Don't listen to anyone on here except for me. Buy this girl the biggest diamond ring you can afford and ask her to marry you.
Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead!
Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead!
how to separate feelings for a SP?
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Oh Pabby....you know we're cool and I know where you're coming from, but few guys have the balls to play the game you so enjoy.
I've been meaning to tell you - I am happy to report that a dear friend of mine has accepted the proposal of a man she met as a client. She is happy, and I'm happy for her! So, yes, it can happen.
But, if I told you the story of what this guy has had to put up with, and what it has cost him, I think you even you would balk.
IM469's attitude is certainly safer for guys to adopt. (Not saying that he should call you names. He's probably just a little backed up and needs to clear his pipe.)
Dating is a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two people with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple. The most common idea is two people trying out a relationship and exploring whether they are compatible by going out together in public as a couple who may or may not yet be having sexual relations.
Commitment - is what dating may lead to. Or it may not. When you reach that point in the relationship, then exclusive would apply for both. I believe my original reply stated that.
If you are dating a civilian, she still has the right to date others, until you both make a commitment to see only each other. No commitment is done on a first date but somewhere along the
path, if you continue, it would hopefully happen. Why should a SP be different then anyone else. You were talking about dating, not commitment. Either of you might also decide that the other is not someone they wish to commit to, and you stop dating. There is no difference in dating. If commitment is achieved, then the same rules apply, whether she is a civilian or SP.
If a person is seeing SPs to fill an emotional void in their life, they should stop seeing SPs and find companionship. It doesn't have to be a significant other, but it shouldn't be SPs. If someone is in a lonely place in their life, SPs and strip clubs and webcam models or other places where women will pretend to like you should be avoided. They'll make you feel good about yourself and feel wanted, which will drive you to doing it more and more. It becomes a HUGE money sink and prevents the person from actually finding what their life is missing.
If you tell them and they don't listen, oh well. If you're a good friend you're brutally honest, but you also know that once you've made your opinion clear, all you can do is support their decision...no matter how wrong it obviously is to you.
If you tell them and they don't listen, oh well. If you're a good friend you're brutally honest, but you also know that once you've made your opinion clear, all you can do is support their decision...no matter how wrong it obviously is to you.
Awwww TP, that is so beautiful and you know I am a sucker for such beautiful love story. Just shows how powerful love can be and can concur almost anything, but is such a rare experience and some never get a chance to go through it. Kind of reminds me of this song w/o the tragic ending part of course http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p7eH9qnH8TM&sns=em ...thx for sharing
Don't mind IM469, I think he's still bitter for not being invited to the circle jerk.
Thanks for the definition, but if you reread my first post again, its obvious to everyone except you, that I was referring to the committed relationship not just casually dating.
Best way to understand his feelings are to put yourself in his shoes.....
I'd make an appt with her and fuck her silly. Get all pornstar with a good COF.
This will help you to see his side of things. Its what a good friend would do......
I'd make an appt with her and fuck her silly. Get all pornstar with a good COF.
This will help you to see his side of things. Its what a good friend would do......
Dating one could be for two reasons. The emotional side, or you both find each other appealing. Neither may lead to a full commitment. I have not disagreed with what will happen if a commitment does occur. Only when that would occur. Or do you have trouble with comprehension in reading, ideas other then your own ? SP are woman first, their occupation is secondary, while just dating. Even with the emotional side, you would still have to determine if it would work, in all aspects. No different then dating, a civilian.
Judging from the meandering positions from thread to thread it strikes me you are possibly suffering from Alzheimer or trying to back peddle from the colossal lump of fermenting crap you originally deposited in your thread regarding chasing relationships with your SP followed by pathetic eventual regret suffered by those who don't believe in your dribble.
Yes some one will win the lottery and with similar odds - someone will have a real GF relationship after seeing their SP - both have the same mathematical odds. Anyone using an SP to replace a real GF needs help.
Just take a break man, and move on. I can spend half an hour putting a long ass reply on my post vs. ur replies and demonstrate how u have fabricated and made up facts, and running with crazy ideas but what will that do, absolutely nothing but waste my time. I have no interest in going back and forth with u. I have said my piece and u have said your. If somebody cares they can look at our posts on here and figure it out on their own without us polluting their minds. I suggest leave it to them and stop this nonsense. Obviously u are a prolific poster with lots of time for banter or drivel or sporadic troll moments. Honestly, I don't care what u have to say and have lost this respect for u based on your responses and fabrications to my original and 2nd statement statement.
