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Tasha Henderson got tired of her 14-year-old daughter's poor grades, her chronic lateness to class and her talking back to her teachers, so she decided to teach the girl a lesson.

She made Coretha stand at a busy Oklahoma City intersection Nov. 4 with a cardboard sign that read: "I don't do my homework and I act up in school, so my parents are preparing me for my future. Will work for food."

"This may not work. I'm not a professional," said Henderson, a 34- year-old mother of three. "But I felt I owed it to my child to at least try."

In fact, Henderson has seen a turnaround in her daughter's behavior in the past week and a half. But the punishment prompted letters and calls to talk radio from people either praising the woman or blasting her for publicly humiliating her daughter.

"The parents of that girl need more education than she does if they can't see that the worst scenario in this case is to kill their daughter psychologically," Suzanne Ball said in a letter to The Oklahoman.

Marvin Lyle, 52, said in an interview: "I don't see anything wrong with it. I see the other extreme where parents don't care what the kids do, and at least she wants to help her kid."

Coretha has been getting C's and D's as a freshman at Edmond Memorial High in this well-to-do Oklahoma City suburb. Edmond Memorial is considered one of the top high schools in the state in academics.

While Henderson stood next to her daughter at the intersection, a passing motorist called police with a report of psychological abuse, and an Oklahoma City police officer took a report. Mother and daughter were asked to leave after about an hour, and no citation was issued. But the report was forwarded to the state Department of Human Services.

"There wasn't any criminal act involved that the officer could see that would require any criminal investigation," Master Sgt. Charles Phillips said. "DHS may follow up."

DHS spokesman Doug Doe would not comment on whether an investigation was opened, but suggested such a case would probably not be a high priority.

Tasha Henderson said her daughter's attendance has been perfect and her behavior has been better since the incident.

Coretha, a soft-spoken girl, acknowledged the punishment was humiliating but said it got her attention. "I won't talk back," she said quietly, hanging her head.

She already has been forced by her parents to give up basketball and track because of slipping grades, and said she hopes to improve in school so she can play next year.

Donald Wertlieb, a professor of child development at the Eliot-Pearson Department of Child Development at Tufts University, warned that such punishment could do extreme emotional damage. He said rewarding positive behavior is more effective.

"The trick is to catch them being good," he said. "It sounds like this mother has not had a chance to catch her child being good or is so upset over seeing her be bad, that's where the focus is."
 

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people have no right telling a parent how to raise their children. Unless it violates a law, than the police has to step in.
if it worked and got the girl on the straight and narrow, more power to her. Sure beats spending thousand of $$$ on some shrink, that doesn't have kids on his own...

I did something similar to my oldest son, and so far it works. I am keeping my fingers crossed.
What is more damaging a few hours of humiliation and a reality check on life..or a lifetime of being an underachiever and loser?

i know what my choice is.
 

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langeweile said:
I did something similar to my oldest son, and so far it works.

Did you fart in your cupped hand and cover his face with cupped hand afterwards...so he knows the smell of the molecules inside your ass
 

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langeweile said:
people have no right telling a parent how to raise their children. Unless it violates a law, than the police has to step in.
if it worked and got the girl on the straight and narrow, more power to her. Sure beats spending thousand of $$$ on some shrink, that doesn't have kids on his own...

I did something similar to my oldest son, and so far it works. I am keeping my fingers crossed.
What is more damaging a few hours of humiliation and a reality check on life..or a lifetime of being an underachiever and loser?

i know what my choice is.

Well put !!!!!!!!
 

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langeweile said:
I did something similar to my oldest son, and so far it works. I am keeping my fingers crossed.
What is more damaging a few hours of humiliation and a reality check on life..or a lifetime of being an underachiever and loser?

i know what my choice is.

You can humiliate somebody of a certain age but lets see if it works when the person is 19 .
They might play along with you to stop being humiliated but I think it's a poor way of raisnig a child.
 

