I want to get married: let's talk foreign brides

[clearwaterjim]

And keep in mind that soon she will have to be 16 years of age but if you hurry you can still snag a 14 year old.

 

[james t kirk]

There is no such thing as an airtight prenup in Canada. After one night in your house it has become the matrimonial house, and goes to her in a divorce.

Not true.

It's called a marriage contract and they are enforced.

 

[RTRD]

Thank you...

Here's how the mail order thing works:

You are going to get used for your citizenship. You will sponsor her, she will get Canadian landed status. At that point she will divorce you and try and get you to support her while she lives on welfare. At this point she will either be living with her ethnic boyfriend, or trying to bring him over from her home country.

Get a good air tight prenup agreement and, if you are happy with being used like this, enjoy it while it lasts.

She will NOT love you. This is just another kind of SP. She'll give you your fantasy for awhile until she's been "paid".

...for clearing that up for him

I am AMAZED that peopel really think you can find "love" via mailorder with someone who they share little to nothing in common with.

 

[Don]

...for clearing that up for him

I am AMAZED that peopel really think you can find "love" via mailorder with someone who share little to nothing in common with.

When people are desperate enough, they are willing to try/believe anything.

 

[RTRD]

I understand that....

When people are desperate enough, they are willing to try/believe anything.

..but really - why give up on finding THE REAL THING at only age 27???

Wouldn't the analytical brain say "ok...I see people ALL AROUND ME who seem relatively happy in relationships and seem to find them somehow...perhaps it is something *I* am doing that is the problem"?

Really...I understand some of you old bastard have just become so jaded regarding relationships with women that you care nothing for them beyond the skill they exhibit sucking your dick or riding cowgirl, but that isn't what is going on with the OP. He wants to find love - but if you see everybody around you finding it, doesn't that say "hey, perhaps I should change my approach"?

Because there is simply no way the odds of finding REAL LOVE are going to be better via mail order than in the real world. You find a bride - and she might in fact be grateful and loyal for awhile. But love?

Well, I guess if you have never known love then it won't matter that you aren't getting it...hell, there is a good chance you might not even notice...

 

[onecooldude]

Hey hey hey...
Let's make this fair... Where can I get a mail order husband?

He should be no less than 6'2", buff, blonde/blue, gorgeous and very submissive. Domestic skills are a bonus, but I'll settle for a huge cock.

I am everything you ask for darling, except for the submisive part. Oh, no need for mail order, just come over to this cowboy in Dallas, TX now. I shall make sure you have the freshest fillet mignon of all time. Did I tell you these Dallas cow girls can really ride? Lol!

 

[goodtime]

Do you know which service used?
Normally in these types of things, ater they get to know each other, does the guy go there to visit or does she come here?

Friend married a Thai, another a Philippino, a coworker sponsored a S. American lady thru such dating site/service. Two happily married with kids, one didn't work out with external factors would've been good match.

You can visit there or sponsor girl to visit here. A large number of EE and Chinese girls use these service now a days.

True, some are for citizenship or $, while others are looking for love or companionship outside their circle.

Take your time get to know a person before jumping into anything.

 

[xix]

Cuba

What brand would you choose?
Thai? Russian? Moldovan? What else is there, I'm new to this

Also, I'm only 27
do you have to be reasonably well off and older to qualify for one?

I want a woman to love me regardless of how disturbing I am/look/smell

Go to Cuba or D.R go into to town stand at the central market with a sign.
"Gringo Soltero" - rought translation - White boy from up north from a rich country single , desperate and plenty of $$$$.

I would be shocked if there isn't a catfight for you within 13 minutes.

- besides what is wrong with the ones here?
- did you ever stop to think it might be you?

 

[freshbreath]

- did you ever stop to think it might be you?

stopped and thought about that quite some time ago, and of course it's true
I'm not outwardly offensive or anything, I just don't have any kind of charm or interesting personality that seems to attract western women
I'm not about to try to forcibly change myself somehow or adopt a fake/contrived attitude either

I know some older men who seem happily married to foreign brides, but I think they actually went overseas to find one, or it happened when they were there for other reasons
perhaps the best way instead of these agencies

 

[Sexy_Dave]

Married...Why

Love and Marriage are mutually exclusive, you needn't have one to have the other.

What brand would you choose?
Thai? Russian? Moldovan? What else is there, I'm new to this

Also, I'm only 27
do you have to be reasonably well off and older to qualify for one?


I want a woman to love me regardless of how disturbing I am/look/smell

Brand??? Are you looking for a bathroom cleanser?

Love and marriage transcend culture and/or ethnicity

Instead of demanding you need to be giving.

