Let me pick your brain

[LexiLeyla]

*Please remove if not allowed, just a question/conversation starter, something I’ve been curious about*

As a woman in this industry I’ve always had questions and some curiosity about how you men think. Meaning, what are some deciding factors when choosing spas & girls, what are some red flags you see in an ad or profile, do you do it as a preference over conventional dating, or just convenience?

again my apologies if this thread isn’t allowed, I’m not trying to advertise or discuss any services, I’m just curious to hear some different opinions and thoughts

enjoy your Frisky Friday, freaks & freakettes!

 

[Slobus]

... what are some deciding factors when choosing spas & girls...

Looks, mind and attitude are most important to me. Frankly, some of my best sessions have started by watching how some of the ladies that participate here at TERB contribute. I am not a fan of air heads.

fyi... you are off to an awesome start ;--)

...what are some red flags you see in an ad or profile...

Too many rules (not that I do not respect them, but it can be telling if the list of don'ts is longer than the list of do's), fake photos, bad communications (spelling mistakes make me cringe in professional communications)

... do you do it as a preference over conventional dating, or just convenience?

1. Variety... I enjoy the company of beautiful (to me) women, you all fascinate me!
2. Time... I do not have much of it and my desire to seek suitable "civilian" partners (with the requisite time required to invest) diminishes with every spin I take around Ol Sol.

my 2 cents anyways!

edit: forgot my zinger... "just don't pick my nose"¡

 

[William St]

*Please remove if not allowed, just a question/conversation starter, something I’ve been curious about*

As a woman in this industry I’ve always had questions and some curiosity about how you men think. Meaning, what are some deciding factors when choosing spas & girls, what are some red flags you see in an ad or profile, do you do it as a preference over conventional dating, or just convenience?

again my apologies if this thread isn’t allowed, I’m not trying to advertise or discuss any services, I’m just curious to hear some different opinions and thoughts

enjoy your Frisky Friday, freaks & freakettes!

For me it's a convenient pleasure. Spend some quality time with a hot lady, pay the fee, go back again if you enjoyed yourself. No meals to buy, cocktails to drink, bad movies (and worse conversation) to sit through, only to be told "Sorry... you're not really my type." I'm sick of that s--t. Don't need any nonsense about building a relationship at my age, thanks.

 

[scarecrow119]

*Please remove if not allowed, just a question/conversation starter, something I’ve been curious about*

As a woman in this industry I’ve always had questions and some curiosity about how you men think. Meaning, what are some deciding factors when choosing spas & girls, what are some red flags you see in an ad or profile, do you do it as a preference over conventional dating, or just convenience?

again my apologies if this thread isn’t allowed, I’m not trying to advertise or discuss any services, I’m just curious to hear some different opinions and thoughts

enjoy your Frisky Friday, freaks & freakettes!

I will take stab at this but I think there are a few questions here. I am answering for me, so this might not be reflective of anyone else.

The decision to see someone can be a mixture of factors. For me dating is not an option as I have a significant other. I am happy but I do have unfulfilled needs. This is the least complex way to satisfy those needs.

Deciding who to see is also a mixture of factors. I would have to say right off being attracted to the provider is a huge part of it. Second to that is convenience, because of my job and home life, i am not able to really plan ahead, so most of my appointments are last minute. I tend to gravitate to providers who can accommodate this. There are also parts of town i like to avoid so that is a factor as well.

Finally, as for red flags, there is coded language in ads that i stay away from. "Party girl" and "No black men" I tend to avoid. Also, fake pictures are a hard pass.

Feel free to PM if you have follow up questions.

 

[Nesbot]

*Please remove if not allowed, just a question/conversation starter, something I’ve been curious about*

As a woman in this industry I’ve always had questions and some curiosity about how you men think. Meaning, what are some deciding factors when choosing spas & girls, what are some red flags you see in an ad or profile, do you do it as a preference over conventional dating, or just convenience?

again my apologies if this thread isn’t allowed, I’m not trying to advertise or discuss any services, I’m just curious to hear some different opinions and thoughts

enjoy your Frisky Friday, freaks & freakettes!

Don't really do spa's. As others have stated, my home and professional life doesn't permit for a lot of time out, and when I have it, I'd rather know that my desires are at least a possibility rather than leaving it to the unknown. Although I'm at the playmate enough, I can easily walk upstairs and have more fun.

