Is It Too Late??

D

drlove

Ph.D. in Pussyology
Oct 14, 2001
4,895
328
83
The doctor is in
Earlier this year, I started talking to a really nice woman on POF, and we ended up hitting it off. The e-mails were good, talking on the phone was good, and the first coffee date was good. The problem started when it came time for date number two. I had every intention of calling her at first. Then work became extremely busy, and I let it slide for a bit. I knew she wanted me, which for some reason made me pull away.

Then I started thinking, and all the old excuses came out: fear of commitment, didn't feel like spending money on dates (waste of time and money), didn't want to give up seeing SPs (I'm not into cheating) too busy with work, didn't want to put in the effort... I'll call her later. That was back in the Spring (April/May) Well, "later" never came, and here it is November and I'm regretting my decision.

I tried sending her a message on POF, but she hasn't been on recently. Now, I'm thinking of swallowing my pride, biting the bullet and just calling her. I'd like the opportunity to try and smooth things over, if possible. However, with it being this late in the game, I'm thinking that she's probably moved on by now and she'll either blow me off completely or just laugh at my feeble attempt at reconcilliation. On the other hand, if I never try, then I'll never know for sure, one way or the other. Would any of you take the risk of calling out of the blue like that?? I'm thinking I've got nothing more to lose here. Thanks.
 
Oh, yeah - I forgot to mention, as a final ironic twist, A girl who looks almost identical to her just moved in across the hall from me. That's what got me thinking about her again in the first place. :(
 
LateComer said:
maybe she was thinking the same thing.
Click to expand...

Not sure what you mean by this statement. However, what gets me is that women want to be known as "modern women" yet still expect the guy to make the first move. Maybe I'm just bitter, but come to think of it, even if I didn't call after the first date... she could have! (She didn't though.. probably thought I wasn't interested).
 
drlove said:
Not sure what you mean by this statement. However, what gets me is that women want to be known as "modern women" yet still expect the guy to make the first move. Maybe I'm just bitter, but come to think of it, even if I didn't call after the first date... she could have! (She didn't though.. probably thought I wasn't interested).
Click to expand...
I meant that maybe she considered calling you but as the time went by it became more and more awkward. Of course, even in this day and age it is more difficult for a woman to call a man for a date especially under these circumstances. As you stated, the man is still expected to make the first move (after the woman has given him the non-verbal go-ahead of course).
 
Give it a shot Doc. It sucks to think what could have been. Maybe your neighbour moving in is a sign to reconnect with that woman from the Spring. Worst case, she says its too late and you can continue seeing SPs, or even try connecting with the new woman across the hall. Either way its worth the call.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Ashley Madison
Toronto Escorts
Top Bottom
Back