More of an advice question

[Carfan]

Many ladies on LL do not post rates and do not have websites. How do you respectfully inquire?

I figure that "Hi I like your ad. Can you tell me what your rates are?" might be a little too direct. On the other hand many complain about "time wasters"

I normally go to MA's where things are more apparent or stick to SP's with established;ished websites.

Thx

 

[Tipsyalt]

I usually use something along the line of
"Good [insert time of day], my name's ___. I'm intersted in potentially booking a session. What session lengths do you offer, and what are your rates for them? Thank you"

Also, some providers put a template on their ad for clinets to use, read the ad carefully to see if there is one.

 

[Frank Gravey]

I think you're both on the right track. Reference the Leo connection, thank them for visiting (in my case the back water of Ktown), then a generally inquiry about rates and what they are comfortable providing in the way of services. I think the time wasting concerns come from text inquiries for info that the SP has already included in the ad. I too would be pissed if I had to deal with that all day long.

 

[neverknow]

I agree that "how much?" is a little crass. I usually ask "what are the donations for your time?"

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[OttawaDude6969]

Checking for compatibility by asking and confirming politely for service, restrictions and rates. Make sure you introduce yourself and thank her.

Time from both parties are important so move on if the replies are not what you're looking for. Don't forget to thank her again.

 

[DoctorMuon]

Many ladies on LL do not post rates and do not have websites. How do you respectfully inquire?

I figure that "Hi I like your ad. Can you tell me what your rates are?" might be a little too direct. On the other hand many complain about "time wasters"

I normally go to MA's where things are more apparent or stick to SP's with established;ished websites.

Thx

No that's completely fine, "what are your rates?" That's right to the point, no one has complained about being asked that question before. You're overthinking it.

 

[bloodless]

keep it breif and to the point.
they get tons of messages asking the same questions.
they don't need lots of flowery dialog.
just get to the point without being rude.

 

[Nesbot]

keep it breif and to the point.
they get tons of messages asking the same questions.
they don't need lots of flowery dialog.
just get to the point without being rude.

I agree with this. The gentlemanly introductions usually piss most of them off. Keep it direct if you can.

 

[Male4Strapon]

keep it breif and to the point.
they get tons of messages asking the same questions.
they don't need lots of flowery dialog.
just get to the point without being rude.

I agree with this. The gentlemanly introductions usually piss most of them off. Keep it direct if you can.

Agreed. I usually just tell them I would like to see them for a half-hour (or whatever time), what is the cost for their time?
You want to be subtle but not too subtle. She knows what you're asking so don't twist yourself into a knot trying to ask. You're booking an appointment, not proposing marriage.

 

[asuran]

Here's a sample from another thread/ad:
TEXTING TIPS!
Example 1: ”Hi, my name is John, I’d like to see (companion) at (time) for (duration), is she available?”
Example 2: "Hi, my name is Alex, who’s available at the Airport at (time) for (duration)?"

https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/749580/

Both examples kept it short and professional.
It's for an agency but you can see the components of the text:
Greeting + intro + question. And it's kept super short.

In your case I'd go from your example of
"Hi I like your ad. Can you tell me what your rates are?"
to
"Hi, this is (hobby name), I'm looking for a (duration) meeting for (time/date). What are your rates?"

 

[terbie2020]

I would just say a polite hello and ask for their availability for such hour(s)/day. If you show the interest before you even going the services/rates, I found that it usually puts most of the girls at ease.

 

[Peterbcan]

I never ask for rates. They're ALWAYS eager to tell you right away cause they're trying to see if your worth their time or cut the chit chat. Besides, the less questions from me as far as I'm concerned, the better. Not likely I'm being set up, but I still keep my questions at a minimum.
"Hi, I'm xxx in Ottawa, saw you LL, I hope week can spend some time together and are you available?"
I realize it's still intent, but.....technically, I didn't ask about a financial transaction. She brought it up... and I never respond to the money amount. I also never ask about her services... again they're anxious to bring up.
Less from me, the better.
Maybe I'm completely wrong... but as far as I know the girl can sell sex, I'm not allowed to buy it. So, I keep my questions vague.
Hope this makes sense.

