Ladies, will you write a review on us Hobbyists?
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A lot of my clients are nervous and rather wary of being judged because they're seeing an SP in the first place. Add even the possibility of knowing their performance may be judged and you'll be instant box office poison.
I'm not trying to be non-constructive - but this idea, to me, is insanely counter-intuitive.
To cut to the chase here - if a guy wants to be judged, he can get that at home or at the office. The whole point of him coming to me is that he will not be judged - I'm there to accept him just exactly the way the way he is.
I'm not trying to be non-constructive - but this idea, to me, is insanely counter-intuitive.
To cut to the chase here - if a guy wants to be judged, he can get that at home or at the office. The whole point of him coming to me is that he will not be judged - I'm there to accept him just exactly the way the way he is.
I think this is right on point .Ophelia Black said:
Having said that , when I first started this I requested that the lady not be afraid to "request/instruct" whatever and whenever she wanted and to please let me know through gestures or verbally . I did this because I had sex with only 1 woman for over 20 yrs which was followed by 3 years of celibacy caused by an irreversable medical condition (hers) .
Accordingly I was fairly unsure of myself as somewhere in the cobwebs of my mind I recalled from my teenage/college years that women were sexually far more complex ( some may say difficult ) than men . What is explosive for one is not appreciated by another . Rough vs. tender , oral vs penetrative preferences , many limb tangling positions vs 'don't you dare change positions until I finish " or " yes touch me there ....harder " vs. " don't....that's too sensitive ". I thought that possibly what was common in sex had changed over the 20 years . More open now , a lot more oral and how many straight people even talked about anal in the late 70's .
So I asked . They told me . Things really hadn't changed that much I guess ....less pubic hair , thongs and a bit more open . Still , I was thankful for the feedback .
Would I want a public review ? NO , Why ?
Him and his ......$300.....Remember?Ophelia Black said:
I think it would not hurt to have a review Board on SP rant or something like it..... Of course, it is anonymous, let's not go to the :
Sheik has a small Penis , Goober, forget about the Daty!..Please.... (please note any resemblance with people you know is deliberately wanted
..)But if it is Constructive ans Sober.. I think we might have everything to win from This....
I can see the "Big" picture now..
It was me! Having read the Kama Sutra at 17 and realizes that my happiness is the product of my sexual partner's happiness "first", I have been pushing myself in life to be critical of my own performances - on and off the bed.
Until one can benchmark themselves or others and get feed back for setting goals for objectives, there can be no improvements.
However, Improvement is not for everyone! Some are shy, some don't care, some have fragile egos. As they say, it is not everyone's cup of tea.
James T Kirk, I hope this answers your question.
For most men, there should be no fear of their identities being exposed in front of their friends through the reviews unless it was very "explicit" like - He has a scar 2 inches on the lower back (that's James Bond!).
I sincerely thank all who contributed so far. I think that some SP are willing to help (in one way or another) but sometimes we just simply run out of time for a de-briefing afterwards hence the suggestion for SP reviews.
In summary, I feel that I am in the minority but not an extinct creature as yet!
It was me! Having read the Kama Sutra at 17 and realizes that my happiness is the product of my sexual partner's happiness "first", I have been pushing myself in life to be critical of my own performances - on and off the bed.
Until one can benchmark themselves or others and get feed back for setting goals for objectives, there can be no improvements.
However, Improvement is not for everyone! Some are shy, some don't care, some have fragile egos. As they say, it is not everyone's cup of tea.
James T Kirk, I hope this answers your question.
For most men, there should be no fear of their identities being exposed in front of their friends through the reviews unless it was very "explicit" like - He has a scar 2 inches on the lower back (that's James Bond!).
I sincerely thank all who contributed so far. I think that some SP are willing to help (in one way or another) but sometimes we just simply run out of time for a de-briefing afterwards hence the suggestion for SP reviews.
In summary, I feel that I am in the minority but not an extinct creature as yet!
"Him and his ......$300.....Remember?"
Right...I forgot my ability to connect with people and a basic understanding of human nature only counts when it's free.
I am just such a big silly!
Right...I forgot my ability to connect with people and a basic understanding of human nature only counts when it's free.
I am just such a big silly!
It seems....
ceo8888ca is searching for something many of us are not looking for. Is the information reliable considering it was received from an SP whom you are paying for? All SP are in the business to make money by providing a service. And I respect that tremendously. Would it be smart strategy to critique a paying customer and risk the loss of that customer? I think it is great that SP's provide the service they do (hell I would do the work if there was a market) oh, and provided the "client" was attractive-----wait a minute, what if they are not all attractive---oh shit, can I re-think this??
It seems ceo that based on some of your reviews of SP, you are already making the majority of the girls you are with have orgasms (but are you sure?) so why the need to get feedback? It must be something deeper if you are looking for performance feedback from an SP. This board is for us. I stress the 'E.R.B.' part of terb. I really does seem silly to look for feedback from an SP, you may be better served with a GF. I for one am happy if an SP has a good time, but I am the one looking for service, right??
Granted, SP's are great to experiment with, but as far as 'real' verifiable data....I just don't think so....
ceo8888ca is searching for something many of us are not looking for. Is the information reliable considering it was received from an SP whom you are paying for? All SP are in the business to make money by providing a service. And I respect that tremendously. Would it be smart strategy to critique a paying customer and risk the loss of that customer? I think it is great that SP's provide the service they do (hell I would do the work if there was a market) oh, and provided the "client" was attractive-----wait a minute, what if they are not all attractive---oh shit, can I re-think this??
It seems ceo that based on some of your reviews of SP, you are already making the majority of the girls you are with have orgasms (but are you sure?) so why the need to get feedback? It must be something deeper if you are looking for performance feedback from an SP. This board is for us. I stress the 'E.R.B.' part of terb. I really does seem silly to look for feedback from an SP, you may be better served with a GF. I for one am happy if an SP has a good time, but I am the one looking for service, right??
Granted, SP's are great to experiment with, but as far as 'real' verifiable data....I just don't think so....
Improve what?
How neatly you fold the bills before you hand them to her?
This sort of thread pops up a couple of times a year, but I still find them hilarious. They seem to be fed by a mix of ego and "boundary issues".
Dude - she's not your girlfriend, your mistress, or your wife. She's a professional who you are paying to get you off. Period.
Let's assume by "improvement" you mean that you would like to enhance your skills as a lover. Do you really feel that a generic review will help? There's virtually nothing that would be included in such "reviews" that would have any real value and, more to the point, there's no "right or wrong" way to please a woman. Something that drives one woman wild might bore the panties off another. Anything that might actually help (he smelled bad, he came too quickly, etc.) a really bad lover is unlikely to appear in such a review. Why? BECAUSE IT WOULD HURT THE WOMAN'S BUSINESS!
Here's an idea - if you're concerned about your performance in the bedroom, TRY TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER (professional or otherwise).
Duh.
