Is a Gf/Wife really cheaper?

[poorboy]

I know a guy who says he hands over a third of his income to his wife because she is still in school.

I've heard stories of guys who have to pay out almost 75% of thier income in support and others that lose half or more in divorces.

Is it still cheaper to have a gf/wife, or is hobbying cheaper?

 

[DenWa]

it may be cheaper in hard dollars, but it's ridiculous to compare the merits of having a relationship (especially a wife) to having sex with an SP. If you can't tell the difference, then you're extremely jaded.

DW

 

[papasmerf]

Always remember
Never forget
It is cheaper
To keep her

 

[poorboy]

If I could find a gf, I would stop this hobby in a second, but I'm still single at 32. I was just wondering what the opportunity cost was relative to what I'm spending now.

 

[Big Daddy]

I prefer this hobby to a gf or a wife. There is no jealousy factor involved. My mind is free and I am more productive. The only thing that may make things cheaper is the US-Canadian dollar exchange rate.

 

[lickrolaine]

Depressed now!

My S/O makes me get an sp that does couples,am I a 2 time looser,lol.
If she left me would it be unfair to me if she still wanted to carry on this activity with her (at my expense),lol.Would that make me a 3 time looser?

thinking aloud: If she left me, and I dated an sp,could we charge my ex and if we did would the couple's rate apply?

so many choices,so many bad ones.

trying HARD to be a Winner!

 

[Dancerfan]

A buddy of mine is going through a divorce. His wife got an upfront payout of what the court decided his pension was worth, a $55,000 upfront right now fee. Plus he has to pay child support (which he does not mind), plus he has to pay 40% of his after tax income to the wife for support. The wife accused him of being abusive, so the court ordered him to a) pay for and get anger management training, b) pay for assessment of his mental state c) no over night visits with his daughter, only 1 day every 10 days. The alligations of abuse were never proved in court.

He has lost his house, his dog, his boat, and most of his previous "lifestyle".

In his mind, it is now cheaper to have Molly Maid come in and to visit a MP than it would be to be remarried.

Sounds like he had a bad lawyer,a lot of these bastards will tell you she gets this and she gets that,all to make as much money as they can in a short period of time!

 

[biff_magumba]

Hell hath no FURY !!!

The simple fact is, that if you treat your wife like crap...your gonna pay, and pay big. I don't mean just money either. If you have kids, I can bet that your soon to be vindictive ex-wife is going to make sure you get to see them as little as possible. Keep this in mind and maybe being a little nicer, a little sweeter, won't seem like work after all...
However, having said that. My roomate's ex-wife got pregnant just after he tried to dump her in college, then married him, got him to pay for her education, then had an affair aound the time she was graduating, divorced him, took half of everything he had worked so hard for (he even gave up his education to get a job to support her, and his child) got remarried, and collects child support (of course he doesn't mind THAT), and limits how much he can see their child because she explained to the court that he had a drinking problem...not true of course, it's just that while they were married, he had a second job as a bartender 6 nights a week and drank a little sometimes...
In my opinion, if your girlfriend is a bitch, she's gonna be a bitch when you marry her to. If she's a pain in the ass now...imagine her in divorce court !! As far as I know, no SP has ever sued a client because he was seeing other women.
Figure out what you want...a loving, caring, supportive relationship...or merely a physical release every once in a while with someone that you'll probably never have to invest your feelings into.

 

[milehigh]

My advice

Don't get married, ever, it is not a natural state of being - well maybe for short times,

Get a girl-friend but arms length - no moving in crap.

Best thing: just see lots of women sp mp and real life

And don't get commited.

If you do get committed to marriage, call me, as a friend I will kidnap you late at night and take u to some friends of mine who will de-program you before we release you.

