In love with an sp, what to do...
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..................................................just pm and ask LordLoki how he did it.
..................................................just pm and ask LordLoki how he did it.
I bet that some SPs like certain clients a little more than they should. They are human too. Also, there are select few SPs that I could get attached to, too, given the right circumstances.Unfortunately it is part of being human.
If an SP is as cold as ice who wants to see her?
The problem comes when the SP is warm and human it is all to easy to allow our emotions to run away with us, particularly if they have been bottled up for awhile.
Unfortunately there is nothing profound I can write which will either make you feel better or provide profound guidance. I know that sounds simplistic
But neither of you can gauge what it would be like as BF/GF just from the nice GFE sessions or even a dinner/show date sessions.
To the OP: You are smitten. Enjoy it while it lasts but don't blow it by crossing that line. However, you should keep a cool head by continuing to see different girls who also make your toes curl and your head spin. If you just dwell on the one girl, you might get sexually frustrated, jealous, and disappointed with her if your expectations are unrealistic. She has other clients and perhaps a boyfriend or S.O. Some of those clients could be closer to her than you, or get more mileage than you. If you read a blazing review of her, it might make you feel uncomfortable if you are head over heels with her. Worse, it could break your heart just because she fulfilled an hour long fantasy cum true, not mutual love. Actually, what's even worse is that you get cut off by her if your overtures of affection are too much for her to handle. Also, she may like you, but she doesn't feel exactly how you feel about her so she may sort of cuckold you, play you for the long haul not just in money, but in service (she could be more PSE with other guys, but treat you like her BFE).
Bottom line: Don't ruin a good thing by getting too attached. This way, you can still enjoy her if you have her in moderation. If you can't see her in moderation, then you must get her out of your mind. Best way, is to find another gal that you will fall in love with (just kidding about the love part, but see other hot girls - there are many GFE ladies out there).
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You'd have to be able to maintain her financially, and she'd have to agree with it. There are other factors too (it would help if they can amuse each other, apart from the physical appeal which may not be as important but it helps if there's chemistry).
I'm sure the OP could find a few gals that would tickle his fancy without having to go thru all that expense.
it is quite a skill to be able to give such clear, absolute, helpful counsel.
GPIDEAL is a real gem.
GPIDEAL is a real gem.
I say, keep telling us about it so we can get some laughs.Seriously buddy,it's a buisness for these ladies.Having your favourite and falling for them are differant things.Your gonna crash and burn if you think she is gonna love you.Unless you won the $50 million this past Friday.
After about 50 hours I decided he was more or less a safe person to be with.
After about a hundred hours I started to feel that he was a friend and I could trust him.
After about 200 hours I decided I might be in love with him and started to explore those feelings and discovered they were growing quickly/ Also kicked him out of the "client" category.
I also agree that it is an SP's main job to make clients feel special and that they have a connection. The better they are at their job, the more the client believes it.
Advice: All relationships are based on shared times and experiences. If you can afford to spend a few hundred hours with her who knows, it may work out. Probably not but it may.
Does that help?
Take your mom to your next session to see how they get along. If mom likes her, you're good to go.
Honestly anything is possible but be careful on what you are doing. I know for a fact some guys can date and even marry sps because one of the pastors son married an ex sp and the entire church knows of it.
However, before you decide to do anything irrational understand that you and her meeting was strictly business. You would actually have a better chance if you met her on other circumstances... That being said, as Moviefan-2 posted... its clearly a bad idea to try and start a relationship with sps... its a red flag and many of them made it clear that you will be dropped if you try. All in all go for what you know, but I really think its probably not the best idea. Just thank her for the experience and move on before ( possibly ) we see a thread about an sp needing to drop a client because he fell in love.
However, before you decide to do anything irrational understand that you and her meeting was strictly business. You would actually have a better chance if you met her on other circumstances... That being said, as Moviefan-2 posted... its clearly a bad idea to try and start a relationship with sps... its a red flag and many of them made it clear that you will be dropped if you try. All in all go for what you know, but I really think its probably not the best idea. Just thank her for the experience and move on before ( possibly ) we see a thread about an sp needing to drop a client because he fell in love.
so now we have the "physical metrics".... TIME
at $250 an hour we now have the financial metrics of 1. "SAFE" (50 X 250 = $12,500) and 2. "FRIEND" (100 X 250 = $25,000) ..... and the big daddy 3. LOVE (200 x 250 = $50,000)!!!!!!!!! whoopee
Industry standard??
at $250 an hour we now have the financial metrics of 1. "SAFE" (50 X 250 = $12,500) and 2. "FRIEND" (100 X 250 = $25,000) ..... and the big daddy 3. LOVE (200 x 250 = $50,000)!!!!!!!!! whoopee
Industry standard??
Pretty good advice from someone who should know.You have to remember that the good SPs know how to establish a realistic and friendly connection. But you also have to keep in mind that WE know this as well. Most of what the posters before me have said in this thread are more or less true, and all SPs are aware that this is the way that hobbiests think. If we shared feelings and wanted something to happen with a client (which DOES happen) we SPs would know that we'd have to go way out of our way to prove to YOU that we want to invest real emotions AND time (unbilled time, of course). In the same token, just because an SP is willing to spend a little extra time with you does not mean that she is in love with you - you might just actually be a cool person that she doesn't mind hanging out with.
My advice is to keep a safe distance and to not make assumptions. If an SP wanted to start a relationship for some crazy reason like true attraction to YOU and not your wallet, she would be the one doing the work to make it obvious and doable. Don't put an SP in the awkward position of having to explain to you that you have misread her signals, despite how wonderful things are when you are together. EVEN IF she lets you take her out for dinner.
Just like in real life, friendliness can often be misconstrued.
Pretty much a guideline for any woman. Keep in mind that 200 hours is like 4 weekends away. How can you expect any rational woman to know know a man, let alone know she is in love with him without at least that much time together? Infatuation is fast and fleeting, love grows.
