Looking for some input....

[LordLoki]

Two things -

1. Irate SOs are ticking timebombs. If they firgure out you are an SP they can unleash a whack of trouble on you especially if you're an incall girl .... think finding out your address and calling the cops.

2. Respecting your client's privacy is key as it also protects your privacy.

I would tell the person something like "I understand that you are upset that your partner may be having an affair, however I am not that person. These phone calls are very upsetting and are bordering on harassment - while I sympathize with your situation, I recommend you speak with you partner about your concerns."

Then of course block the number and tell the client that you have to cool it with him for a while, until he can learn to cover his tracks better.

RQ

Very Ver mature and clever girl. People forget in call is borderline legal and LE do respond to those complaints.

 

[gdurham]

bottom line is that most hobbiests have SOs and it is not good for business to be handling such a situation in an other than professional manner. If you freak out, out the client, then there is a danger that word will get out about you being a blabbermouth and it could hurt business for you.

you want to get paid like a professional---gotta act like one too.

 

[fuji]

Not his fault?? Hello? He's fucking around and not covering his tacks! How is not his fault.

It's impossible to be 100% sure that all tracks are covered. I've heard SP's say that something like 4/5ths of their clients are married. It's the nature of the business that SP's are seeing clients who are married, and sooner or later, it's inevitable that one or two SO's will find out about it and make a stink.

You can say that it's someone's fault. I say that it's expected, eventually. So when it happens, how to deal with it?

Given the situation of MOST clients, blowing his cover and confessing everything to his SO immediately is a BAD POLICY, because it will discourage many, many clients from frequenting the SP. I don't care whether it is morally right or wrong, it's a bad business decision.

Better to make a best effort to be a partner in helping the client keep a lid on it. Now she can't talk to the client to agree on a story, and it would likely be too much time and effort to try and remember it and keep the story straight even if she did. Next best policy, and the one that she can reasonably effect, with minimal effort, is stubborn denial.

That at least gives the client a fighting chance to explain it away somehow. I don't know how. But better odds than if she confesses it.

The one thing that changes this logic is the potential for the SO to physically confront the SP either at her place of work or somewhere else. If the SO has the SP's physical location, or some way to get it, then the SP should instead act to protect herself by saying whatever would seem to make the SO disappear.

A confession *might* make the SO disappear, or it might cause the SO to blow up and go vindictive. Again, denial is the best policy. However, if denial isn't working AND the SO has some way to physically confront the SP then it's worth trying honesty FOLLOWED BY threats of police action.

In any case confessing it all on the first call is wrong. Denial is a good first policy.

It's common sense that an SP will *never* reveal the nature of her business to ANYONE who calls unles the caller first indicates that he understands. This can be pretty subtle, but you will find most SP's won't answer in any meaningful way until you say something like, "Are you available", or some such.

The caller saying something like "Who is this?" should result in the phone being hung up, every time.

 

[fuji]

p.s. -- another stubborn denial trick, after several denials if she persists and "my father/brother" didn't work:

"Look I've only had this cell phone a little while, I'm getting a lot of wrong numbers calling me, please go away."

 

[RTRD]

oh you people...

...are just far to rational for me. I guess that is why i am not an SP...LOL

My experience in life has been that must people who are trying to sell "tough guy" tickets actually don't have any, and calling them on their shit makes them go away. But I acknowledge that his might not be the best tacit in this case..