New girl. Advice?

[sunshinegirl89]

(Hey please delete or move if this belongs in the "advertising" section, very sorry if that's the case!)

Hey everyone! I live in the Peterborough area and I'm interested in starting...
I'm 25 (26 this Aug. and I could easily lie about being much younger if I wanted), very petite (105lbs, 5"3) and incredibly sexually energetic.

I have no tattoos, piercings (except ears), brunette (with some highlights) 32 D, 24, 33. I've never tried drugs, don't smoke and keep really active and fit. I'm a personal instructor in a certain field of exercise locally, but I've never done anything like this and have wanted to take this plunge for awhile. I'm not sure where to go because I'd rather not publicly advertise as I'm only interested in seeing a few suitable regulars. I would be outcall only, at least for now.

So my question is where should I search for this kind of arrangement if I don't want to show my face everywhere or date too many men? I know about Sugar Daddy arrangements, and I would much rather an older man. They seem odd to me, I'm not trying to pretend it's not what is

Any help would be appreciated, thanks guys!

 

[LuckyPants]

There's a few sites you could try for Sugar Daddy type of relationships but you will at some point have to provide a face pic and some body pics. "SeekingArrangements" come to mind. I currently have an arrangement with a local SP...somewhat of a Sugar baby arrangement but not exclusive. It works for both of us. Typically, Sugar Baby arrangements tend to be exclusive but not always. In either case, it's not an easy thing to find a good match. As far as this site is concerned, it may be a good starting point to meet a few gentlemen but I doubt any would jump in directly into the SugarBaby state without seeing you a few times first. To get to that trust status takes time. If you've never done this before, might be worth talking to another girl in the business to get a sense of what to expect.
You can always try to advertise and try to be selective but keep in mind, you will have to provide at least some kind of body pics. They don't have to be nude but will need to show shape and size.
By the way your comment about older men is confusing...It seems you are saying you rather see older men but then say they seem odd to you. Which is it?

 

[sunshinegirl89]

Thanks for the reply! I definitely have no problem showing pics after talking to someone, I'm just a little nervous about being recognized to be honest. Sorry if my original message was confusing, I meant I want to provide services with a small number of clients, and prefer older men. I meant that I would find a Sugar Daddy arrangement really odd because of how indirect it seems.

 

[thumper18474]

Unless you have something distinctive that would give you away I dont see an issue advertising
however if it is an issue then i would suggest advertising out of you area for now...many of us will travel to visit someone but if outcalls are only on the horizon for now Then advertise as such you may have to travel but some would even spend the time to go to you and rent a hotel room.
Another suggestion would be to tour..
Travel to somewhere in GTA..and advertise in that area..
Downtown..Markham..Barrie..mississauga...and so on..
There has to be some kind of pics available...if you dont have tats or odd piercings then a boob shot,bum shot shouldnt be a problem...Most Hobbyist tend to be gun shy going to see an unknown but with no pics available you will really limit yourself to even those few who are willing to TOFTT....JMHO

 

[LuckyPants]

Thanks for the reply! I definitely have no problem showing pics after talking to someone, I'm just a little nervous about being recognized to be honest. Sorry if my original message was confusing, I meant I want to provide services with a small number of clients, and prefer older men. I meant that I would find a Sugar Daddy arrangement really odd because of how indirect it seems.

You can easily take pics these days where your face is obscured enough that it would be difficult for someone to recognize you: although not my preference but you could cut off the head. If you have unique tattoos, photoshop them out. As for being recognized, although it may not be practical for you, you may want to consider working outside of Peterborough if that's where you live or work. Also lowers the chances a customer might show up that you actually know. Men will not provide pics unless you are on a site like Seekingarrangements. Certainly on this site, men will not.
If you want to work as an SP, being new may make it difficult to be selective but it's possible. Word of mouth does work as do reviews here but be aware, men can be cruelly honest. There is a certain level of expectation that if not met, may make it difficult for you.

As for the Sugar Daddy thing...it can actually be easier for you to handle as it's more personal and what you end up doing on dates is not always about sexual performance where as, being an SP, it's nearly always about that.

Again....you might want to connect with other SP's to get a feeling of what to expect. Sometimes some of the retired SP's may be more willing to provide advice as the working Sp's may not want the extra competition.

 

[sunshinegirl89]

Good point! (About the tattoos and piercings) I'm sure I wouldn't be recognized. It's just a little overwhelming to throw myself out there like that. I'm looking for super discreet so it seems strange I guess lol

I can totally understand why they would be nervous.. I've been researching this for awhile and most ads appear to be scams or cam girls.... Researching.. Very sexy. I'm off to great start!

