Lending$$$

[Gurney]

I do not understand how peoples can be so naive...

I did lend money to one of my best friend, took me 7 years to get it back...

do you really think a stranger that you paid for sex would give it back to you ??

Is there a unicorn ? someone saw a unicorn ? I never saw a unicorn...

 

[TigerFlex5]

There's no "lend" in this industry... you give, that's it. And it's a gift... end of the story!
If you expect to have it back, you're delusional!

 

[golfer1948]

Almost like sending a deposit - if you have high expectations of not being scammed, you’re delusional!

 

[dynomyte]

Before covid i gave some cash as a gift to an MA i had seen multiple times. The gift was to help her as she experienced some really tough luck. At no point was i going to ask for it back nor did i expect anything in return. For a while, i did receive some "favours" in session. Eventually, i found that our "relationship" was going in a direction that i was not comfortable with so i pulled away and eventually stopped seeing her.

I dont usually give these gifts but i really felt for this lady at the time and i had the means to help so i did.

 

[slobbyist]

Has anybody had experience with an SP that asks for money and promises to pay back... Good or bad... Please share opinions.
Thanks

Never ever loan money in this business.
If you're, it is a gift to the provider.

Using this logic, this is no such thing as loaning money.

SW is also a cash based.

 

[Waylon]

Never ever loan money in this business.
If you're, it is a gift to the provider.

Using this logic, this is no such thing as loaning money.

SW is also a cash based.

EXACTLY!!!!

 

[alpharise]

Met a nice mixed/black girl (Chloe) at the Pigale around 2 years ago. Got along well and had some nice dances downstairs (considering the restrictions then in place due to Covid). Exchanged numbers with her so we could text. A week later she sent me text saying how difficult things had been for her, I agreed to send her etransfer of $100 (I am such a nice guy. I have done this before). A week after that I was back at Pigale, and she was there. Went back downstairs for dances. I said "maybe you can give me a free dance since I sent you $100 etransfer?" She said, "oh no, that was a gift, there are no free dances". I said, "OK, I guess we are done then", and I never saw her again. I mean, if I do you a favour, maybe you can do me a lesser one in return? Just saying, if you want a good return customer?

 

[MikeO]

An almost certain way to lose a friend is to lend him/her money. When they have difficulty (financially or mentally) repaying it, they avoid you out of embarrassment...or try to make you feel guilty for asking for repayment.... like it's your 'fault' your remember while they apparently 'just forgot'. I've had one small exception ... $20 to the cleaner in my building who needed money the day before payday surprised me by showing up at my door with repayment 2 days later. I once experienced a significant auto accident on my drive to visit an escort. I promptly texted her to let her know I would have to cancel, with a photo of my car. In return, I received a request for payment of the fee for our appointment (which she needed to pay her rent)...with a promise that she would be available for a 'free' session when I next requested to meet. I e-transferred her the $250 (decent rate in 2018). I only did that because I had enjoyed her company numerous times, incall and outcall and even one or two social outings. My subsequent texts to meet a couple of weeks later were simply ignored. Yes, there are always exceptions, but I'm still watching out my window to see that flying pig. If you want to help someone out, consider it a gift, but only give what you can afford to contribute.

 

[Waylon]

An almost certain way to lose a friend is to lend him/her money. When they have difficulty (financially or mentally) repaying it, they avoid you out of embarrassment...or try to make you feel guilty for asking for repayment.... like it's your 'fault' your remember while they apparently 'just forgot'. I've had one small exception ... $20 to the cleaner in my building who needed money the day before payday surprised me by showing up at my door with repayment 2 days later. I once experienced a significant auto accident on my drive to visit an escort. I promptly texted her to let her know I would have to cancel, with a photo of my car. In return, I received a request for payment of the fee for our appointment (which she needed to pay her rent)...with a promise that she would be available for a 'free' session when I next requested to meet. I e-transferred her the $250 (decent rate in 2018). My subsequent texts to meet a couple of weeks later were simply ignored. Yes, there are always exceptions, but I'm still watching out my window to see that flying pig. If you want to help someone out, consider it a gift, but only give what you can afford to contribute.

The mentality when someone tries to transfer their money/financial problems on to someone else when the person supplying the funds must legitimately bail just floors me, and I won't fall for it. "I needed that $ for my rent", or "I was going to use that $ for the vet because my cat is sick", or "I was going to use that $ for diapers and formula", or "But I was going to use that to buy tires for my car, because I can't drive it". I'm not a rich person by any means, but if your whole life is hinged on $250 at the end of the month, I really don't want to be around you and vice versa.

 

[kippers30]

Never a good idea to lend money to a provider or to anyone really if it's a significant amount. You will get ghosted real fast. My experience is this. It's starts off with 40-60$. Then the sessions get hotter. More like tipping. With never a offer to repay. But still hotter sessions. Then out of the blue its like can you spot me 200$. Then yu say, no, sorry. Don't have it. Then in 2 weeks you decide you want to meet up again for anther hot session. And then no response. All the while ads are being posted. Then a week later another message stating. "Oops sorry I was out of town." While there were reviews saying that this guy and that guy saw her 2 days ago. So tread the waters lightly. If you have seen a lady even for a few months. Be prepared to e asked for something. While you visit and they expect payment in full even though you have tipped. Just my 2cents and experience in this hobby. Cheers.

 

[Nesbot]

Met a nice mixed/black girl (Chloe) at the Pigale around 2 years ago. Got along well and had some nice dances downstairs (considering the restrictions then in place due to Covid). Exchanged numbers with her so we could text. A week later she sent me text saying how difficult things had been for her, I agreed to send her etransfer of $100 (I am such a nice guy. I have done this before). A week after that I was back at Pigale, and she was there. Went back downstairs for dances. I said "maybe you can give me a free dance since I sent you $100 etransfer?" She said, "oh no, that was a gift, there are no free dances". I said, "OK, I guess we are done then", and I never saw her again. I mean, if I do you a favour, maybe you can do me a lesser one in return? Just saying, if you want a good return customer?

Sorry but I disagree with the way you handled that. She asked you for money to help her out with no expectation for repayment. Then you bring it up hoping to get free dances based on what was believed to be a gift.

 

[laidbackdude]

Has anybody had experience with an SP that asks for money and promises to pay back... Good or bad... Please share opinions.
Thanks

It is always a gift, never a loan. Also, do not count on getting services free next time. If the SW says that it is an advance on future services, she will not honour this commitment when the time comes. There are many reasons why you’d give money, sometimes you feel like it will legitimately help her out with expense, sometime you’d give money as a way to build a rapport and establish trust. If it’s the former, then it’s benevolence, if it’s the latter, then it’s a kind of investment. However, the promise to service you at a later date is never honoured. I’ve done both, knowing what I’m getting into.

 

[alpharise]

Sorry but I disagree with the way you handled that. She asked you for money to help her out with no expectation for repayment. Then you bring it up hoping to get free dances based on what was believed to be a gift.

Understood, but it's not like I wasn't paying for any dances. That day I had already had 3-4 dances that I was paying for, and the previous time I had paid 6-7 dances (and this also in the Covid restricted era with no contact). So I just suggested it thinking we would have a good provider/customer relation. But then the cold hard "no" was a bit off-putting.