times for a year each time but she couldn't control her shape or fell to the sugar temptation. In the last several years no guys ever showed up at her place, heck not even woman at all. Comeone woman do have plenty of girlfriends right? Yeah I did try to figure out her sexuality but I just decide to belive instead of discovering it.

The question you all are probably asking is: "why didn't you go for it if she seemed easy?"
Well she reminded me of one of my aunt's. That I really don't care about, they both seem to have the same characterisitc, body shape and big shyness. I didn't want to follow in the family footsteps. It would just be to weird for me.

Besides it is not her it is me, I am just not into relationships, more of a voyeur which seems not to leave me at all. Hence why I am here and I am sure most are here for the same reason right? I had a feeling she was into relationships so I didn't want to "ruin" her or "screw her life up" or "waste her time". Hey at least I was consideret and a gentleman. I am more into F-buddy's. See the movie " 40 year old virgin" it is explained there.

Funny she seems to have a strong voice, at time she sounded weak. Mind you she had plenty of opportunites herself to approach me but she didn't. Well I will miss her way of dressing or otherwise looking at a tweety when I would leave for work and at odd times on the weekend when we both got to our cars at the same time. It wasn't planned it just happend, this happens to me so often, even in parking malls. Funny we lived in different buidlings next to each other an all we said was hi while our cars were parked almost next to each other; a double park driveway. I wasn't stalking her I am just a good observer and analytical this always happens to me. I called a few friends letting them now that she is moving. They were interested in her but I had a policy for friends " don't pee in my neighbourhood" I didn't want them dumping a girl after a good time then she would probably take it out on me. I just hate irrelevant arguements.

Funny one of the guys says he is close to figure out how to access the patrol unit computers to access their network system and he likes to call up a few license plates up. I am sure he'll go after 12's and not 6's she would probably be in 30th of his list to look up.


Funny it seems the girls in that unit get more friendly before they move away. I can feel it in the air when they do this, because I belive ( actually not believe but a feeling like the force) they want a helping hand in moving.


Oh well, the only thing I can look forward to is the next girl that is going to move into that unit. Believe it or not I don't know how the landlord does it but he seems to always get a woman under 35 or so in that unit. Personally I think he is doing withcraft to get semi-hot woman in there. And yes I will only look at the next girl and not get involved.


Oh well, the moral of the story: I am off the SJ.

 

[ackack]

Ok. The moral of the story? What is SJ?

Hopefully the next girl is 19, looks and acts like Anna Kournikova and is all over you.

 

[xix]

what is?

Ok. The moral of the story? What is SJ?

Hopefully the next girl is 19, looks and acts like Anna Kournikova and is all over you.

Well SJ = SC. Strip joint or stip club are the same right?
Of course I may have missed the memo that we switched from SJ to SC.

 

[xix]

heart attack

...time to both consider and type all of this, along with all the observations you made over time, leads me to think you and her probably aren't all that different.

I had to give myself CPR. It is a good thing I took the course on self-CPR.

THe same not really, you know all woman have more stuff/things/objects/furniture than man do. She was a stay at home on a saturday night and I was out. Even hair colours was different sure opposites attract but I am still a voyeur.

Now to look for my next trip... downhill skiing in Chile in June. If not what ever comes to me.

 

[Svend]

I wouldn't call you a stalker either.
Do you think your interest was noticed by her? If so, she probably has a few thoughts of your situation that would be similar to yours.
Your friend that checks out license numbers, he seems creepier to me - I hope he doesn't act further on this.

 

[great bear]

The girl in question is Svend's sister. That's who the second guy was. Hope you noticed that Svend did not offer to help her move.

 

[frankcastle]

Sounds like you spent too much time just thinking about her and watching her. Next time there's a neighbout that you are interested just try and start a conversation and go from there. I realize that's easier said than done in some cases but it'll save you from writing a post lamenting about the moving of a neighbour that you got to know mainly through observations from a distance.

If you weren't interested in her then why invest so much time thinking about her and writing this post. It almost sounds like you came up with a whole list of excuses as to why you didn't ask her out.

Based on what I'm reading I think you did like her but were afraid of rejection so you came up with all these reasons why not to ask her out. I mean come on if you didn't want to ruin her, you could just be a gentleman why does dating someone have to be disasterous, isn't it up to you to help determine the outcome? And if she reminds you of an aunt that you don't like then why the long post?

But if your point was more about who's moving in next why not just say something like..... "My neighbour is moving, hopefully an available hottie moves in."

I wouldn't say you're a stalker but being in the same place by coincidence often and analyzing her moves/guests/voice/personality etc is getting dangerously close.

As for being a voyeur, that's a little disturbing to me. It sounds like you're a little disconnected from women socially. And spend a little too much time at home watching the neighbour, I mean you must be watching enough to know the comings and goings of guests. I live in a condo and I hear people visiting my neighbours but I don't bother to look through the peephole to see who it is, how often the visit and consider the sexuality of my neighbours.

On another front your cop friend is sick and blatantly abusing his position of power looking up addresses based on licence plates. Man if he's gotta resort to getting their vital stats that way he's never going to have a chance.

I'm sorry I didn't mean this to come out as being so critical but I think you should spend a little more time looking at yourself because you sound like someone who's close to the edge. And the behaviours described in your thread don't sound healthy.

 

[Svend]

DFWS - Disconnected From Women Socially
Another abbreviation that probably describes many TERB members, the industry is fueled by us.

