"I Love What I Do!" - A Thread For Thought!

[brainydonkey]

I would say that if not all, many of the Escorts like what they do specially if they are in this business for long time. I have met some Escorts who have great communication skills and if they want, they can easily get some other job but they do not want to do the other job.

The Escorts who do not like their job, do not continue in this profession for long time normally.

Once I asked a girl "Don't you get bored having sex every day ??"

She replied "I am a hooker, man. I love it". Her answer was correct because I can feel her enjoyment when I spend time with her.

Brainydonkey

 

[Alanis]

Re: We are all different!

So vivre la difference! We cannot say that just because we feel a certain way and hold certain world views everyone sees it that way. And if someone else sees it differently they are not wrong, it is just another way to feel about and view things! How dare we say that they thus "have low self-esteem", or any other disparaging adjective for that matter, that is just pompous, arrogant and narrow minded. Sorry to be so "brutal"!

Don't forget, Ben, that I have been exposed to a large number of SPs on my path over the years. We all talked, debated, and expressed our opinions. Of course, we all have our worldviews and I am not trying to convince anybody to my perspective, as you erroneously interpreted. If anything, I would point out to illusions.

Let me give you a little informal statistic: I never met a single girl that HONESTLY admitted she loved what she did. Could be my luck. If you could only come to any MP waiting room and listen to our conversations. And then, let the client come in and see a dramatic change in everyones' attitudes...

Girls get into the biz for different reasons. This is not the whole picture, but from my experience, the ones that were doing it on the side, had other alternatives to pursue upon their exit. The ones that stayed in the industry for more than 10 yrs, had-by large-no other opportunities to better themselves and continue with the same or similar financial benefits. If the profession is so good and "lovable", why the SPs don't encourage their daughters/cousins etc. to pursue it as a great choice of a career? Maybe you tell me instead.

If I were an escort, I guess over time I would convince myself I loved what I did, as much as I was trying to believe I liked being an MPA. We like to be right about our choices, so even if they don't feel ok, we persuade ourselves they do. I am not denying entirely that there are girls that might like what they do to a certain extent, but I suspect there are a minority. I do have a lot of respect for them, because I KNOW how hard it is to like it.

 

[Alanis]

P.S.
If there were no significant objections and suspicions about "Do you love your job?", why would this statement be present on the adds in the first place? Tell me, Ben, why there is a need to convince others? Why don't we have other professionals to announce loudly "Listen people, I am lawyer/other etc. and I LOVE my job!".

For the girls, putting something like "I am very eager/enthusiastic about meeting new people" could be more catching perhaps. Or even better, rephrasing the original statement to "I love sex" (if legally doable?). In this case, sex is not seen as a job you get paid for, but fun and a sort of a hobby. More importantly, no objections could be really raised, since almost everybody likes sex in general.

 

[Avery]

I never ask escorts why they chose to be one (that would be rude and intrusive), but many have volunteered the information.

They usually say something like, "I love the company of men, I love sex, and I can make good money doing it, so I thought why not?" Most of the ladies who have told me this have some things in common. They are usually over 30 and are either part-time escorts, or are full-time escorts who are fairly new to the business and are at a crossroads in their business or personal lives. I rarely see younger escorts, but I suspect that their reasons are much more mercenary.

Those who seem to like it the most know that it's a phase of their lives, not a career.

 

[brainydonkey]

Those who seem to like it the most know that it's a phase of their lives, not a career.

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I do not agree fully as many of girls have accepted this as their career and plan to continue for many years to come. Yes, they may have to look for some alternative career when they are 45 or older because then it becomes difficult for them to find clients.

Brainydonkey

 

[Willywants]

Do We Have A Consensus??

Just wondering!!
From what I have read, it seems that, not what I suspected, but what I have known, is indeed true!
There are a number of ladies in the business, for whatever reason, who truly "like what they do", again, for whatever reason, that's for them to answer, and then there are those who do not like what they are doing, but endure in it for their own reasons!
For those who do not enjoy what they are doing, please don't suggest otherwise in your bios.
I realize that anyone enticed by such a statement, in finding the encounter perfunctory and less than rewarding, has the ability to vent, on such review boards as TERB, with a negative review which could damage a ladies rep as a provider and affect her sources of business and income!
There is no doubt that inherent freedoms in this democracy allow a lady to include whatever the hell she wants in her bio, and for the lack of such questionable statements as being discussed here, any substandard service will be negatively panned anyway!
I just find such statements to be ingenuous.
On a personal note, I would tend not to engage the services of a lady trying to convince the world that she really does enjoy what she is doing!
This is a personal preference and opinion and is certainly not intended as a slam against all the fine ladies in the industry!
My choice of a lady with whom to keep company is based on so very much more than a simple statement.
In consideration of my pocket book and the spend involved for an encounter with a lovely woman, I prefer not to be misled!

Willywants (to be honest and upfront here!)

 

[brainydonkey]

We do not have A Consensus

I do not think that there is anything wrong in being optimistic. Tell me one thing, whatever job somebody is doing, if he/she tells himself/herself all the time that I hate this job then after some time, he/she will actually start hating that job. When somebody says that I love my job, it gives us an optimistic feeling whether he / she is truthful or not about that. When you ask any person "How are you", you will expect a reply "Fine" or "Good" rather than "I am not fine".

Let us take another example. I have appointed many people for my company. During the interview, if a candidate gives me the feeling that he wants to join the job because he needs the job badly, he is out. On the other hand, if a candidate gives me the feeling that he wants this job because he is really interested and he will be committed to the work, it gives me a positive feeling and it is counted when I make final decision.

