Is romance a dead ideal?

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So I know this may just lead to a few quick barbs my way, but i would like to hear the replies from both genders.

Is romance a dead ideal?

Myself, I am a die hard romantic. I used to enjoy walks with a lady, date nights and actually getting to learn about what makes the other sex tick. but lately, i am finding that women just don't care anymore.


So ladies and guys - lets take for a moment what we do here and forget about it. Let's answer this question with what we honestly believe in. Yes, even if the answer leads to one I have already concluded to. but, humor me nonetheless.

Thanks all and rock out your Saturday,
 
a 1 player said:
No, romance is not dead, but it does take effort.
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It does seem to having a slight renaissance, it is my observation that 20 somethings are a bit more interested in men showing some of the social graces, than most of the 30 and 40 somethings at least here in North America. This also varies around the world, for instance a lot of the social niceties never died out in Central and Eastern Europe
 
canadian scoundrel said:
Myself, I am a die hard romantic. I used to enjoy walks with a lady, date nights and actually getting to learn about what makes the other sex tick. but lately, i am finding that women just don't care anymore.
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This is part of the long term fall out of feminism. If you talk to a sociologist, basically what they say is that women look for money and guys look for sex. Women don't need to rely on men for money anymore, so it's our gender that is left hanging in a way. I notice this too... it's like women don't even get excited anymore that a guy likes them. I don't know how many times I have smiled or shown interest and I just get the cold and indifferent exterior that I'm supposed to break through somehow...

There's still that biological need for a woman to have a husband and have babies, but fulfilling that is based more on finding someone with the right job, looks, social stature, etc. to carry your genes rather than romance and love. Feminism has pretty much murdered romance, because anything associated with classic romance between a man and a woman is a considered result of patriarchy, that suppresses women (!?).

I wonder if the way things are going, women just aren't receptive to romance anymore? Now, if you give a woman flowers (unless she is your steady girlfriend or wife), you're "trying too hard" or "creepy" ?? It seems like anything that would be considered "romantic" in days gone by is now seen as "creepy"... isn't this sad? Some women get offended if you open a door for them! Imagine if you wrote her a love letter or bought her a teddy bear? :o
 
luv4lust said:
no it's not you just have look through the weeds to find your flower.
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And the good doc finds a Big diamond in the rough while smelling his flower. *wink* :cool: LOL!!!
 
DonQuixote said:
You have to be young to be a romantic.

As we climb up the decades of life
we lose our innocence, and with the
experience of all those painful losses
we aren't naieve. And with that the
loss of abandonment and surrender
we willingly embraced in our youth.

Romance still exists, for the young.

Be, I'm into the thrill of opening the
door and meeting for the first time
a lovely, nubile young lass with a
greeting smile. ;)

Its the next best thing to romance.
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Surrender is essential to any decent life.
 
luv4lust said:
always thinking with your jewels. lol
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If so, that will be two huge diamonds hanging down from the base of a gigantic canon, ready for action at any moment's notice. ;) Need the good doc to finish off the greatest love story of all time, luv??? LMAO!!!
 
In My Opinion Romance is NOT Dead,,,,,I love it when a man holds my seat,,,holds the door open, brings flowers, takes my hand to help me stand, whatever.....that being said,,,,Romance for the sake of romance is a wonderful thing, using romance to get laid? Not so romantic.

I have guests bring me flowers, chocolates, a scarf and other small gestures when they meet with me, brings a huge smile to my face and I always let him know how delighted I am by the gift.
 
It also depends on quite what one means by the word "romance."

Is it naïve thinking, or doing special things for someone you love, or yet another definition. . . .
 
I guess also I would like to see more response from the ladies who are on this site. After all, regardless of where we are in our lives and what we do, I find that none of use actually take the time to really appreciate each other.

I find that romance can be a part of what we do here, it`s just no one ever bothers to actually learn how to enjoy and make the moment better. It`s all about SOG or who can give the better BBBJ. Lets be honest, It`s awesome regardless if it`s covered or not.

Now so far I have seen guys on here in their own way say they are romantics it`s just the ladies are just not caring. So ladies, what do us guys have to do to make the moment a little better to enjoy in regards to romance. After all, a little romance leads to a better connection and a better connection leads to a WAY better time for all of us.
 
Think you are on to something here ...

Mao Tse Tongue said:
Personally I think cell phones, Blackberry's and computers killed romance.

Romance requires your attention and when you're cuttin it up 17 different ways, you tend to lose the focus required to be in love with someone.
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Add TV and Ipods to that mix as well, I think.
 
I think romance is alive and well. I know one 21 year old girl who is just a friend and she gushes on about how this guy she is dating makes her feel like she is on cloud nine just by the way he looks at her.

On te other age front - I know 2 older people who met, courted and got married - she was 78 and he was 81 on their wedding day. He brought her flowers, took her to romantic restaurants, etc during their dating phase. Their courtship was quite romantic.

Romance is a state of mind...it exists throughout life. As we get older we get more cynical and experienced but if there it never goes away entirely.
 
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