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booboobear said:
You can humiliate somebody of a certain age but lets see if it works when the person is 19 .
They might play along with you to stop being humiliated but I think it's a poor way of raisnig a child.
I am not sure if humiliating is the right choice of words here. There is nothing wrong giving a child past a certain age a reality check.
The fact is that if she/he doesn't apply herself she might end up at a street corner begging.
 

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booboobear said:
You can humiliate somebody of a certain age but lets see if it works when the person is 19 .
They might play along with you to stop being humiliated but I think it's a poor way of raisnig a child.
You are right; it has been known for a long time, that fear and humiliation are poor motivators when training/educating animals and people. That is why it is not used by animal trainers. If parents would just get the message.
 

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Do you have kids?
Yes I do, and for your information they are much better human beings than their dad and they are doing great.
 

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booboobear said:
That's a poor answer , having kids doesn't require intelligence.
That is not the point of this question.
We parents are always getting good advice from non-parents. Until you have raised a child you have no idea what you talking about..sorry.

You can't compare or explain the emotional stress and hardship of raising children. Neither can you write books about or give advice if you never had any.
Parents do the best they can. Mostly using learn behaviour, confusing stupid books, advise from parents etc..etc..
Once a plan meets reality it changes in a hurry. I feel for that woman. it takes a lot of soul searching, desperation and love to take such a drastic step.
We on the outside looking in, should be careful to judge her.

And no two kids are alike. each one of them requires a different approach.
 

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danmand said:
Yes I do, and for your information they are much better human beings than their dad and they are doing great.

Congratulations I envy you. Really I mean it. I hope one day I will be able to say the same.
For me it's a daily struggle and they are still to young to determine if they become what I hope thay become...


Did they keep you away from them...LOL...:D
 

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langeweile said:
That is not the point of this question.
We parents are always getting good advice from non-parents. Until you have raised a child you have no idea what you talking about..sorry.
Lang, if the requirement to offer an opinion on a subject is that you have to have experience in the particular situation then GOD help you every time you post here because you're NOT taken your own advice.

Being a parent gives you a different perspective. It doesn't automatically make you an expert on it!

Parenting is supposed to be hard in this day and age Lang. And no I don't have children.
 

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I applaude the mother. Not enough people want to take responsibility for their kids actions. As for the emotional damage, puhlease, a day of shame or a lifetime if mediocrity.

I think kids get off too easy, a few more smacks and a good kick in the ass would wake these little fuckers up.
 

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Cardinal Fang said:
Lang, if the requirement to offer an opinion on a subject is that you have to have experience in the particular situation then GOD help you every time you post here because you're NOT taken your own advice.
You are missing the point on this..go and read as to how this post had developed

Being a parent gives you a different perspective. It doesn't automatically make you an expert on it!
No disagreement here

Parenting is supposed to be hard in this day and age Lang. And no I don't have children.
it is hardest job in the world....I have three of them.....
 

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langeweile said:
You are missing the point on this..go and read as to how this post had developed
NO! You missed it so much I wonder if you were actually ducking.

I say again. Anyone can offer anyone else an opinion on parenting. It doesn’t make it any less justified because if you don't have children. This would be like telling a man he has no right to an opinion about abortion because he can’t carry a child. It's just a different perspective. And sometimes there is NOTHING wrong with a different perspective. NO ONE is telling you how to be a parent.
 

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Cardinal Fang said:
This would be like telling a man he has no right to an opinion about abortion because he can’t carry a child.
Actually, that can be argued.
 

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Pedro Sanchez said:
I applaude the mother. Not enough people want to take responsibility for their kids actions. As for the emotional damage, puhlease, a day of shame or a lifetime if mediocrity.

I think kids get off too easy, a few more smacks and a good kick in the ass would wake these little fuckers up.
Why only one day of shame, why not every day, if it works so well at making children brilliant? Jeeez, humiliate them every day for 18 years and you will have geniuses.
 

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danmand said:
Why only one day of shame, why not every day, if it works so well at making children brilliant? Jeeez, humiliate them every day for 18 years and you will have geniuses.
I don't think he suggested every day..but ein gelegentlicher leichter schlag auf den hinterkopf erhoeht das denkvermoegen...
 
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