New into escorts, tried few times, I'm confused, look for tips and suggestions.

[holypeixada]

About me: 30 year old guy with no connections in Ottawa. I'm in Canada for 2 years, so I'm not sure how things here work. I'm also incredibly shy and awkward towards women.

• I tried one of the massage (Angels Touch). It was a decent good time, but in the end I paid 160 for massage + HJ. The lady and place were nice, I could suck her tits and touch her ass, but that was it.
• Then I tried on verified indie escort on Leolist, with really good pics. Paid the HH, went on her condo, she gave me a condom BJ for 5 min and said "that is the end of the sexual service, you can stay there for the rest of duration if you like". She was fully clothed the whole time.

I really don't know the etiquete for it. How should I behave, how should I ask? I feel that the whole industry feels like a shaddy shit/scam (which is not the case obviously, I just don't know how to use it). I have so many questions. How you guys do it? You openly text each other explicitly about the sexual services (like I would like to fuck after a small BJ) ? The price announced in leolist is the actual price or they expect you to pay more for actual sex?

Maybe this stuff isn't even for me. But I'm just curious about how it works. And finally, someone can suggest me a good escort/place for beginners? I just want to get laid once a few months.

I read many of the "beginners guide for escorts", but still feel stupid about it. Sorry for another stupid clueless topic, but any help is welcome. If I'm posting in the wrong place, let me know.

Edit: I meant "looking" on the title. I'm dumb.

 

[asuran]

For a beginner with SPs I would suggest you start with agencies.
Mirage would be a good place to start.

Though all providers are different, agency girls usually get the run down what is required etc.

Also when meeting the providers just let them know you're new at this and would like her to take lead and show you the ropes.
If you don't tell them, both of you will be 2nd guessing what eachother and the session will be a dud.

Communication is important!

Goodluck and have fun

 

[Franz27]

Go with Allegra girls. I’ve seen many and all are true GFE.

 

[Gntlmn]

If there was a formula to it we'd all be following it but there isn't. Because we're all different and the providers are different and some providers are (not) professionals and some of us clients are (not) jerks. But, like others have said, try agencies.

 

[holypeixada]

I was reading here, and I always thought that these services were legal in Canada. Turns out it is not really, it is actually a clusterfuck of rules. Legal to sell and illegal to buy, WTF?

That explains why shit is so shady and enigmatic.

 

[Taraparker]

Also when meeting the providers just let them know you're new at this and would like her to take lead and show you the ropes.
If you don't tell them, both of you will be 2nd guessing what eachother and the session will be a dud.

Communication is important!

Goodluck and have fun

For the best outcome you must tell the SP you’re new during the inquiry. We can normally tell when you come in anyway so don’t try and act like you’re not new because also trust is a big ingredient for a great session. If the lady you choose is professional she’ll be super patient and non judgemental.

 

[blackfield]

@dato-please

I agree with your comment except for listing the OIC girls.

 

[hoffa68]

@dato-please

I agree with your comment except for listing the OIC girls.

Why would you not agree?

 

[MikeO]

IMHO....While some of the OIC ladies can be relatively pricey (minimum time bookings, etc.), my experience is that they are a gateway to reliability in booking efficiency, timeliness, presentation, hygiene and demonstrable affection. Also, they share information about maintaining standards of safety (while some do offer BBBJ, DATY, DATO, and other delights). Also, they are having the likes of workshops to develop greater skills in eroticism....and there is a variety of providers for sure. Therefore, a great option for newbies.

 

[blackfield]

@MikeO

Pricing isn’t the issue, actually. The issue is that they aren’t comfortable with bringing in a very new customer. Even if you pass the screening process, it’s not a guarantee that they will see you. Also, I have found a few of the OIC girls lacking in manners and they have cancelled a number of appointments on me in the past.

 

[Taraparker]

@MikeO

Pricing isn’t the issue, actually. The issue is that they aren’t comfortable with bringing in a very new customer. Even if you pass the screening process, it’s not a guarantee that they will see you. Also, I have found a few of the OIC girls lacking in manners and they have cancelled a number of appointments on me in the past.

You’re generalizing. I’m a member of the OIC and my ad literally states that I’m good with newbies and shy people. I’m sorry you’ve been canceled on by some ladies but sometimes people get sick or something happens beyond their control in life, this issue is not exclusive to the OIC. As for screening every girl has their own method, some are strict some have none. We are all independent with our own unique personalities and standards. Again I’m sorry you had a few bad experiences with cancelations and manners but please don’t spread misinformation. Anyway I hope that cleared things up.

 

[Theredmilf]

@MikeO

Pricing isn’t the issue, actually. The issue is that they aren’t comfortable with bringing in a very new customer. Even if you pass the screening process, it’s not a guarantee that they will see you. Also, I have found a few of the OIC girls lacking in manners and they have cancelled a number of appointments on me in the past.

I'm a member of the OIC & at least 1/4 of my clients are newbies. I would think that's true of many in our collective. Unless texting from an App my screening is very minimal. I find many experienced providers rely more on our intuition anyways over hard & fast screening rules. I can count on one hard the number of times I've cancelled on a client and in those cases went out of my way to apologize & try to make up for it. As far as rudeness goes, my rule is earnest & respectful inquiries deserve a respectful response. However, I make no apologies for not putting up with rudeness & patently contemptuous inquiries. I would think all people feel the same about that regardless of the context.

I'm not sure about this particular person's experience but if you're hitting blanks with a spectrum of completely independent providers all with different screening, business models & approaches, then the common denominator is you. I would go back and take a look at the feedback you were given about why they couldn't take you.

