freshbreath said:
anyone ever use them? I've heard that they are just local anesthetics that cause mild numbness
are they safe, for either party?
would an SP object?
There are a lot of creams out there that offer to help. For the most part, they aren't local anesthetics. They just cause some numbing so that the sensation is less and helps you to last longer. Some may work, others not. It's hard to say because you're dealing with individuals and everyone is different. In the short term, you could use it, but, for the long term, I would suggest learning how to control things on your own.
Keep in mind these are used externally, so, if you ever use it while with your partner (not necessarily an sp) and are going BB, she will have the sensation lessened for her too. To me, it defeats the purpose of what you're doing. You don't want to lessen the sensation. That's what is feeling so good. Just learn how to control the pace to last longer.
If you find yourself losing control, either slow down, or stop completely and focus soley on pleasing her, while you are calming yourself down. You can use it as a way to tease her, giving yourself time to come back from the brink.
As for an sp minding? Dunno. Ask her. See how she feels about it.