Red flags: party girl freaks me out too. Any ad where the lady is under 20. Travelling provider that offers duo's. Personally, anyone offering duo's is off my list. Far too many scams lately involving 2 or more providers. Lastly, not willing to provide minimal details of a meeting. Yes YMMV, but going in blind usually means I won't have a good time.

Not dating: home life necessitates my urges get met elsewhere.

 

[Buster_Hyman]

If I have booked a certain amount of time with you then I expect the time to be spent with me. Not on your phone, not getting ready, etc. etc. Appointments can always run over, don't book back to back. If you make a guy feel special in some small way, he'll be back.

 

[LexiLeyla]

Too many rules (not that I do not respect them, but it can be telling if the list of don'ts is longer than the list of do's), fake photos, bad communications (spelling mistakes make me cringe in professional communications)

Spelling mistakes and improper communication are some of my biggest pet peeves as well, so I totally understand that one!

 

[LexiLeyla]

For me it's a convenient pleasure. Spend some quality time with a hot lady, pay the fee, go back again if you enjoyed yourself. No meals to buy, cocktails to drink, bad movies (and worse conversation) to sit through, only to be told "Sorry... you're not really my type." I'm sick of that s--t. Don't need any nonsense about building a relationship at my age, thanks.

I like this take, I agree, and honestly have stopped conventionally dating a lot in my personal life for the same reason. Too many bad dates in my lifetime hahaha

 

[LexiLeyla]

Don't really do spa's. As others have stated, my home and professional life doesn't permit for a lot of time out, and when I have it, I'd rather know that my desires are at least a possibility rather than leaving it to the unknown. Although I'm at the playmate enough, I can easily walk upstairs and have more fun.

Red flags: party girl freaks me out too. Any ad where the lady is under 20. Travelling provider that offers duo's. Personally, anyone offering duo's is off my list. Far too many scams lately involving 2 or more providers. Lastly, not willing to provide minimal details of a meeting. Yes YMMV, but going in blind usually means I won't have a good time.

Not dating: home life necessitates my urges get met elsewhere.

why is a girl offering duos a red flag for you? I’ve had duos with girlfriends in the past that are also in the industry. I’ve seen a few scam posts where they’re duos so I get the hesitation when seeing duo ads, however I don’t think a girl offering duos should be a red flag, but to each their own! Everyone has their own reasons and opinion, hence why I made this thread, I’m just curious about how everyone thinks when it comes to this industry. It’s been so taboo to talk about for so long, I like that society is becoming a little more open

 

[LexiLeyla]

If I have booked a certain amount of time with you then I expect the time to be spent with me. Not on your phone, not getting ready, etc. etc. Appointments can always run over, don't book back to back. If you make a guy feel special in some small way, he'll be back.

I agree, working both in Vancouver & here in Ottawa I’ve seen posts on here and PERB about girls being clock watchers, or just rushing the time. Personally I’ve never really understood that method myself. I mean I think about someone coming in for a session the way I think about if I’m going for say a nail or hair appointment. I want to know that I’m paying for a result I’m going to be pleased with, I don’t want a rushed or care free job, so I don’t blame men for not wanting to see girls who do these things. It’s the same if someone took me out on a date, I’d want their attention as well.

 

[Dave in Phoenix]

As with most Deciding who to see is also a mixture of factors.
I do a great deal of pre-trip research - especially in new city like Ottawa I hope to get to this summer. But i don't look for the usual things like hot sex and all the abbreviations. I have always been more into sensuality and a "mutual connection for the moment" with personality and of course, being comfortable with older men - I am 76!

I am very picky physically - No offense to boobs but I find D or larger a turnoff as well as large rears. Seek smaller, natural breasts, a warm face and a smile (I lack such a nice smile ) Tall is nice but not essential (I am 6-1 and when standing like to see face instead of looking down to top of their head - but that is minor and more a joke).

Reviews are seldom helpful other than following those from guys who seem to have more my interests, in sensuality and personality more than what abbreviation they do. Not interested in a porn star but a human-to-human intimate connection for the moment like I have had many times over many decades with escorts, massage gals and strippers and at a reasonable cost, which is why I avoid Indies and go with mostly agencies, MP etc.

