love, lust, which one?

[roseann]

That's it, I thought, but again i get confused if I love the guy or is it just lust?
This guy I have been dating is a suave talker, he always got me off my feet every time he talks sweet nothing to me. I don't know if I am just weak or I love him even if I know he got lots of girlfriends. Am confused. I think he is just playing around but still I always ended saying yes to him every time he wants to have sex with me. HELP! Do you know anything about good dating and about true love? Hope you do and post it here...
K guys got to go....hope to hear from you.

 

[shack]

The only consistents I can think of is that: 1)women think differently about sex and love than guys do and 2)the thrill/excitement never last.

 

[N1ghth4wk]

Roseann, I'd separate the two. You can have lust without love and love without lust. If you just look at sex for what it is, a physical act, then you might even embrace his fooling around. Join him. You might want to try swinging. If you really love him, you should not let him go because he has other physical needs. It is possible for him to love and be committed to you, but still have sex with other women. Guys do it all the time with escorts. Swinging couples do it too. Just because a man uses an escort, does not mean he is not in love with his SO.

 

[TeasePlease]

Love is mutually beneficial. Lust is self-centered.

Is he good for you, or are you just good for him?

 

[Brill]

I think you need to fuck me, just for comparison.
PM me.

Just kidding, if he has other girlfriends I don't think you're special to him except for sex. Is that okay with you?

 

[lancelot_69]

Ok darling, I think your asking the devil about jesus! What most men here know about love, most likely do not honor it, since they are on a site reviewing women's performance on lust! Men may be experts on lust, but these men, me include most likely no nothing about love! We love to lust women, not lust to love women! That is just my opinion, what do I know, I am a man!

 

[AllishaMyst]

That's it, I thought, but again i get confused if I love the guy or is it just lust?
This guy I have been dating is a suave talker, he always got me off my feet every time he talks sweet nothing to me. I don't know if I am just weak or I love him even if I know he got lots of girlfriends. Am confused. I think he is just playing around but still I always ended saying yes to him every time he wants to have sex with me. HELP! Do you know anything about good dating and about true love? Hope you do and post it here...
K guys got to go....hope to hear from you.

Does he take you out in public on dates? Does he call just to talk or does he want something? Always go with your gut even when it is hard. If he is amazing in bed the enjoy enjoy enjoy!! Just don't get attached and dont be so available. Im a woman and understand completely but have learned lust and love can be confusing if you make it that way. He's good be better. Good luck

 

[Don Draper]

Does he take you out in public on dates? Does he call just to talk or does he want something? Always go with your gut even when it is hard. If he is amazing in bed the enjoy enjoy enjoy!! Just don't get attached and don't be so available. I'm a woman and understand completely but have learned lust and love can be confusing if you make it that way. He's good be better. Good luck

Mind games are a dangerous thing. This is just the sort of M.O. that women use to their detriment. The man gets fed up, moves on to another woman who is clear and mature and the original woman is left alone with her cats and frozen dinners wondering: 'What did I do wrong'?

 

[AllishaMyst]

Mind games are a dangerous thing. This is just the sort of M.O. that women use to their detriment. The man gets fed up, moves on to another woman who is clear and mature and the original woman is left alone with her cats and frozen dinners wondering: 'What did I do wrong'?

Yoyr right so why oh why do these women stay around? I wanna fuck not get to know you. Why not have the best of both worlds?!

 

[N1ghth4wk]

The real test?


Like = Spit

Love = Swallow

Lust = Gargle

I want to find an SP that will love me!!

 

[Aardvark154]

May I suggest that TERB may be helpful to vent via writing, and hence help make up your mind. However, as for being a source for advice to help you to make up your mind. . . . . .

 

[ogibowt]

That's it, I thought, but again i get confused if I love the guy or is it just lust?
This guy I have been dating is a suave talker, he always got me off my feet every time he talks sweet nothing to me. I don't know if I am just weak or I love him even if I know he got lots of girlfriends. Am confused. I think he is just playing around but still I always ended saying yes to him every time he wants to have sex with me. HELP! Do you know anything about good dating and about true love? Hope you do and post it here...
K guys got to go....hope to hear from you.

yep..women love bad boys...