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Suggest a different restaurant, unless it was too late to cancel the reservation. Or perhaps go with the flow and make a game out of all the obvious stares and whispers. Maybe she is an exhibitionist and gets off on the attention. But unless you are in an establishment where you are known or might see someone you know, simply laugh it off as a hobby risk.
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Fernie, have you seen her before? If not I'd suggest for future reference to meet outside of the restaurant. Otherwise, I am pretty shocked that she wore something inappropriate of she had previously dressed up to standard.
Having said that I think the others posters who answered were correct in saying that you should quietly suugest you'd prefer to eat elsewhere- or order in!
Having said that I think the others posters who answered were correct in saying that you should quietly suugest you'd prefer to eat elsewhere- or order in!
Take her to one of the fish and chips places listed in:
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It is when your paying them- I think you could politely mention the type of establishment it is it while setting up your appointment in advance...if she is a more flamboyant type you may have to be even clearer...or choose a new placemidLifeCrisis said:
rolo
If you didn't instruct your employee properly, that's your fault. You can be more explicit with her next contract. In the interim, you would certainly never embarrass an employee in public.rolo514 said:
I gotta agree with Rolo on this one, MLC. If someone books a dinner date and lets the SP know where the restaurant is, she should take the time to know what is "normal" dress for the establishment and show up accordingly.
Now if she just happens to dress a bit sexier and more revealing than most women, that's a matter of personal opinion. The same black cocktail dress that looks "common" on one woman can be outrageously sensual and eye-catching on a woman who has the curves and struts with attitude.
And let's face it -- most of us are there not just for dinner, but so everyone else can see what a gorgeous lady is at our side. If all you really wanted was dinner and "dessert", you could have ordered room-service to the hotel or had something catered.
I am curious as to what Fernie defines as "trashy", given that the vast majority of SPs I've seen showed up in an outfit that would be just fine for a 3-4 star restaurant, and even a few 5's.
Now if she just happens to dress a bit sexier and more revealing than most women, that's a matter of personal opinion. The same black cocktail dress that looks "common" on one woman can be outrageously sensual and eye-catching on a woman who has the curves and struts with attitude.
And let's face it -- most of us are there not just for dinner, but so everyone else can see what a gorgeous lady is at our side. If all you really wanted was dinner and "dessert", you could have ordered room-service to the hotel or had something catered.
I am curious as to what Fernie defines as "trashy", given that the vast majority of SPs I've seen showed up in an outfit that would be just fine for a 3-4 star restaurant, and even a few 5's.
Fernie doesn't state in his opening post if the girl was told where dinner would be? There is a difference, however subtle, in suggesting 'grabbing a quick bite to eat' or 'I've made reservations at Sotto Sotto'.
However, if she knew what the dress code should be, then she is definitely in error. If you want to rescue the evening about all you can do is state that you have changed your mind about where you want to go.
Some guys want us to dress trashy. They enjoy being seen in the company of a hot and slutty woman. But usually we would be going to somewhere more appropriate, such as a pub.
Always be clear in what you want, most of the girls love to please.
However, if she knew what the dress code should be, then she is definitely in error. If you want to rescue the evening about all you can do is state that you have changed your mind about where you want to go.
Some guys want us to dress trashy. They enjoy being seen in the company of a hot and slutty woman. But usually we would be going to somewhere more appropriate, such as a pub.
Always be clear in what you want, most of the girls love to please.
I would personally as an SP ask where we would be attending for dinner, and assess the situation from there.
If you, the client did not think that I was appropriately dressed, then if I were you I would suggest that we just have a drink and proceed to have dinner at the hotel through room service and continue the date in this manner, suggesting next time to the SP that she dress more conservatively if she were to attend in public with you again.
Remember, it is your call, your time, your money...if the SP does not like it....then try someone else.
If you, the client did not think that I was appropriately dressed, then if I were you I would suggest that we just have a drink and proceed to have dinner at the hotel through room service and continue the date in this manner, suggesting next time to the SP that she dress more conservatively if she were to attend in public with you again.
Remember, it is your call, your time, your money...if the SP does not like it....then try someone else.