 

[sunshinegirl89]

I don't know, I'm kind of not worried about it? Not to sound cocky, but I teach fitness for a living and as I said, I've seen a lot of the ads on here.. Super photo shop and most of the reviews say the girl is nothing like the photo. I don't see the point in being dishonest like that, it would be awkward as hell when meeting.

 

[JohnHenry]

Work with an agency for a year.

 

[peter4025]

Work with an agency would be a solution . Another choice would bE to advertise here. You have the option to send pictures privately with your face blurred. The only problem I can see is the are. I think you should expand your working area. Maybe go o Toronto or Otawa for a day or two.

 

[Mozo]

Hey Sunshine, you've become popular very quickly. Please clear your PM's

 

[sunshinegirl89]

Agency...Definitely not my scene! Thanks tho

 

[dirkd101]

There's a lot of good advice to be had sunshine, a seasoned ladies advice is what you really need.

As far as pics go, without them, your dead in the water. With today's phones and selfies being de rigueur, snap a few tasteful, yet tantalizing pics that don't show anything that can be recognized. You've probably done this many times, so nothing new.

The outcall thing can be a bit of an issue for most potential customers. It tacks on a 100-150 bone tag onto any session, which can keep good potential customers from you.

PM me as I have further advice in this area regarding outcall/incall.

Cheers Dirk

 

[butch878]

I suggest you think it over again... you did'nt post any reason aside from taking this in a plunge. Whatever it may be - I suggest you look at the other forums around here and see if this is the right one for you. Good luck.

 

[SinnamonFairbanks]

If you are looking to see a few people to help you out, you're better off sticking to seekingarrangements.com You'll have no idea how often the people you are seeing will come back. Some come once or twice a week, some come frequently then dissapear for a month or two, some do it once a month and others seldom do it. Charge what you feel comfortable with and never do BBFS. You'll get tons of offers, but don't do it! Don't even do it once! My friend and I both get an absurd amounts of requests for that stuff. It might be unique to my area though. There might have been a woman offering that service here at some point. People will harass you and will stalk you online. Do not use your personal phone number or email and make sure none of it can link you to your personal life or your family. Don't answer private numbers, sometime s you have to blacklist people and they think they're smart and can get around that by calling from a private #. It's hard to keep track of them too, since there is no # associated with the person calling. Sometimes it can create confusion and double booking. I personally don't answer them anymore because someone was calling me 10-15 times a day and yelling obscene things at me.... also, there's this handicap guy that keeps calling me. lol. I've done a lot of shitty things in my life.... but I can't do that. lol

*Take the money first (guys will short you money and act like it was an accident, this happens especially with guys that want to negotiate and you won't negotiate)
*Fetish guys are pretty loyal. If you can accommodate Fetishes, you're set. It can be pretty fun sometimes.
*Don't do anything that make you uncomfortable or makes you feel unsafe.

 

[SinnamonFairbanks]

Also, don't let people tell you you're not worth your asking price. These guys want you to lower your price to the lowest possible amount and will talk to you like garbage to get you to do it. They will go with the woman with the cheapest price. These guys don't have money. They might be ok when you are first starting out, but you'll quickly figure out that it's not in your best interest to keep meeting with them. They want you to go out of your way for them for next to nothing. They will always be asking for a discount and asking for freebies. They are too needy and demanding. They want you to bend over backwards for them and once you raise your rates they'll move onto someone else. Some of them think they have some kind of special relationship with you... and it gets weird.

Don't meet with anyone that doesn't talk to you with respect. You'll get some pretty disgusting inquiries, they'll talk to you like shit. Don't see them no matter what they offer you.

 

[sunshinegirl89]

Hey Sinnamon, just wanted to say thank you so much for taking the time to share that advice with me, you're amazing.

I completely agree with everything you've mentioned, I'm being incredibly careful about who I'm responding to... "Arrangement" is definitely more my style so I'm not responding to hourly requests. Have you seen the pimps lurking on here? Gross. I'll send you a friend request and maybe we can chat more. Seriously thanks, again.

 

[SinnamonFairbanks]

Anytime. It helps to have friends that escort. I don't know what I would do without my friend. It would be pretty lonely. Sometimes we just joke about what happened that day and it doesn't seem all that terrible anymore. If I'm going through something, she usually is too. It helps to have support. I gave her a lot of advice when she first started too so if you want to email me or text me, feel free. I'll try to answer your question and if I can't I'll figure it out or find someone who knows. Lol