Lady on retainer

[atlantica]

I have a quandary. Saw a very cool sp on her last days of being w an agency. Great session. Gave me her contact data that she would see me privately. Saw her twice since privately, both times were great. Awesome girl. Just got an email from her that she is transitioning from this business to a new thing, and to continue this she wants to be put on a retainer. Ie. A pre paid deposit. Terms and rates tbd.
Now, I am all for new and creative business models if it works for all parties involved, but am not 100%.
Anyone ever done this?

 

[Butler1000]

I personally would never pay a deposit up front.

What if she disapears. No recourse.

Plenty of ladies out there. Try a few others before you do this.

 

[bishop]

Ladies on standby waiting just to say hi, did you stop, hell no I paid a retainer and she went bye bye, ice ice baby, vanilla ice ice baby.

 

[onceaday]

Have you considered putting a psychiatrist on retainer first? Only after that pay the OP a retainer and then pay her to take a first class vacation with you to the tropics. I recall someone on an earlier thread who likes to be paid to take vacations, look her up I'm sure the retainer idea will work for her as well. Seriously give your head a shake. Or a shrink...

 

[Malika Fantasy]

I have done retainers a few times over the year with trusted gentlemen that were seeing me on a regular base.
I can understand as a client it can be a scary thing to do, however if you *do* really trust her it can be great for both parties!
In my experience most retainer type of relationship are either you pay by the month or pre-pay a set amount of dates, and doing so mean you get some advantages most of the time.
I always offer a discounted rate or longer session for people that do retainer with me

 

[John Henry]

Only a fool would do such a thing . She probably sent that e-mail to all of her clients . I'll bet once the money is in her hands she'll be gone like the wind . What recourse would you have if she just stopped seeing you . You going to take her to court and sue her . Terms and conditions .... That's a laugh .

Why not have her pay you a retainer . That way you could pay her back a bit at a time along with her fee . This way she will want to see you until the retainer is paid off and do it all over again . First rule in seeing ladies , Never ever pay ahead of time .

Don't care how nice she is or how good she is in bed . Only a fool would let a sweet talker take his money like that . A new business proposition . You got to be kidding me .

 

[wazup]

Why don't you just call and pay her when you want to see her like she was an indy, why pay up front, she doesn't have to spend money to advertise and still has some money coming in? Where would these liasons take place, would you have to rent a hotel. I think many girls still secretly see regulars after they officially retire to keep a cash flow, but a retainer, seriously, that's fucking crazy.

How often do you want to see her, guarantee her that amount, paid each time you see her. If it's once a week, and you miss a week, you pay double the next week, if you lose interest and don't call her again, then nobody loses out.

 

[Indiana]

Is she transitioning into being a lawyer?

 

[explorerzip]

Would it even be possible to make a retainer contract given the status of the industry? Can you sue for breach of contract for an activity that is not legal?

 

[roger20]

I have a quandary. Saw a very cool sp on her last days of being w an agency. Great session. Gave me her contact data that she would see me privately. Saw her twice since privately, both times were great. Awesome girl. Just got an email from her that she is transitioning from this business to a new thing, and to continue this she wants to be put on a retainer. Ie. A pre paid deposit. Terms and rates tbd.
Now, I am all for new and creative business models if it works for all parties involved, but am not 100%.
Anyone ever done this?

Like a sugardaddy arrangement? I've done it before and currently am one now but I don't ever pay upfront, I pay her bills directly and we see each other as needed. It's in her best interest to see me so she gets her bills taken care of. I wouldn't give money upfront and then hope she honours her end of the deal... She's doing this precisely because she's not good with money afterall!

 

[ultistar]

Is she transitioning into being a lawyer?

LOL! too funny

 

[freedom3]

The OP is in the pre-lesson learned stage.

 

[Ceiling Cat]

She is selling the old Florida time share scheme, if you do not reserve 30 days in advance she gets to sell your time to someone else.

 

[anon1]

Is she transitioning into being a bankster?

 

[atlantica]

Guys, and Malika, thanks for your input. This is why I call it a quandary. On the one hand I like everything about the lady and am amused by the ingenuity of the proposal, on the other hand I hate being taken for a ride. Too early to tell which way it would go, but the softy in me does trust a little too much in the decency of people. Not naive, but have a curiosity and like to experiment. Will think about it, but likely too premature to do a set up like this. Thanks!

 

[SchlongConery]

Guys, and Malika, thanks for your input. This is why I call it a quandary. On the one hand I like everything about the lady and am amused by the ingenuity of the proposal, on the other hand I hate being taken for a ride. Too early to tell which way it would go, but the softy in me does trust a little too much in the decency of people. Not naive, but have a curiosity and like to experiment. Will think about it, but likely too premature to do a set up like this. Thanks!

So 14 more experienced members give you god advice but don't want to hear? The best one respected SP can say is "...pre-pay a set amount of dates, and doing so mean you get some advantages most of the time...." i

Look, let's be honest. You like this girl, and you want her to like you more than she does. She sees you as being payable on your desire to be liked and likely as a "good guy" and hero to rescue her She has proposed The Classic Ploy to squeeze a disproportionate amount of money from you.

When you catch on, not only will you be a bit less light cash-wise, (maybe you can easily afford it) but the worst is when you realie you are just a cash dispenser that she has to suck them money out through your dick and that insecure weakness of your life.

Don't do it.

 

[harryass]

once she has your money ur not going to likely get any special treatment then the next guy. Why bother paying ahead of time? No plus for you man!

 

[fuji]

Depends. Is one month worth of retainer an amount you can't afford to lose? If not, what is the harm in trying? If it stops working out, stop paying.

 

[Luton]

Well I guess I am an idiot. In the past I have prepaid with three different girls who I have gotten to know and like. The key is getting to know them well enough you are comfortable with them as people. I have never been burned by anybody that I had prepaid. As Malika has said there are benefits from prepaying, usually through a discounted rate or extra time.

 

[fisherm]

Monthly allowances happen all the time as a Sugar Daddy. Tried SA last summer mostly for casual encounters in places I travel to for business and I met a few over dinner. One asked for a monthly allowance of $8-10k! Needless to say, it was a nice dinner out but that's where it ended.