Marriage

[oil&gas]

We had become friends over the years, she came swimming, we talked, what little we could, there was always an attraction between us.....

How's sex with her like? Is she any good in bed?

 

[fmahovalich]

Why not let her just live with you....avoid the commn law dates as they approach. She can work under the table until she finds a man.

 

[lurkerdick]

Yes, I can do the prenup thing but again what happens to her when I go, I can't let her be thrown out on the street but it will be time for my kids to get my stuff, not like I say in maybe 10 or 20 years.....shit oldest daughter is already 40 {opps:hippie: let the age thing slip}

A will takes care of that

 

[fuji]

Why not let her just live with you....avoid the commn law dates as they approach. She can work under the table until she finds a man.

I am guessing she has a visa status problem that marriage would fix. Her Canadian visa was probably tied to her employment.

 

[rgkv]

I am guessing she has a visa status problem that marriage would fix. Her Canadian visa was probably tied to her employment.

This is what I think too....she did at one time show me a letter from immigration asking her to report

 

[rgkv]

Fuck it. I'll marry her. Give me this bitch's number.

Lola...such anger...........

 

[thumper18474]

Well, the last one I married for her papers left me for my sister and took the dog.

does this mean you'll be doing duos then???
a wife/wife team??
sounds promising!!

 

[brazilianguy]

ask her one question:

Will you love me long time?

lmfaoo too funny lool

 

[rgkv]

I have told her no....I feel like shit
She looked at me and said "no???"....she looked so sad........

 

[rld]

I have a vague recollection that the conservatives recently changed some of the immigration regs to make marriages of convenience a fair bit harder. Before you take this step you really should talk to an immigration lawyer and a family lawyer.

 

[GameBoy27]

Go for it, what could possibly go wrong!

 

[winstar]

Caregiver who works and lived next door to me, untill she got let go, came to my house and asked if I would marry her. We have become friends over the years, she speaks next to no English so we used to translate on my P.C., I have been told she is not a poor woman, owns a couple of homes {appartments?} in China, has one son still in China. She is my age, a good looking woman, and I think she would be true...
Told the other caregiver next door who speaks English what happened..."Yes, she wants two things, a good man and to stay in the country...
Not sure what to think, I grow tired of being alone...BUT!!!!

I'd say go for it. Sounds like a GREAT idea, What do you have to lose? Oh wait.....

 

[fuji]

I have told her no....I feel like shit
She looked at me and said "no???"....she looked so sad........

Probably the right decision. If she learns English well enough (or you Chinese) maybe a different answer would be appropriate.

 

[Powershot]

I wonder if you could "hire" her as a caregiver temporarily if it helps her stay while she looks for a job.

 

[fuji]

I wonder if you could "hire" her as a caregiver temporarily if it helps her stay while she looks for a job.

I thought about that too, and if we lived in a slightly different legal world, that's a great answer, because it seems like there is an honest relationship there, and if things work out well between them, that might be a way to stay together while they sort out what is possible.

Now imagine the fallout when she tells a lawyer that she was hired as a caregiver but encouraged to provide a sexual service by her employer. "I was worried about my future in Canada, staying here depended on keeping my job, but he made me have sex with him in order to keep my job." I know that's not how it is, but it could easily look that way.

 

[Stoo]

To me, it would all boil down to one simple question: Does she rim?

 

[userz]

Immigration will pull both of you on the carpet for an interview and want proof that your marriage is legit and not something entered into to enable her to remain in Canada. They'll want things like testimonials from your family that have met her, pictures of you together, details of how you met, a wedding guest list, details about the honeymoon etc. Assuming she actually got PR from marrying you you'd be on the hook for her financially for 10 years. This means that if she were to do something like receive Ontario Works or ODSP at anytime within the first ten years (still married or not) you would have to reimburse the government and they do garnish wages.

 

[danmand]

Immigration will pull both of you on the carpet for an interview and want proof that your marriage is legit and not something entered into to enable her to remain in Canada. They'll want things like testimonials from your family that have met her, pictures of you together, details of how you met, a wedding guest list, details about the honeymoon etc. Assuming she actually got PR from marrying you you'd be on the hook for her financially for 10 years. This means that if she were to do something like receive Ontario Works or ODSP at anytime within the first ten years (still married or not) you would have to reimburse the government and they do garnish wages.

That is if she is from asia or africa. if she is white, things are approved without any formalities.

 

[OddSox]

Depending on her visa type, status and country of origin, she may be required to physically leave Canada and then apply for to immigration in the usual way - even if you're married. I know one friend who spent nearly two years getting his Indonesian wife into Canada...

 

[fuji]

Immigration will pull both of you on the carpet for an interview and want proof that your marriage is legit and not something entered into to enable her to remain in Canada. They'll want things like testimonials from your family that have met her, pictures of you together, details of how you met, a wedding guest list, details about the honeymoon etc. Assuming she actually got PR from marrying you you'd be on the hook for her financially for 10 years. This means that if she were to do something like receive Ontario Works or ODSP at anytime within the first ten years (still married or not) you would have to reimburse the government and they do garnish wages.

Yes they might do that, but if you actually DO have a legitimate relationship, you will pass their test. And yeah, if you marry someone you may wind up supporting them--whether or not they are an immigrant. There are actually only big problems if you ARE scamming them with some marriage of convenience. I understood the OP to have had some interest in the woman for real.