 

[DenWa]

Lil'Miss and I have been together for 5 years. Since almost right away the money has been "ours". We don't have separate bank accounts, we throw everything into the pot and don't designate whose money is whose. She came into the relationship with more money and less debt than I did, and when she danced for a while she definitely made more cash than me. It's not an issue for us. Obviously things change in a divorce. Call me naive but I guess I just believe we'll never have to face that. My parents have been married for 34 years and they're quite happy, so I know it's possible.

DW

 

[TimeofYourLife]

Come on buddy, there is a big difference between a SP/MP and a GF/Wife...I mean, your GF/Wife are with you pretty much 24/7 giving you shit and cleaning up after you for a bargain price when you would have to pay big bucks for me to come over and treat you like a total prince all the time.

 

[notdedyet]

Depending on your emotional needs, the hobby can be 2 orders of magnitude cheaper than marriage.
But there is more than money in the equation at all times. In the early stages of a relationship you will get more emotional and sexual fulfillment outside the hobby at relatively bargain rates - you usually can't afford a professional overnite stay every night !
But beyond the first year - if it lasts - the relationship maintanance requirements balloon while the sexual fulfillment falls and then, for the rest of your life and then some, you are better off seeking professional solace.

In most cases. JMO.

 

[notdedyet]

I'm not sure if I was targeted there - still haven't learned the signals - but I want to make it clear that I thought I was being fairly objective based on a lifetime of my (and others) experience, and I'm not bitter - my X is my best friend !

If you have lived by yourself for a while you come to enjoy the freedom to please yourself without worry for the downside.

 

[onthebottom]

There is nothing more expensive

than "free" sex! There is nothing more expensive, on a per event basis, than a wife.

OTB

 

[buckybruce]

See the bottom of my post....

you either pay up front, or you're on the installment plan. This story is so true, it is a cliche'. You and sweetie can't get enuff of each other. Gettin' it all the time. Soon as the commitment is made, everything dries up. I'm now getting to a age where I wonder whether it was all worth it, getting all this grief just for some sex. Doesn't seem so important now. Easier going to a MPA or SP, no grief.

my 2 cents

 

[milehigh]

No bashing

1. Huge financial risk for someone to enter living together situation.... this may last for a life-time.

2. I believe we as humans are not monogamous. So why pretend. Yes relationships may be great for a year or two or five, but eventually they will hit a wall. Better to be honest with ourselves.

3. In relationships, I should say most relationships, fuck do husbands and wives power trip over each other.

4. Yes right not to hold grudges..... remember people do change.... the person u married is not the same person now, they changed. Besides which, how many friends do u have that last a lifetime.... not many. If things don't work out, just admit they did not work out and try not to hold any grudges and be friends if possible.

5. If humans can ever get beyond exclusivity issue, they will realize they are a lot healthier.

 

[Play[er]boy]

the only valid reason to get married is kids. other than kids, forget about it.

 

[milehigh]

Nagging

Good for some to get nagged.... they miss their moms.

 

[milehigh]

Some sarcasm

Some of my comments were meant for pure sarcasm


However.... want a great relationship....


Then do everything u are supposed do while married, but live separately....

You will appreciate each other, look forward to seeing each other, have your space and not get caught up in petty little arguments that really do not matter.

This is the way I see it.

Also GFE.... Many are looking for complete opposite, believe it or not, a GFE experience can happen just in real life if the right compatability buttons hit, though.

Personally, I find it is nice to see someone without the stress of a relationship.... God knows I've seen enough of those.

But what is wrong with seeing a SP or MP .... no strings attached, and then hooking up with your friends for a night out afterwards... that to me is a perfect night.

 

[milehigh]

Bitterness

Yes everyone does have to stop being so bitter.

If you don't get along with your spouse, do u think you both may have been boxed in, put in a difficult situation, or what ever?

No reason to hate the other person.

My own situation is total estrangement.... however I realize that what our family went through in recent years, this is normal. Seriously, you don't want to know what happened. We do still somehow have respect for each other, and somehow juggle the kids even though we have completely separate lives.

Just gotta realize that is the way it is. It is not the other person's fault.