Some Premature Ejaculation Solutions
Hello Hurry,
I hope this information I found can be helpful/useful for you.
Premature ejaculation is ejaculation that occurs immediately prior to or just after insertion of the penis into the partner, without any sense of voluntary control. It is a common sexual phenomenon, occurring in approximately one-third of men under 25, and in about 10 percent of men older than 25. General causes of premature ejaculation include overstimulation, anxiety over sexual performance, and stress. But it is also seen as a potentially conditioned response. For example, if a man's earliest sexual experiences were situations that might have required rapid ejaculation, or where rapid ejaculation was encouraged, then it may have become a learned habit. Another element leading to premature ejaculation is a male's lack of awareness of the preliminary sensations that lead to orgasm, making him unable to control the process leading to ejaculation.
Regardless of the cause of premature ejaculation, there are solutions that are considered to be highly effective. Two methods that have been written about extensively are the stop-start method, and the squeeze method. The stop-start method works to make a man more aware of his sensations as he is approaching orgasm. His partner manually stimulates his penis while he focuses on his sensations. When he feels that orgasm is approaching, he has his partner stop the stimulation. The extreme sexual tension will be defused, and then the partner can begin restimulation. Once the couple becomes proficient at this, then the procedure is applied to coital situations — in a heterosexual relationship (also adaptable to a homosexual relationship), it is suggested that the couple attempts this first with the woman on top, followed by the side to side position, and then male on top.
The squeeze technique is commonly executed with the premature ejaculator laying down, knees bent, so that his partner who is sitting up and facing him, can sit between his legs. The partner stimulates the genital area until the penis is erect, then applies a squeeze lasting 3 or 4 seconds by holding the penis with the thumb on the ridge between the head and shaft, and the first two fingers situated on either side of the ridge opposite the thumb. This squeeze eliminates the desire for ejaculation. This technique should be repeated several times during genital stimulation, so that foreplay can continue without ejaculation. Once mastered, this method can be used in intercourse where a woman (or male partner) inserts her/his partner's penis and sits on top of him motionless. When he feels close to ejaculation, s/he lifts her-/himself off and administers a squeeze, then returns to the sitting position. Over time this results in ejaculatory control.
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The gels and creams you are referring to are desensitizing lubricants. They contain a mild anesthetic (7.5 percent benzocaine) that causes a temporary numbing sensation after being applied to the skin. The purpose of this desensitization is to help men to keep their erections and to postpone or prevent premature ejaculation (a.k.a., to last longer). However, since the penis has less sensation, sexual pleasure for some men could be reduced. Plus, if a condom is not worn when using these products, the gel or cream can rub off onto the other partner's vulva, anus, or mouth, diminishing sensation and pleasure for that person as well. And no, if a latex condom is worn when using desensitizing lubes, it won't disintegrate since they're water-soluble (not oil-based). Being a quick fix (and ineffective for some men), desensitizing lubes don't provide a permanent solution. Instead, Alice recommends that you rethink what lasting longer means — that it has more to do with teaching your body a new way of responding. You can learn to slow down, to recognize the "point of no return" (the moment right before your orgasm is inevitable), to back away as you get closer to orgasm, and to postpone the inevitable to a more desirable time. The "Stop-Start" method and/or the "Squeeze" technique are two exercises to try.
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/2023.html
Side Note: I use the "Stop-Start" method. It's great and it works.
Annessa
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