Do you agree ???

Brainydonkey

 

[Willywants]

A Different Perspective ......

...and one I guess I had not really considered!
It does make sense in a sense!
But let's not lose sight of the fact that the ladies in question are vendors of a product, not applicants for a job position!
Certainly nothing wrong with taking the optimistic route if it makes you feel better about what you are doing and about yourself! But once those "better" feelings are in place, project them into the performance of the job!
That brings us full circle back to the same old ..... don't tell me you enjoy what you do, show me!!

Willywants (to spend his bucks wisely!)

 

[Kathy P]

"I Love What I Do!"

A client once said to me after a heat-drenched encounter "either you love what you do or you're a fucking great actress!" My reply was that "I'm a seductress not an actress." I was being truthful.

It is too bad that there aren't more people in the world who are willing to place value in taking people on their word and giving them the benefit of the doubt. What possible difference does it make why an SP is in her profession or that she's getting paid well? Alas, I think the root of this dilemma has less to do with those questions and more to do with a desire on the part of some men (I stress SOME) to control female behaviour in general. It has always been my theory that many people in society are threatened by women who work in this business because (a) they are women making choices about who and when they have sex which is very threatening to a male who thinks that they should be controlling that, (b) a woman can be independent of a marriage/common-law relationship with a man when she has financial independence, (c) a woman doesn't have to subjecate herself to control and power issues with men when she can support herself and (d) men don't want to believe that women are equally as capable of having multiple sexual partners without emotional attachment.

So, my dears, I think this is a classic power and control struggle. The analysis should be reversed and the spotlight should be on the fellas that have a problem with women who want to have complete independence for their bodies, their sexuality, their time and their finances. Perhaps questioning someone's sincerity or authenticity is a way of detracting from what's really at issue here: if a man wants to be with an SP he has to submit to her conditions for the get-together to take place. Many men, consciously or unconsciously are bothered by that. Think about it: this is the one profession where women are more successful and dominant and more successful financially then men. That's got to be a threatening proposition.

As for the cocoa and good book in bed versus a 2-hour erotic, mind-blowing, body exhilirating roll-in-the-hay, I'll throw the cocoa and the book out of bed and keep the man. By the end of our session, he'll KNOW "I love what I do" is not merely advertising pitch!

 

[brainydonkey]

Re: Re: We are all different!

The ones that stayed in the industry for more than 10 yrs, had-by large-no other opportunities to better themselves and continue with the same or similar financial benefits. If the profession is so good and "lovable", why the SPs don't encourage their daughters/cousins etc. to pursue it as a great choice of a career? Maybe you tell me instead.

I think that the reason that SPs don't encourage their daughters/cousins etc. to pursue it as a great choice of a career is not because it is bad profession or because they hate what they are doing but because of double standard in the society. We have put a label on this profession that this profession is bad. For example, how many of us (guys) are using our real names on this site ? (This includes me because I am also not using my real name here). In our society, if a girl is changing his boy-friends as she is changing clothes, it is acceptable to us but SP is not acceptable. What is the difference between the type of girl I mentioned and a SP ? There are many guys out there who go to pubs just for picking these type of socially reputed girls.

Probably, the other reason that this profession is not socially accepted is that it is still illegal in most of countries (except in Canada, Nevada in USA, Holland & Thailand). When a profession is illegal, there are bad elements who come in the picture. Also, the media is one of the responsible factor. Media is not having any problem if Madonna is showing her nude and soft sex photographs in public but they have problem with profession of SPs.

Brainydonkey

 

[Willywants]

A Real Gem!

Great post Kathy P!
Love it!
Any gent entering an encounter not knowing it is truly in the lady's control, despite dollars paid, should perhaps rethink dabbling in the hobby!

Willywants (to just lay back and enjoy!)

 

[Alanis]

Re: Re: Re: We are all different!

We have put a label on this profession that this profession is bad.

That's what I have been wondering for a while. Why do you think this it is considered bad? Let's generate some answers.

My biased answer would be that we decided long time ago that intimacy was something special that couldn't be for sale. Similar negativity goes for being with somebody just for material benefits. Love for sale? We frown upon these cases as well.

It is not only "bad" for women to engage in it, but also for male prostitutes as well. So, gender and power struggle, although quite valid, can not account entirely for the negative value attached to the activity.

I also see your point Kathy about women threatening status quo by being successful in their profession. My two thumbs up for them! I've always been admiring ANY (be it an escort or other) women who did well for themselves. Nevertheless, you can find other, typically feminine, professions that women could be more successful than men, e. g. school teaching (I guess), fashion modeling (!), Hollywood stardom to name a few. We don't label those professions as "bad" only b/c women are quite independent financially, especially when it comes down to fashion models. There are also mega-successful female politicians, M. Theacher, for a measure, or talented female artists (the Nobel Prize winners), or scientists, or shrewd businesswomen all over the world (a smaller percentage than men, but we are on the way to question it as well).

Also we could say that it's not women-by large- who are extremely successful financially, but escort agencies' owners that could be often male, e. g. a recent case in the media.

I see your point, Kathy, although I think there is more to it.

What is the difference between the type of girl I mentioned and a SP? [/B]

A fundamental one: they don't take money for what they do.

Media is not having any problem if Madonna is showing her nude and soft sex photographs in public but they have problem with profession of SPs. [/B]

It is a matter of degree. We don't mind, and even sometimes can't wait, when our favourite stripper takes her clothes off in public as well...