So for respect of the OP and the original discussion stop troling this topic of this intended purpose.
My time is more valuable then this nonsense u are trying to drag me into.
So for respect of the OP and the original discussion stop troling this topic of this intended purpose.
My time is more valuable then this nonsense u are trying to drag me into.
Interesting thread as I prefer to have some sense of emotional connection with a SP but this is an extremely hard balance to achieve - likely on both sides. while I do 't want to view my partner as strictly a sexual plaything neither do I want to be viewed solely as a source of revenue.
But like dating in real life it requires a lot of searching to strike the proper balance.
My issue is when either party is being misled. I recently stopped seeing my favourite SP when it became clear from others that I was nothing but a financial transaction. However she often did things to indicate that I was special which I was willing to accept in the parameters of our relationship. Just as I was willing to accept that she had lots of clients. I could only envision a real relationship after she retired.
In the end what the issue is the lack of true honesty on both parties.
But like dating in real life it requires a lot of searching to strike the proper balance.
My issue is when either party is being misled. I recently stopped seeing my favourite SP when it became clear from others that I was nothing but a financial transaction. However she often did things to indicate that I was special which I was willing to accept in the parameters of our relationship. Just as I was willing to accept that she had lots of clients. I could only envision a real relationship after she retired.
In the end what the issue is the lack of true honesty on both parties.
There is an advantage to someone as old as me (58) seeing a much younger SP (24). No matter what feelings may happen, there's no chance in hell that a real relationship is going to form, other than friendship. I don't have the money to be a sugar daddy.
True honesty - and interesting turn of phrase. Especially difficult since this business is fundamentally based upon deception (fantasy; a proxy for reality).
As you look back, How much of the "deception" was her versus how much was it you? We tend to hear and see what we want to see...
I agree with the above but I don't think you should necessarily retreat if you start to develop feelings. I think it's important to remember that you don't have legitimate feelings for her because no matter how close you think the two of you are....You really don't know her. You know the side she's willing to show you, but not the full person......Hell you probably don't even know her real name.
I think the best thing about the client/SP relationship is not so much experiencing the good things that a physical/emotional relationship has to offer, but more so NOT having to experience all the BS that comes in a relationship.
I have a SP that I see regularly. We see each other, we have an intimate encounter, she provides all the benefits of a GFE in the alloted time. When the time is up, she leaves and until next time we go on with our lives with no interference or obligations to each other and we're left to do as we freely choose. Sure I care about her, I even give her little gifts when I see her. But why complicate things by nurturing or chasing feelings and emotions that I know aren't legitimate???? Just take the sweet situation for what it is and enjoy it.
I find many visitors develop deep feelings that only get deeper in time. It is the responsibility of both parties to keep their feelings in check and to take care of one another while they are together. Many people prefer to see the same girl over and over rather than testing the waters as they develop a loyalty with the provider of their choice. Keeping in touch via messages or phone whenever possible is a good way to touch base when you can. I always have some sort of feelings for those who see me in one way or the other. It is only natural for me personally to make a meaningful connection… It is like caring for the person to the best of your ability and wanting the best for their well-being… Whether it be with Domination, tantra or gfe, as long as both people get a meaningful experience that has good memories that is the goal… maybe switching between 2-3 sp.'s would be good to not become too attached, although some prefer to share with one lady at a time have fun & be safe!
have fun & be safe!Ask Brian: https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?472465-What-s-the-next-step-in-this-journey
Which ever way it goes, you`ll get your answer, same as he did.
Which ever way it goes, you`ll get your answer, same as he did.
Having had a few special arrangements with SPs, all which were at their suggestion. You will develop feelings for them, no difference then anyone else, you spend a lot of time with.
I have had dinner made for me, gone out as a couple, before returning back for the final festivities. You can enjoy each others company, both in and out of the bedroom. The sex will be more intimate, because of the time you spend together, doing other things. Sometimes you just have a social meeting without any sex, or envelope required. They are the special friendship, you may develop with a SP. At some point they will end, due to various reasons. Yet cause no harmful effects on either side. But this is still a paid encounter, not to be confused with actual dating, or more then that special friendship, you have now had the pleasure of having. If an SP wishes more, then what you are doing, I am sure as a woman, she knows how to let you know.
