I know this isn't psychiatrist or physiologist corner here, but nevertheless I'd like to seek the advice of fellow Terbites.
The last few times I've gone to see an SP, I've had trouble getting hard. This is to the point where even though there's a smoking hot girl on a bed with me who is willing to go down on me and let me fuck her, I can't get hard enough to actually do the deed. If I did get hard during foreplay (not always the case, especially if DFK was not offered), then went for DATY, I would lose it by the time the main event rolled around. I think it may have to do with thoughts cropping up in my head of how the lady doesn't seem to genuinely be into it.
But even with the select few SPs who have made me feel special and I had a relatively great time with, it hasn't been nearly as good or as long-lasting a performance on my part as it's been with ex-girlfriends. Partly, I'd imagine, because I'm not used to condoms.
This really concerns me - I'm only 26, and my understanding is that us men are supposed to be able to have sex without emotions easily. Which is starting to make me feel a bit inferior as a man - I feel like I should be able to go and make with the whole 'Wham-Bam-Thank-You-Mam', but somehow sex without emotions, or at least without a good illusion that emotions are involved, just doesn't do it for me.
I consider myself a very sexual person - I'm think about sex all the time, which is why sometimes I give in and see an escort. But I feel like I'm wasting a whole lot of money with the way these sessions end up turning out.
Given the above, would you say that the escorting thing is just not for me, and I just need to find a woman who I feel a strong emotional connection with and have great sex with? I really don't have the time for that in my life right now, and what do I do until I find the right person?
I'm not sure if this is a psychological issue or a physical one - and I'm not sure which I would find more relieving.
Thanks in advance for any constructive comments or help.
The last few times I've gone to see an SP, I've had trouble getting hard. This is to the point where even though there's a smoking hot girl on a bed with me who is willing to go down on me and let me fuck her, I can't get hard enough to actually do the deed. If I did get hard during foreplay (not always the case, especially if DFK was not offered), then went for DATY, I would lose it by the time the main event rolled around. I think it may have to do with thoughts cropping up in my head of how the lady doesn't seem to genuinely be into it.
But even with the select few SPs who have made me feel special and I had a relatively great time with, it hasn't been nearly as good or as long-lasting a performance on my part as it's been with ex-girlfriends. Partly, I'd imagine, because I'm not used to condoms.
This really concerns me - I'm only 26, and my understanding is that us men are supposed to be able to have sex without emotions easily. Which is starting to make me feel a bit inferior as a man - I feel like I should be able to go and make with the whole 'Wham-Bam-Thank-You-Mam', but somehow sex without emotions, or at least without a good illusion that emotions are involved, just doesn't do it for me.
I consider myself a very sexual person - I'm think about sex all the time, which is why sometimes I give in and see an escort. But I feel like I'm wasting a whole lot of money with the way these sessions end up turning out.
Given the above, would you say that the escorting thing is just not for me, and I just need to find a woman who I feel a strong emotional connection with and have great sex with? I really don't have the time for that in my life right now, and what do I do until I find the right person?
I'm not sure if this is a psychological issue or a physical one - and I'm not sure which I would find more relieving.
Thanks in advance for any constructive comments or help.
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