I have lost my father
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It's funny how the things you think about a person can be so random. My favourite thoughts of my dad are sitting at the kitchen table doing hours of math homework. He could always tell when I was losing my patience and set me free.
I'll never forget the look on his face when I suggested we play a game of ping pong (I hadn't done that with him since I was a kid). I had never seen him move so fast and smile so wide.
Watching him pick up his acoustic guitar and play it for the first GF I ever brought home.
He's still with me so I can't imagine the feeling of lose but I thought I'd share a few pleasant thoughts about fathers.
Can't imagine how you feel. All the best. FC.
I'll never forget the look on his face when I suggested we play a game of ping pong (I hadn't done that with him since I was a kid). I had never seen him move so fast and smile so wide.
Watching him pick up his acoustic guitar and play it for the first GF I ever brought home.
He's still with me so I can't imagine the feeling of lose but I thought I'd share a few pleasant thoughts about fathers.
Can't imagine how you feel. All the best. FC.
Sorry to hear of your loss.
I'm sure my mother is watching over us. Helping GT get out of trouble. Had a crappy childrenhood because of my Father, but mom's pasting got us to speaking terms.james t kirk said:
My dad is alive and not so well, and we haven't talked since May. Not a petty argument, but also not serious enough that it should have gone this long. Since his retirement, he tends to stay up til pre-dawn and sleep in til noon. At this very moment, I can picture him sitting baffled in his boxers wondering why the hell I chose 2:10 this morning to break the 10-month silence. We didn't talk long but I'm sure the next conversation won't take 10 more months. Thanks for reminding me of what's important Baci. Sorry for your loss.
Wow! There’s a lot of love in the room…thanks guys I really appreciate it. Thank you for all of the pm’s as well. 
I was hoping that my tale would be helpful and it seems that it has been; WhaWhaWha that was very touching, I hope it doesn’t stop there.
There was this post about a year ago….
Here’s a little something some of you may want to try….
During the time of my increased visits with them I came up with the idea of candidly filming them with my digital camera; very easy to pull off with seniors lol. I would place the camera on the kitchen counter while they were cooking / bickering, then move it to the dinner table while we were eating. I have about 4hrs. of them recounting their day, taking the piss out people, and fighting…the best part. After the novelty had worn off I burned all the clips to disc and would show them to my parents a little at a time. They never really did grasp how I did it lol. Anyway, those once silly little clips have now become my most valued possession.
Many of you mentioned that I should be proud of what I did that day…I am. However I more than a little scared of what the future holds for me. I walked out of the hospital that night very pleased with myself and only had a few small break downs. I managed to keep it together at the funeral home and kept an upbeat attitude right through to the wake. Each night in between I would go home and think to myself when all of this is over I’m going to be a mess. The whole process is quite exhausting and really demanded so much of my attention that I didn’t have much time to let my emotions go. Well it’s all over and that hasn’t happened yet. I’ve had several break downs but not as often or as much as I would have expected. I attribute this to my involvement at the hospital and the fact that I have no regrets about our relationship, but it doesn’t seem right. Am I going to hit a wall one day??? I feel like I’m only one step ahead of it and that one day I’m going to fall flat on my face with grief.
Thanks again guys!
Baci
I was hoping that my tale would be helpful and it seems that it has been; WhaWhaWha that was very touching, I hope it doesn’t stop there.
There was this post about a year ago….
The last line really struck a chord in me that day, so much so that I re-evaluated my relationship with my folks and dramatically increased the time I spent with them. Thank you for that, it made a world of difference.anotherhappy said:
Here’s a little something some of you may want to try….
During the time of my increased visits with them I came up with the idea of candidly filming them with my digital camera; very easy to pull off with seniors lol. I would place the camera on the kitchen counter while they were cooking / bickering, then move it to the dinner table while we were eating. I have about 4hrs. of them recounting their day, taking the piss out people, and fighting…the best part. After the novelty had worn off I burned all the clips to disc and would show them to my parents a little at a time. They never really did grasp how I did it lol. Anyway, those once silly little clips have now become my most valued possession.
Many of you mentioned that I should be proud of what I did that day…I am. However I more than a little scared of what the future holds for me. I walked out of the hospital that night very pleased with myself and only had a few small break downs. I managed to keep it together at the funeral home and kept an upbeat attitude right through to the wake. Each night in between I would go home and think to myself when all of this is over I’m going to be a mess. The whole process is quite exhausting and really demanded so much of my attention that I didn’t have much time to let my emotions go. Well it’s all over and that hasn’t happened yet. I’ve had several break downs but not as often or as much as I would have expected. I attribute this to my involvement at the hospital and the fact that I have no regrets about our relationship, but it doesn’t seem right. Am I going to hit a wall one day??? I feel like I’m only one step ahead of it and that one day I’m going to fall flat on my face with grief.
Thanks again guys!
Baci
friends don't let friends fall. you can always count on your friends baci to help you through the thick and thin...baci2004 said:
My best friend regrets not override the family, to give the DNR order. Father begging everyday to let him go.baci2004 said:
Baci, as someone here mentioned before, no schedule to griefing. Not measure by tears but love in our heart.
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fuck ... that was a tough read ... baci, it goes without saying you have my deepest empathy ...
I dunno ... I never know what to say ... I know there are those that may not relate to someone wanting to share such a personal loss openly on TERB, regardless of your reasoning ... for some reason I never forget it when someone does.
I dunno ... I never know what to say ... I know there are those that may not relate to someone wanting to share such a personal loss openly on TERB, regardless of your reasoning ... for some reason I never forget it when someone does.
My condolences...
I lost my father suddenly when I was a teenager. I always try to imagine how my life might be if he were still around....be grateful that you got to spend so much time with him and that you were close to him. I know words don't help much at times like this though...
I lost my father suddenly when I was a teenager. I always try to imagine how my life might be if he were still around....be grateful that you got to spend so much time with him and that you were close to him. I know words don't help much at times like this though...
I too read this only today. My heart goes out to you big guy, having lost my father and more recently my step-dad, it strikes a chord.
It's true; Every time I spend a nickel foolishly I can hear him barking at me.eyeofthedragon said:
Be well my brother!
Took a great deal of courage. My condolances. Lost my Mom almost a year ago. She had been very ill for a long time, and was (in my opinion) maybe a couple of weeks away from complete loss of dignity.
Uncharecteristically, she one day began to demand my brother bring his 3 kids over, she had'nt seen them for a couple of months (they live 2 hrs away) Never had done this before.
They had a great visit on a Sunday, I was there with my wife and our 2, and had a good day.
11:00pm that night my Dad called and she had died while sitting in a chair in her room. I never paid much attention to the stories you hear about such things, but she absolutely knew what was going to happen and had made sure she saw all of us, and was dressed (Never before at that time of night) and out of bed in a chair when it happened.
A very surreal experience. My hear goes out to you Baci.....I'll have a drink for your Dad next time I open a good bottle of scotch......
Uncharecteristically, she one day began to demand my brother bring his 3 kids over, she had'nt seen them for a couple of months (they live 2 hrs away) Never had done this before.
They had a great visit on a Sunday, I was there with my wife and our 2, and had a good day.
11:00pm that night my Dad called and she had died while sitting in a chair in her room. I never paid much attention to the stories you hear about such things, but she absolutely knew what was going to happen and had made sure she saw all of us, and was dressed (Never before at that time of night) and out of bed in a chair when it happened.
A very surreal experience. My hear goes out to you Baci.....I'll have a drink for your Dad next time I open a good bottle of scotch......