 

[Nesbot]

why is a girl offering duos a red flag for you? I’ve had duos with girlfriends in the past that are also in the industry. I’ve seen a few scam posts where they’re duos so I get the hesitation when seeing duo ads, however I don’t think a girl offering duos should be a red flag, but to each their own! Everyone has their own reasons and opinion, hence why I made this thread, I’m just curious about how everyone thinks when it comes to this industry. It’s been so taboo to talk about for so long, I like that society is becoming a little more open

Its more personal for me. Once I met a well reviewed lady off backpage. All the reviews here were glowing. She had a duo "partner". Turned out to be a dude acting crazy in her hotel. I left quickly. Now I don't trust duo's. I'm there for the one on one pleasure and have no desire for any other person to be there.

The industry is going through a rough time in Ottawa IMO. Most of the locals are at spa's. The rest are rarely in town, and most of the travelling ladies are just a bad time all around (scams, fake pics, lie about services etc.).

A lot of us guys travel, and we can see other cities don't have the same issues. Well they do, just nowhere near the extent that Ottawa does. It's almost as if this is the place travelling ladies come to get easy money (scams). I should caveat that by stating, there are a solid rotation of travelling ladies who are completely legit and enjoyed by many here. Its usually the younger one's who are here for a quick buck.

 

[scarecrow119]

why is a girl offering duos a red flag for you? I’ve had duos with girlfriends in the past that are also in the industry. I’ve seen a few scam posts where they’re duos so I get the hesitation when seeing duo ads, however I don’t think a girl offering duos should be a red flag, but to each their own! Everyone has their own reasons and opinion, hence why I made this thread, I’m just curious about how everyone thinks when it comes to this industry. It’s been so taboo to talk about for so long, I like that society is becoming a little more open

I think, right now, the majority of ads that feature duos in the headline are scams. I would imagine most guys here would be up for it if they knew one of the providers first. I have done it, and had both good and some truly weird experiences.

I now think of the quote "A threesome? If I wanted to disappoint two people at the same time, I would go to dinner with my parents".

 

[B00blover]

*Please remove if not allowed, just a question/conversation starter, something I’ve been curious about*

As a woman in this industry I’ve always had questions and some curiosity about how you men think. Meaning, what are some deciding factors when choosing spas & girls, what are some red flags you see in an ad or profile, do you do it as a preference over conventional dating, or just convenience?

again my apologies if this thread isn’t allowed, I’m not trying to advertise or discuss any services, I’m just curious to hear some different opinions and thoughts

enjoy your Frisky Friday, freaks & freakettes!

Deciding factors for me are:
Comfortability - verified ads that are accompanied with full, coherent responses that also have some personality and warmth in them go a long way toward putting me at ease, convincing me I will have a good time, and ultimately getting my booking.
Attractiveness - I go through cycles in what I'm looking for and if you match what it is I want (right now tight spinners) then I reach out. If the above is met I typically book.
I don't do spas.
Price - I have a limit on what an encounter is worth to me and I stick within it.
Offered Services - I can be flexible on what I'm looking for but if the services are restrictive and the price is too high imo, I will avoid.

Red flags for me are overly revealing photos with face pics; the opposite of what makes me comfortable; deposits.

I'm married and do it on the side for variety and professionalism. I don't need the headache of dating when I have a family, so convenience would be the umbrella reason I guess. It's far more economical, too.

 

[LexiLeyla]

Its more personal for me. Once I met a well reviewed lady off backpage. All the reviews here were glowing. She had a duo "partner". Turned out to be a dude acting crazy in her hotel. I left quickly. Now I don't trust duo's. I'm there for the one on one pleasure and have no desire for any other person to be there.

The industry is going through a rough time in Ottawa IMO. Most of the locals are at spa's. The rest are rarely in town, and most of the travelling ladies are just a bad time all around (scams, fake pics, lie about services etc.).

A lot of us guys travel, and we can see other cities don't have the same issues. Well they do, just nowhere near the extent that Ottawa does. It's almost as if this is the place travelling ladies come to get easy money (scams). I should caveat that by stating, there are a solid rotation of travelling ladies who are completely legit and enjoyed by many here. Its usually the younger one's who are here for a quick buck.

unfortunately, I’ve learned a lot of younger girls are after the quantity of clients not the quality, so I definitely get your point there

 

[TigerFlex5]

Spelling mistakes and improper communication are some of my biggest pet peeves as well, so I totally understand that one!

Well, for me, spelling mistakes here must be assess carefully. Not everybody is English. There are a few francophones (like me) who interact in English only when we come on Terb.

Same thing if we would be in a French board, before jumping to conclusions on someone because of the way he write, I need to know more of his backgound.