"I love you ’cause I need to
Not because I need you
I love you ’cause I understand
That God has given me your hand"

 

[RTRD]

You honestly think...

stopped and thought about that quite some time ago, and of course it's true
I'm not outwardly offensive or anything, I just don't have any kind of charm or interesting personality that seems to attract western women
I'm not about to try to forcibly change myself somehow or adopt a fake/contrived attitude either

I know some older men who seem happily married to foreign brides, but I think they actually went overseas to find one, or it happened when they were there for other reasons
perhaps the best way instead of these agencies

"I just don't have any kind of charm or interesting personality that seems to attract western women I'm not about to try to forcibly change myself somehow or adopt a fake/contrived attitude either"

...that between learning the social skills that could serve you in life...not just with women but in all social situations, at work, etc...and trying to create something artifical with someone you do not share a culture with, and will find yourself always wondering "why is she with me"...you rather go with the latter?

Dude - let me tell you something - honest to God, from the heart. The single greatest experience in the world for a man is to know the TRUE love of a woman. Not "worship" - not "devotion"...not the indentured servitude that you could best case hope for on the path you are electing - true love.

My wife was a 40 yo never before married woman when we married. We met some 3 years earlier - when she was in the peak years of her "Sex In The City" lifestyle. Single, successful woman who had never met a man worth marrying (or more to the point worth giving up her lifestyle for), and had no intention of having kids. She was all about Cosmos and her grilfriends and her career. She had plenty of suiters - hell she dumped a guy who want to marry hervwhen I came back into the picture (we had a "break" that lasted about a year). She gave that up for me. Heaven knows what she sees in me (ok, I'm one charming, sexy motherfucker...but I was trying to be modest)...but can you imagine what that feels like for me as a man? To know that this woman PICKED ME to build the rest of her life around? And did so even though the life she had was perfectly grand? Our union is far from perfect - she gets on my goddamn nerves sometimes, and I do the same for her - but can you imagine what it is like to look at somebody and think to yourself...that person LOVES ME...would do ANYTHING for me...they are my PARTNER...and I don't have to wonder what is really motivating them?

I understand what you mean about "charm" and all that. You don't have what it takes to be a "player" and you don't want to bother trying to get it. NP. I swear I understand.

A woman who LOVES YOU will not care about those things. A woman who LOVES YOU will LOVE YOU for the dweeby greek you are. You mean to tell me you don't see that kind of love all around you?

Typically - in my observation - young men who are in the place you are now got there because their perceptions of reality have ben tainted by the media. They think that all women are supposed to look like Maxim Girl / Beer Commercial Chicks / Strippers / Escorts. And they seem to forget that they themselves are just "average"...because by definition that is what most of us are...average.

Here is my advice. Look, I don't doubt that somewhere there are guys for whom the mail order thing actualy worked out. Especially if you are willing to comprimise on what it is that you want from a relationship. BUt I am highly confident that success rate is lower than the one for those of us who just waded into the pool and took out chances with the women all around us.

The way you feel - believe it or not - there are TONS of women who feel the same way. That becuase they aren't the "hot" chick in the circle they travel in - because they are "into" Star Wars or whatever...because they just don't "get" clothes...because they refuse to play dumb and do the "Paris Hilton" thing that seems to attract 20 something guys...that no guy will ever like them.

You need to go talk to those girls. They are at every bar, every party. Stop being a chicken shit (because you know that is what the real problem is - that is the one you have to face...you and I both know you see escorts and want a mail order bride because it is rejection you fear...) and go talk to them. Just be yourself...because you are right, pretending to be someone else just doesn't work. Just start off with "hello, my name is dweeb, what is yours?". That is a conversation starter with the right girl - I swear to God it is. And if she doesn't go for it - fuck her. Move on.

Don't give up on life kid. Not yet. You are just 27. My best friend is 42 and has still yet to have a relationship - and now that he has discovered escorts probably never will. Don't end up like that.

Love is worth the time and effort. I swear it is. And even if you end up like some of these losers on this board, bitter about women and life...at least be able to say to yourself that you HAD something at one point...something more than servitude that collapsed once the citizenship came in.

 

[freshbreath]

thanks for the insight

truthfully I was just feeling a little selfdestructive and down on myself when I made this thread, heh
was needlessly feeling sorry for myself; loser talk

don't worry, I'm climbing back out

 

[Don]

thanks for the insight

truthfully I was just feeling a little selfdestructive and down on myself when I made this thread, heh
was needlessly feeling sorry for myself; loser talk

don't worry, I'm climbing back out

Good to hear that.

 

[to-guy69]

Wake up pardner. Getting mail-order bride doesn't come with the right to be a asshat or jerkwad.

Treat her well, and odds are, she will not care about how you look (how you smell on the other hand....).

...until she figures out how things work in our country and then leave your ass once she has legal status here.

 

[james t kirk]

I liked the rest of your post.

But I disagree with you here.

I have met a lot of single women over 35, single, never married, no kids, etc. who are very average, average looking, average career / job, etc. who think that they "won't settle" (for anything less than John F. Kennedy Jr.) Surely he˙s out there looking for her.

I am AMAZED at the number of single 30 something women who think that they are truly entitled to have it all. Maybe it's nothing new, or maybe its a byproduct of our generation. I don't know.

It is my experience that women today have far more unrealistic expectations for their men than the other way round.