Ok,
I met a woman recently and started dating her, albeit casually.
She's great in most ways, except ONE.
I think she has a bit of a drinking problem.
1. I am pretty sure she drinks every day.
2. Every time I have been around her, she drinks (I do not.)
3. Every time we go out for dinner, she always orders at least 2 alcoholic beverages.
I am not a big drinker. In fact, I am a seldom drinker. I could easily go 6 months without alcohol passing my lips and it wouldn't phase me in the least. I just don't have the taste for the stuff, nor desire it. I can easily go out for dinner and just order water or a soft drink.
My female friend on the other hand always seems to be drinking, but has never been drunk around me. But she can really hold her booze boy.
Example, I show up at her house for dinner, and she is already into the wine (by herself). More wine at dinner. Usually some of her friends show up and they all elect to head off to some loser bar where there is more drinking done.
Example, I show up at her house to meet 2 of her friends for dinner and she already has a glass of wine going (again, by herself). We go out to the restaurant and she has 2 martinis before dinner, shares a bottle of wine at dinner and pounds back 2 shooters after dinner.
She is still quite functional.
Example, she was to meet me on a Thursday night at my office for some work I was doing for her. She shows up at 8:00 pm. and kisses me and I can taste / smell the alcohol on her.
So I call her on it.
I tell her that I think she is great and all, but that I think she has a drinking problem. (I have never ever called anyone on something like this before.)
She asks me if I think she is drunk, and I tell her no, but why is it that you have been drinkig every single time we get together. She tells me that it's just a social thing.
Blah blah blah.
She makes no commitment to reduce her drinking, but I notice the next time we go out she orders a tea. But the next time after that, I show up at her house unannounced and you guessed it, she's been drinking again.
My question is, Is this woman showing signs of being an alcoholic?
What is the definition of an alcoholic?
I have been with many other women that were "normal drinkers" to me. They would consume alcohol on some occasions, even get tipsy on some occasions, but the key word is some. They could easily go out to dinner and NOT drink, or didn't drink every day. This one can't seem to do that.
I met a woman recently and started dating her, albeit casually.
She's great in most ways, except ONE.
I think she has a bit of a drinking problem.
1. I am pretty sure she drinks every day.
2. Every time I have been around her, she drinks (I do not.)
3. Every time we go out for dinner, she always orders at least 2 alcoholic beverages.
I am not a big drinker. In fact, I am a seldom drinker. I could easily go 6 months without alcohol passing my lips and it wouldn't phase me in the least. I just don't have the taste for the stuff, nor desire it. I can easily go out for dinner and just order water or a soft drink.
My female friend on the other hand always seems to be drinking, but has never been drunk around me. But she can really hold her booze boy.
Example, I show up at her house for dinner, and she is already into the wine (by herself). More wine at dinner. Usually some of her friends show up and they all elect to head off to some loser bar where there is more drinking done.
Example, I show up at her house to meet 2 of her friends for dinner and she already has a glass of wine going (again, by herself). We go out to the restaurant and she has 2 martinis before dinner, shares a bottle of wine at dinner and pounds back 2 shooters after dinner.
She is still quite functional.
Example, she was to meet me on a Thursday night at my office for some work I was doing for her. She shows up at 8:00 pm. and kisses me and I can taste / smell the alcohol on her.
So I call her on it.
I tell her that I think she is great and all, but that I think she has a drinking problem. (I have never ever called anyone on something like this before.)
She asks me if I think she is drunk, and I tell her no, but why is it that you have been drinkig every single time we get together. She tells me that it's just a social thing.
Blah blah blah.
She makes no commitment to reduce her drinking, but I notice the next time we go out she orders a tea. But the next time after that, I show up at her house unannounced and you guessed it, she's been drinking again.
My question is, Is this woman showing signs of being an alcoholic?
What is the definition of an alcoholic?
I have been with many other women that were "normal drinkers" to me. They would consume alcohol on some occasions, even get tipsy on some occasions, but the key word is some. They could easily go out to dinner and NOT drink, or didn't drink every day. This one can't seem to do that.