ok guys i just want to get something off my chest and since you guys are the only souls that know my hobbying addiction, i feel i need to tell someone..... well i think i am falling for a sp, in my 10yrs plus hobbying i don't think i ever came across any sp like this one..... we click, the chemistry is amazing, and we generally care for one another.... i know if i ask her out she would say yes, which is why i don't.... i constantly have her on my mind, like a teenager crushing..... problem is i am married and changing my life is not a option, but yet when we are together she makes me feel alive and younger.... i already know i will not go any further then just client and sp, but i fear she might push the boundries and entice me into something stupid.... the thing is that i have not told her i am married, but i have dropped enough hints about this topic.... anyhow i feel better now, like i said i just needed to get this off my chest....
i think i am falling......
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Dude, get a grip. Seriously. Nothing good can come of these feelings of yours (reason #243 why the maxim "trust your feelings" is utter bullshit).
I know, I've been there too, there's a certain SP that I've grown quite fond of but that fondness remains in the realm of fantasy. Keep it there. That's where it belongs.
I know, I've been there too, there's a certain SP that I've grown quite fond of but that fondness remains in the realm of fantasy. Keep it there. That's where it belongs.
You can think of her as your secret lover - as long as it lasts as long as the session.
You have the best of no worlds without strings attached to this one. Why ruin that?
Also, you may not like what you see the closer you get, and then there could be pain and suffering.
The status quo is fine. Don't go deeper. You can love her out of compassion & as a secret 'friend' too, but romantically is a whole new ball of wax.
You have the best of no worlds without strings attached to this one. Why ruin that?
Also, you may not like what you see the closer you get, and then there could be pain and suffering.
The status quo is fine. Don't go deeper. You can love her out of compassion & as a secret 'friend' too, but romantically is a whole new ball of wax.
Trust me I know exactly where you are coming from. My difference is I'm not married and we have become more than just friends. This is where it gets hard. She is an SP and that's her job so you have to be able to cope with the fact that she is going to be doing perhaps multiple guys daily. That's the hard part, of you can get by it then it might work.
If you can't replace the money that this sp makes on a daily basis, it won't work out. Sp's do it for the money and I she might have a hard time giving it up. Also, many sp's (I'm not saying she is doing this) claim that they want something normal down the road, but most of it is just agreeable chit-chat that they give a client to make a connection.
just to make it clear, but the sp sometime txt me out of the blue to just to ask me "what's up", and we usually go way over the time when we meet (1hr over last time).... so you guys tell me if there is any chemistry.... but like i posted i will never leave my SO, too much pain and i will be broke as a joke after everything.... but it nice that i can vent on terb, since everyone in my life would hate me if i told them..... p.s - i will not say who the sp is, it will prob effect her biz...
Give your head a shake man....go talk to a divorce lawyer before you do something really stupid. You will lose your house, most of your money and then be paying support.
Man...you better get a hold of yourself....
Before she gets hold of your wallet...
I doult very much anything you say or do will affect her biz
Simply ask her out for dinner.
FInd a night she is free
See if she accepts...no strings, no money......just you and her for a few hours.....yes a few hours.
If she does it free......and wants to do it again.....you have something....
If she does it only for cash......you have your answer.
Nlo need to think further until you crossed this bridge
AND KEEP US POSTED!!!
FInd a night she is free
See if she accepts...no strings, no money......just you and her for a few hours.....yes a few hours.
If she does it free......and wants to do it again.....you have something....
If she does it only for cash......you have your answer.
Nlo need to think further until you crossed this bridge
AND KEEP US POSTED!!!
I don't know what's more stupid -- you thinking that she "cares" for you or that you're willing to throw away your "real" life for something that's a fantasy. This must be a mid-life crisis. Stop hobbying and buy yourself a new car -- it's cheaper and won't ruin your marriage.
Suggest that you stop paying for the loving and see how long it all lasts. The best test of an SP relationship.
The best post of the day. The captain is dead on here. I suggest you take his advice.
And that's why you shouldn't hobby when you're married: the frustration if you find something better. No wait, I think there's a better reason why you shouldn't hobby when you are married, if only I could remember....
Real useful advise there. You think that and your on here ? Disconnected from this site or what.
I hope your joking, if not.....take a hike bub.
now this is what we call a True GFE experience. care to share her name? 
you should convince her to do a seminar on how to provide true GFE, coz we need more SPs like her.
you should convince her to do a seminar on how to provide true GFE, coz we need more SPs like her.