 

[westcityside]

I never ask for rates. They're ALWAYS eager to tell you right away cause they're trying to see if your worth their time or cut the chit chat. Besides, the less questions from me as far as I'm concerned, the better. Not likely I'm being set up, but I still keep my questions at a minimum.
"Hi, I'm xxx in Ottawa, saw you LL, I hope week can spend some time together and are you available?"
I realize it's still intent, but.....technically, I didn't ask about a financial transaction. She brought it up... and I never respond to the money amount. I also never ask about her services... again they're anxious to bring up.
Less from me, the better.
Maybe I'm completely wrong... but as far as I know the girl can sell sex, I'm not allowed to buy it. So, I keep my questions vague.
Hope this makes sense.

First of all, get a number from the text free app to call and text from. Secondly, I have yet to hear of anyone getting busted for setting up an appointment via phone or text. Yes, when there was street action, people got caught for soliciting undercover cops, but this is Canada, cops dont set you up for arranging to meet a SW over text or phone. As for communicating, "Hi, saw your ad, you look beautiful what are your rates, restrictions and do you do (whatever it is that you particularly like)."

 

[Mandalorian]

Hey babe, love your pics. Can you let me know your approximate location, availabilities and rates?

 

[DoctorMuon]

"Hi, I saw your ad, are you available today? If so, can you tell me about your rates and services?"

Then if they respond, then you can go ahead and ask more specific questions.

 

[elkober]

I never ask for rates. They're ALWAYS eager to tell you right away cause they're trying to see if your worth their time or cut the chit chat. Besides, the less questions from me as far as I'm concerned, the better. Not likely I'm being set up, but I still keep my questions at a minimum.
"Hi, I'm xxx in Ottawa, saw you LL, I hope week can spend some time together and are you available?"
I realize it's still intent, but.....technically, I didn't ask about a financial transaction. She brought it up... and I never respond to the money amount. I also never ask about her services... again they're anxious to bring up.
Less from me, the better.
Maybe I'm completely wrong... but as far as I know the girl can sell sex, I'm not allowed to buy it. So, I keep my questions vague.
Hope this makes sense.

I totally agree with this. Virtually every contact I’ve had which began with a simple “Hi, saw your ad and would like to meet you. Can you let me know your availability?”, and I invariably get an automatic response providing, without me asking, when available, exact location, services provided and rates for various durations. Easy Peasy. I’ll even go as far to say that not getting this kind of a response, vague answers or beating around the bush (pun unintended), is a red flag.

 

[Riverrunner28]

Many ladies have a copy and paste detail of what they are going to reply with anyway. The people that reply with an original response is very refreshing and is much more of a personal touch, which also may predict a better time together.

If the price is way too high, a simple "With all respect intended, I apologize but that is out of my possibility at that donation, sorry for wasting your time ". And it ends friendly every time. Also, when they do text back like $400 per hour or something like that, and I respond with not being able to meet at that rate, sometimes they are bored or things are slow or something and they reply with a lower donation. Then it is hard to say no, when they have met you in the middle.

 

[Nesbot]

Many ladies have a copy and paste detail of what they are going to reply with anyway. The people that reply with an original response is very refreshing and is much more of a personal touch, which also may predict a better time together.

If the price is way too high, a simple "With all respect intended, I apologize but that is out of my possibility at that donation, sorry for wasting your time ". And it ends friendly every time. Also, when they do text back like $400 per hour or something like that, and I respond with not being able to meet at that rate, sometimes they are bored or things are slow or something and they reply with a lower donation. Then it is hard to say no, when they have met you in the middle.

Interesting. I never considered responding that way. I always assumed I was out of luck. I love posts like this that help me learn. By answering the way you did the ball is entirely in her court. Conversation can end amicably. Or she can still make money if she so chooses.