its probably too late but you could claim your phone was stolen and youll have to buy a new one. if you were using SP slang she may be clueless on what the message meant. youre other option is to just come clean and admit youve cheated on her, but dont beg for her to stay with you, tell her youll understand if she wants to leave and that you love her. tell her she should break up with you and she probably won't !
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DO NOT come clean. DO NOT.
This girl may be toast, but there is no reason to out yourself in a way that she can communicate generally to everyone that she knows. If you say you have been using SP's it is not going to be long before her entire family and all her friends know that, and then forevermore when you date any girl in this city, sooner or later, she is going to find out that you had a previous girl ditch you because of your use of prostitutes.
DO NOT DO THIS.
Better to deny deny deny. Then she can claim she found a funny text message and you can dispute that and say she must have been mistaken and for people outside the immediate circle of her friends it will never amount to a hill of beans.
You may not be able to save this particular relationship, but there is no reason to shoot yourself in the foot.
I mean it could be too late already, girl has the potential to take a screenshot of her text message, post it to facebook, and tag the OP as being in the picture, broadbanding it to everyone in his life. If she is under 30 and social media savvy there is a very real possibility she could do this if she goes ballistic.
id only come clean if shes very very smart. otherwise sure deny....but if she is in love with him she will probably forgive him if he admits to it is all im saying
"fuji " is on the right track IMHO, you DO NOT come clean about these things. He is precisely right! Women are very unified in the sense that they immediately reach out to each other regardless of the cause. When you think they told no one, they have told their entire circle of girlfriends who in turn sleep beside their partners when the sunsets and you become a discussion piece. Women because they are more usually more emotionally invested in relationships tend to breakdown far worst than men and seek comfort in the shelter of friends. Again I question the OP solidarity with his woman, is the relationship already on the rocks, or is their relationship quite strong with no fuck-ups on his end presently. A guy like that could easily well get the benefit of the doubt; however if he has been caught or has no credibility left in his relationship his chances are slim. Even if she stays with him, EVERY action he makes will be brought into questioning. That IMHO is not healthy relationship to maintain.
YOU NEVER SELL YOURSELF OUT.....NEVER!! You will not be rewarded for your honesty, simply you have just hung yourself!
Cheers!
YOU NEVER SELL YOURSELF OUT.....NEVER!! You will not be rewarded for your honesty, simply you have just hung yourself!
Cheers!
I think my approach was bad above ( my 1st post ).....there are too many holes in it now I see! Why provide more information than needed, by sending additional texts, this will only add more information to be searched out on the internet it may even lead her to this website. No good!
Depending on the OP value in his woman's eyes he will need to back away from this hobby for a while and allow things to blow over while he rebuilds his credibility in his relationship.
This is a good approach. I agree any further trickery digs the hole deeper.
"She's seen it by now. Any action by him that indicates he is guilty is going to nail the coffin shut. The WORST thing he could do now is get caught trying to cover it up. As they say, the coverup is often worse than the crime.
His best course of action is to clean up any other trace of his infidelities, stay away from the hobby until this all blows over, and hope that she doesn't think too much about it, and if she does, express surprise and deny, deny, deny.
Engaging in any further trickery is just going to dig the hole deeper.
His only real hope of saving the relationship is that she is so sure that things are going well that it is beyond her imagination that he might be using escorts and is therefore willing to believe (i.e., practically lie to herself) that all is well despite some pretty damning evidence"
I like "Fuji" advice
Cheer!
Depending on the OP value in his woman's eyes he will need to back away from this hobby for a while and allow things to blow over while he rebuilds his credibility in his relationship.
This is a good approach. I agree any further trickery digs the hole deeper.
"She's seen it by now. Any action by him that indicates he is guilty is going to nail the coffin shut. The WORST thing he could do now is get caught trying to cover it up. As they say, the coverup is often worse than the crime.
His best course of action is to clean up any other trace of his infidelities, stay away from the hobby until this all blows over, and hope that she doesn't think too much about it, and if she does, express surprise and deny, deny, deny.
Engaging in any further trickery is just going to dig the hole deeper.
His only real hope of saving the relationship is that she is so sure that things are going well that it is beyond her imagination that he might be using escorts and is therefore willing to believe (i.e., practically lie to herself) that all is well despite some pretty damning evidence"
I like "Fuji" advice
Cheer!
I don't know, I beg to differ in this assessment. Do women normally want to advertise their "perceived" inadequacy in bed by telling THEIR OWN social circle that the BF pay to sleep around while they are available? Their pride, their vanity WILL NOT allow them to make the situation any worse than a break up. My two cents.
Deny. Like others have said. If she ever brings it up, you say you were searching for info on the band from your buddy and you wondered why he never answered. Know you know why, as the email never got to him. You could also pick some words similar to jasmine Eros and say the predictive text must have totally screwed up the message. Then don't bring it up ever again. It's not a big deal in your mind. You could say you were searching for a xmas gift relating to this whole thing. Then say you just got her something completely different.
Uh huh!
Denying when it is undeniable , especially equipped with preconceived lies that sound ridiculous will never work. Like many said, I think the situation is way beyond the OP control. Let her decide, and pray that whoever Jasmine is she looks MUCH better than the GF, otherwise, watch out for a homicide
. Best answer to her question is "I plead the fifth", in English " I don't know anything about it".
Denying when it is undeniable , especially equipped with preconceived lies that sound ridiculous will never work. Like many said, I think the situation is way beyond the OP control. Let her decide, and pray that whoever Jasmine is she looks MUCH better than the GF, otherwise, watch out for a homicide
. Best answer to her question is "I plead the fifth", in English " I don't know anything about it".The OP has been gone for 4 days now. I think he is dead. Check the papers for any bodies that have washed up.
A Really expensive Xmas gift could fix it. Leave me $5000 and a Fatty in a brown envelope next to the Milk and Cookies and I will fix you up.
Santa.
A Really expensive Xmas gift could fix it. Leave me $5000 and a Fatty in a brown envelope next to the Milk and Cookies and I will fix you up.
Santa.
This can be arrange but will have to be a late one as I won't be back till late February and I will have to be in the middle of the action too
too late now but i would have pretended you got a virus and it was sending porn spam. 2nd hit on google when I type "jasmine at eros" is this, http://video.whiteclick-eros.net/video/47851/jasmine-waltz-sex-tape-full I'd send her link after link associated with this page and tell her your phone went crazy.
oh and another thing women will do when they catch you is say nothing, and just watch you, for months even, waiting for evidence to corroborate their suspicions before they explode on you. so even if she didn't mention a thing, you're still in deep.
shoulda had a hobby phone.
oh and another thing women will do when they catch you is say nothing, and just watch you, for months even, waiting for evidence to corroborate their suspicions before they explode on you. so even if she didn't mention a thing, you're still in deep.
shoulda had a hobby phone.
This would've been a very good (and believable) story. Wonder what happened to the op, he's gone MIA.
All three of these could potentially have worked.
To add... yahoo messenger can send texts and will show as a number or a name associated with it. Takes 20 min to set up yahoo accounts too... so a disposable phone, and a few yahoo handles and voilà!
And have that or a few another kinds of perfume samples in plastic baggies in your trunk of a car (any sears has a perfume counter...). Like you were trying to figure it out and remember some.
And this is just wickedly accurate and could happen also.