 

[B00blover]

Well, for me, spelling mistakes here must be assess carefully. Not everybody is English. There are a few francophones (like me) who interact in English only when we come on Terb.

Same thing if we would be in a French board, before jumping to conclusions on someone because of the way he write, I need to know more of his backgound.

I could only imagine the spelling and grammatical errors in my writing if I were to hop on MERB and write in French.

 

[BusterHighmann]

Everyone has touched on some good points but I'll outline things in black.

Looks:
- Two different types of clients, those who are picky about looks and those who are less picky if the service level is there. Pictures are what first catches your eye, no one likes dishonest pics. So red flag number one is pictures that aren't true to form.

Communication:
- When men are horny they need gratification now not in 3 days. We will message 5 providers and see who replies first. Reply fast and accurately, don't make me ask a million questions, if you have restrictions and pricing just put it in your damn add.

Location:
- If you're not close or the parking is difficult I'll look elsewhere. If I'm in Orleans and you're in Kanata I'm not going to come see you at rush hour either.

Price:
- I don't care if you're Marilyn Monroe, if your add says $300/hr or high I'm just going to keep scrolling. Everyone is entitled to charge whatever they want I just won't partake.

Service
- If it's not GFE I keep scrolling. I'd rather jerk off infront of a computer than get a lackluster CBJ and have a provider turn her head to the side and avoid eye contact during fornication. Also those who don't think GFE includes BBBJ or DFK need to get their heads examined.

Outright Red Flags
- Obviously fake adds
- Hidden upgrade fees, I recently booked a provider and I asked if she does GFE and she said yes, I confirmed dfk and bbbj and she said yes. Once things get started she tells me DATY is $60! At that point I was about to exit stage left. I can't handle the menu of upgrades, it's just tiring, give me a price for your time and let me know what you're comfortable with, do away with this upgrade bullshit. The only upgrade I can wrap my head around is Greek because it takes time and effort to prepare for.
- Extra fee for BBBJ, it's always a bad BJ! It's never worth while! They don't want to do it!
- Answering their phone during the session.
- Rushing the appointment
- No MSOG...I don't get it did I not pay for an hour?
- Getting ghosted or double booked, the classic arrive on location and then crickets.
- Drug use, I had a provider stop a session 3 times to smoke crack, not a repeat! I've also arrived and had the provider so baked out of their minds you wonder if things are actually consensual.
- Being il prepared "did you bring a condom" uhh lady I don't bring my own oil to Jiffy Lube...

 

[rodo145]

What do men want? Pleasure. Intense pleasure that their significant other isn't providing (and we probably aren't giving to them either). That's why bbbj and cim are sooo important. It is a very intimate, passionate act of desire. Just having a sexy woman feel you up is marvelous (I know, we don't tend to be sexy ourselves), thuis a professional who will give us the illusion.

Enjoy.

There are plenty of people also who are risk adverse like myself that are either cautious or refuse to see someone how does bbbj and or cim because like yourself are in a relationship and want to minimize the possibility of bringing something home.

I look For someone that is attractive and knows how to fuck really good, knows how to be seductive and fun is perfect. Also I find it really depends on the condoms how well the whole cbj will be. some condoms are horrible others almost feel like no difference.

With regards to ads
- I'm cautious of Photoshop or professional pictures they can make the lady look completely different.

- overselling in the ad is a red flag for bullshit

- I'm not a fan of deception in services

- oils and toys are always a plus

- straight forward ads is a plus

- I'm usually cautious when it's clear someone else is taking the pics or if the LL verification is placed in away that can likely be photoshopped in unless they have a duo partner then in my mind I think it's the partner and not a pimp

- fake nails are extremely unattractive to me

- I've been let down enough that if I feel like the photos are hiding the lady is overwieght that I don't see anyone anymore that I feel like that are hiding something in the pics. Keep in mind I like big boobs and nice butts. So having some fat is fine I'm realistic as to what big boobs and butts brings to the body but usally when they hide stuff or take deceptive pictures it's they are very overweight

- bbl and fake tits are a no go for me same with lip injections

- the no blacks thing makes little difference assuming things seem legit and I don't have the impression there's a pimp involved

 

[Capital Amatuer]

Tattoos, especially huge depictions in dark ink. Mostly when tattoos that take up huge real estate on chest, back, arms, legs. Small colourful tattoos are fine with me as I think they are more feminine and they are body art rather than graffiti.