 

[frankcastle]

LOL. Svend.

But the thing is that being disconnected is a choice in a way, this is why I took so much time in responding to xix's post.

I mean if one is socially awkward, they can go out and spend time with people. Of course its hard at first but it gets easier, its an acquired skill. I mean I remember feeling weird about clubs and bars when I turned 19 now I'm okay with them. Also, creating opportunities to interact with other people is a choice, of course you aren't going to meet any women at home, usually. I mean we can make as many excuses as to why we don't have time for women but none of them are good excuses.

Don't like your body or appearance.... work out, eat right, get some new clothes, get a hair cut.

Don't have time because of work..... make time, it may mean missing out on some sleep but I think getting out and being with people especially friends is worth it. If it isn't then are these quality friends?

Don't have a chance to meet new people.... join a club, make the effort to approach people, try dating services, network with friends, have a party and ask your friends to all bring a friend.

Don't feel marketable... take a class, learn a skill boost your confidence.

Don't feel she's your type.... how do you know? Maybe she's not a blonde, that's superficial. Maybe she's too tall or a bit heavier than you'd like. But maybe she loves Hockey Night in Canada, PS2, nachoes and recieving facials.... just kidding. The point is I think a lot of people don't give strangers a chance. Many have a checklist in mind and maybe that list is unfair or the person doesn't meet the checklist point for point but brings something else to the table that you hadn't thought of.

The bottomline is that when you look around there will always be a less attractive guy out there who is dating and having a good time, why because they have put the effort in. Anyone can do it.

Yeah all of us here enjoy SCs, MPs, and SPs but I think its important to remember that a hobby is something you choose to do, if you have to do it that's work.

 

[frankcastle]

I think there are a good number of people out there myself included that have been guilty of letting life pass us by. For myself I've come the afforementioned realizations and try my best to put myself out there to meet women. Will she be as physically attractive as the most popular dancers, MPAs or SPs. Probably not, but how many of us can say that about our SOs?

 

[xix]

Thanks

I wouldn't call you a stalker either.
Do you think your interest was noticed by her? If so, she probably has a few thoughts of your situation that would be similar to yours.
Your friend that checks out license numbers, he seems creepier to me - I hope he doesn't act further on this.

Well thanks Svend and Frankcastle for your excellent character development and observation. I will try to answer a few things here.

About the friend he is a dreamer and not a cop. I am still waiting for him to hack the DOD " Department of Dumbasses" as we say in the group. We discussed that the police may have some security built in their hardware.

Well frankcastle when you have guys drop in and see the woman in my area they know I don't want to move because of their silly willies or small heads. When they come they see dofferent people but she had been here the longest in the area compared to the senior citizens. She tried making a few moves on my pals but they are like us. Voyeur I used the term loosely to describe that we are not into relationships just one night stand and terb. ( Well I am they are not, nor have I told them, I know their opions about our hobby)

Since they see her once in a while they always asked me if she's got a man. Well just from observation she didn't. It was a good drama for us. since we only like to watch comedy movies and go out.

Disconnected from people is good for me trust me. I grew up in a family where they (family members and children involved) party till dawn. So pretty much I was a party conneseur by my teens. It's like this if you have KFC almost 3 times a week, by the time you are 19 you don't want anything to do with KFC.

Don't feel she's your type.... how do you know? Maybe she's not a blonde, that's superficial. Maybe she's too tall or a bit heavier than you'd like. But maybe she loves Hockey Night in Canada, PS2, nachoes and recieving facials.... just kidding. The point is I think a lot of people don't give strangers a chance. Many have a checklist in mind and maybe that list is unfair or the person doesn't meet the checklist point for point but brings something else to the table that you hadn't thought of.

Yes this interesting and I will try to get back in the dating scene next year.

My most important point is this. I didn't want to have a relationship with her because if it didn't work out between us , one of us had to move and I wasn't going to. I live close to all that I need and I hate to commute.

Thanks guys for you inputs. I just hope the next girl is hot for our drama to continue.

 

[frankcastle]

Hey xix,

You're the best judge of yourself since the rest of us here only have one post to go on. So I was merely expressing my concerns from what I was seeing in the post.

Now why would you hope the next girl is a hottie? I mean if you screw it up then one of you would have to move right? So wouldn't it be better if someone you weren't interested moved in so that wouldn't be a concern?

Anyways, it just sounds like all the excuses are to prevent you from taking the risk of dating. And in my opinion that fear usually has to do with the person coming up with the excuses.

But at the end of the day what do I know I'm just some idiot with internet access who likes to give unsolicited advice. LOL.

 

[ruck]

DFWS - Disconnected From Women Socially
Another abbreviation that probably describes many TERB members, the industry is fueled by us.

Speak for yourself. Plenty of guys, including me, don't have any problems associating with women outside of the hobby. It's never healthy to paint everyone with the same brush, nor is it fair.
Cheers.

 

[frankcastle]

svend said "many" not all and I think he was joking.

 

[Svend]

I'll stick with "many", but I'll correct myself and say DSWF should be called an acronym instead of an abbreviation.
I'd say most have no problems associating with women and have been in relationships.
I can relate with xix, not acting on pursuing women and rationalizing to myself why I didn't. I knew the problem and the solution, it just took a long time to build a bit of self esteem and take some control over my life instead of just being an onlooker.
If you want to be more of a participant, there is help out there from people that understand.