Good luck and please consider visiting a professional independent who takes pride in their business & service.

Kisses
Ruby

 

[blackfield]

As far as rudeness goes, my rule is earnest & respectful inquiries deserve a respectful response. However, I make no apologies for not putting up with rudeness & patently contemptuous inquiries. I would think all people feel the same about that regardless of the context.

I'm not sure about this particular person's experience but if you're hitting blanks with a spectrum of completely independent providers all with different screening, business models & approaches, then the common denominator is you. I would go back and take a look at the feedback you were given about why they couldn't take you.

I can assure you that I am not rude to the few ladies from your collective that I've inquired about getting together with. I believe in asking honest questions to make sure there's no drama going forward.

 

[Theredmilf]

I can assure you that I am not rude to the few ladies from your collective that I've inquired about getting together with. I believe in asking honest questions to make sure there's no drama going forward.

There are 40+ members of the OIC and growing, we are the core group of serious independent professionals in the city so your comments stating we're not a good source for companionship is a little odd. If you're saying you had a bad experience with a few, it also seems that, like Tara said, your generalizing from some small anecdotes. I also note that you made a stellar review for at least one of our members, so that kinda contracts the comments you made above.

I have no idea what exactly occurred but I do believe that if you're regularly hitting roadblocks with a diversity of independents with different policies, it's more likely that you've done something to create that dynamic. And in fairness it seems you used to be a regular & very happy customer.

For newbies the OIC is actually an ideal group of providers for all the reasons MikeO mentioned above. We are all independent professionals who sincerely care about what we do, we promote safety & diversity, better standards for clients & providers, access to safe clean incalls, we offer duos, referrals to good clients, and can recommend other excellent providers who might offer what you're looking for.

Have fun everyone & play safe Xxoo.

 

[VIPMcpherson]

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[*]Then I tried on verified indie escort on Leolist, with really good pics. Paid the HH, went on her condo, she gave me a condom BJ for 5 min and said "that is the end of the sexual service, you can stay there for the rest of duration if you like". She was fully clothed the whole time.
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Edit: I meant "looking" on the title. I'm dumb.

I am sorry about your bad experience, it's a learning curve.
Here is the thing with Leo List, whilst there are some genuine providers on there, but finding them on there can be like a needle in a hay stack. If you want to use LeoList as a search source follow though with extra research. Is that girl found on twitter or any other site. If the answer is No then you are taking a gamble. If you can find them on other sites and they have a twitter then then are a companion who is concerned with their brand and providing a good service. All verified on Leolist means is that they provided a selfie with the word Leolist.

I have no idea how much you spent on a half hour, but I also want to point out that if you choose someone super cheap which LeoList is known for the chance of you getting a decent service is really slim. Leolist unfortunately didn't stick with their promise to be an affordable advertising site. I actually posted to my twitter yesterday that for a 7 hour ad in Toronto LeoList is charging $180. I want to break that down for you. If you pick a girl who charges $70 half hour she has to see 3 clients just to pay for the ad. Another 2 just to pay for an average hotel. That's 5 bookings just to cover the days working expenses before making profit. To make $350 profit for the day she has to see 10 customers.

Everyone is different, but for me personally only accept 3-4 hour bookings a day or one longer engagement.
I have used LeoList in the past. I don't use it often as it's the same for me. Finding a good client on their is like finding a diamond in the rough. It works both ways.
But you will also find me on Twitter with 7000 followers, You will find me on OIC, you will find me on Montreal Indy Companion, you will find me on Eurogirl, girl directory, escort directory.

If you do your due diligence, you will not have a problem and will have a great time.

 

[boomboom]

About me: 30 year old guy with no connections in Ottawa. I'm in Canada for 2 years, so I'm not sure how things here work. I'm also incredibly shy and awkward towards women.

• I tried one of the massage (Angels Touch). It was a decent good time, but in the end I paid 160 for massage + HJ. The lady and place were nice, I could suck her tits and touch her ass, but that was it.
• Then I tried on verified indie escort on Leolist, with really good pics. Paid the HH, went on her condo, she gave me a condom BJ for 5 min and said "that is the end of the sexual service, you can stay there for the rest of duration if you like". She was fully clothed the whole time.

I really don't know the etiquete for it. How should I behave, how should I ask? I feel that the whole industry feels like a shaddy shit/scam (which is not the case obviously, I just don't know how to use it). I have so many questions. How you guys do it? You openly text each other explicitly about the sexual services (like I would like to fuck after a small BJ) ? The price announced in leolist is the actual price or they expect you to pay more for actual sex?

Maybe this stuff isn't even for me. But I'm just curious about how it works. And finally, someone can suggest me a good escort/place for beginners? I just want to get laid once a few months.

I read many of the "beginners guide for escorts", but still feel stupid about it. Sorry for another stupid clueless topic, but any help is welcome. If I'm posting in the wrong place, let me know.

Edit: I meant "looking" on the title. I'm dumb.

as a newbie
IMO
search TERB for ladies & agencies that advt on TERB 1st. You logged into TERB for a reason, so use it to learn, research & share
look at reviews of them & depending on what you are looking for, you will find someone to spend quality time with. Does the SP interact on the board both in reviews or other posts.
Look at the reviewer as well. Have they been on terb for a while or new, are the reviews informative, one sided only, either all good or all bad. Some ladies prefer no reviews, which makes it tough to decide if your visit will be ok or not.
Personally, stay away from someone who only advt only on Leolist with no reviews or advt at likes to party.
If the lady uses Twitter, look at her posts & feeds to get a feel for her. You can tell quickly or at least I can from that as well

Boom