i'm in a friend zone, help me get out?

[felix]

well, let me explain. the whole story.
last summer, i went on a couple of dates with this girl and i found her quite attractive but it seemed like we weren't right for eachother, lack of solid conversation, and i got brushed off.
after that when i'd see her around, we'd have awkward conversations.
i hadn't seen her in a few months until i bumped into her in late december, and she invited me to her xmas party. i had a good time but it was still kinda awkward.
now, since then i've seen her much more often, and we've actually become friends, no awkwardness, but lately i've been increasingly thinking about her more and more, and i have a date tonight(with another girl) and i don't want to go. but i know i'm in a friend situation, and there is nothing on her end that makes me even think (with signs) that i could somehow get out.
i've been in this area before and its never worked out well.
thoughts?

 

[rip_hymen]

Have you considered that there is no awkwardness anymore BECAUSE you're in a friendship situation now?

 

[felix]

and! i prefer helpful comments from the women. but all comments are welcome.

 

[goalie000]

Relationships have to start somewhere. Time seems to have an effect on them, so go on the date and take things slow and see if something developes down the road on her part. That is if she is worth the Time and Effort in your mind.

 

[felix]

date asking isnt a problem, getting her to think its a date is.

 

[Flower]

The best and most solid relationships are based on friendship, just go with the flow and enjoy/live in the moment. If something happens on a different level ... fine, if not, you've got a friend. Don't push/rush things.

 

[felix]

no fuck buddies.
im not a jerk that way either, giving an ultimatum

 

[felix]

laugh it up boys. laugh it up.

 

[Svend]

I don't know what kind of date it is, but if there's a quiet moment where you're next to each other look into her eyes and see the response when you softly brush her hand.
Don't discuss the situation.
Go slow and see if she wants to take it to another level at her own pace. Alcohol helps.

 

[Svend]

I think it does, getting a bit relaxed in comfortable surroundings will get you a bit further.
There's no need to mock the guy for wanting advice, what's wrong with you?

 

[felix]

i'm a serious....... loser.

 

[red]

hahahahahahaha

LMAO

 

[Meister]

Were on an escort review board and you are saying a fuck buddy is quite inmature? LMFAO at you! If 2 adults agree on a sex only relationship how does that make anyone a jerk? Sounds like you live in fairy fucking tale land!

Fuck Buddy?? I think you are watching too many cheap porn movies.

Out of all sexually active women there might be 5% who may consider a Fuck Buddy. With men, 95% of all men would consider a Fuck Buddy, the rest of them are gay.

 

[hambone]

The best and most solid relationships are based on friendship, just go with the flow and enjoy/live in the moment. If something happens on a different level ... fine, if not, you've got a friend. Don't push/rush things.

According to your initial post, your relationship is gaining some momentum. You specifically asked for a lady's input and Flower gave you the best advice yet. IMHO

 

[red]

According to your initial post, your relationship is gaining some momentum. You specifically asked for a lady's input and Flower gave you the best advice yet. IMHO

while this was kind- it won't help him at all- he will spend the next few years pining for something to happen- which it won't- you need to take some initiative or you will just be a welcome mat your whole life

 

[red]

hahahahahahaha

are you laughing at your own jokes now?

 

[Meister]

yes
I am

Are you on oil?

 

[incognito]

Hi --- , I find you attractive and would like to take you out on a date.

You know, i wish that does work. Women keep looking for mr. right. Guys are looking for right now.

 

[incognito]

I meant the line that red said. There is always some sort of cloak and dagger game in talking to women. It can never be straight forward.