how to separate feelings for a SP?

[joe_blown]

Okay, I hope this is the right area to post this thread. If not, I'm sorry.

I have a personal friend that has an issue, and he is not listening to my suggestions. I'm not a psychologist or counseller. I have a friend who has seen an SP for a while, and he seems to have some feelings for the SP - no I will not the provide name. How does my friend separate the feelings and move on without cause financial and emotional/psychological damage to himself? What should he do? If you prefer, PM me. Thanks.

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

I have a friend too.

Tell your friend: she's a professional and is not interested in you socially. You have two choices: one is to keep seeing her, spending money, getting more attached, and setting yourself up for a bigger fall when it finally ends. Option two is to respectfully let the lady know that you have these feelings and that you know she can't return them so, for this reason, you have decided to stop seeing her. If the off-chance that she really does like you, she can demonstrate that by asking to see you off the clock. It's unlikely that she will...but that's life.

 

[asterwald]

Remember she probably hates having sex with you just as much as the cashier at McDonalds hates her job but smiles anyway.

 

[freestuff]

Okay, I hope this is the right area to post this thread. If not, I'm sorry.

I have a personal friend that has an issue, and he is not listening to my suggestions. I'm not a psychologist or counseller. I have a friend who has seen an SP for a while, and he seems to have some feelings for the SP - no I will not the provide name. How does my friend separate the feelings and move on without cause financial and emotional/psychological damage to himself? What should he do? If you prefer, PM me. Thanks.

He needs to take a shit or get off the potty.
He should ask the SP out on a real date and see what happens.
Only after he crashes and burns will he be able to move on.
Or maybe she feels the same way for him and they can have a serious relationship.

 

[asterwald]

And why do people here have so many friends who share their hobby habits?

 

[joe_blown]

And why do people here have so many friends who share their hobby habits?

I'm not sure what you point is. Just because you don't have any friends doesn't mean I don't have any. Thanks for your great wisdom - NOT.

 

[freestuff]

Tell him to get professional help.

Isn't that why he's seeing an escort?

 

[TeasePlease]

Isn't that why he's seeing an escort?

Thats professional help with the symptoms, not the problem. Lol.

OP - Blue Spheroid offers good advice. I would add that if your friend chooses to pursue an industry relationship, don't ever get ahead of the girl. Watch what she does, not what she says, and don't fall deeper than her.

 

[d_jedi]

Remember she probably hates having sex with you just as much as the cashier at McDonalds hates her job but smiles anyway.

Dude.. I'm totally sure she was flirting with me when she smiled! DON'T KILL MY FANTASY!!

 

[canman1]

As Miss Jessica Lee has stated, she could be just good at her job. But a difference should have occurred, on both sides if your friend thinks she is interested in more. If the SP does have feeling for your friend, the sex should have intensified since the first encounter. Some of those clues would be seen and felt, by your friend. The other area would be if she has made any effort to make their relationship more personal, then a client and SP. Ask your friend those questions, if the answer is no to both, then he should just accept the fact she is not interested. Not much different for the answers, then from dating. If a woman is interested, she will give you those clues, that she wishes more then what you are presently doing. Your friend needs to accept reality, by looking at what is occurring. Then he should be able to move on, without any issues. Or know whether to bring up the subject with her.

You can also develop feelings between you and a SP, but it will still be a professional relationship only. If you both enjoy each others company, that should occur. But does not translate to actual interest, in the more traditional relationship. That would be more like being friends with each other, with benefits. So your friend has two areas that could apply.

 

[lazysausage]

Unless she sees him off the clock, calls him, talk alot , talks about their future, and gives him sex because she indeed has feelings and wishes to have a future with the person, then forget it. just another gold digger

 

[Ridgeman08]

And yet another; I've fallen for my SP thread... There are numerous threads on this subject, and literally thousands of posts.

Here's my take on it... Dating an SP will never work.

Recreational sex (ie "sport fucking") is different than emotional sex.

Recreational sex is what this "Hobby" is all about and that is what "your friend" is having with his SP.

Emotional sex is what a relationship is all about. The two cannot coexist... because one will be the demise of the other. I know that is not going to be a popular opinion on this forum, but it is almost always the case.

Us guys "hobby" because there is something missing in our lives: gratifying sex! Those of you with SO's and who are still in love with those SO's, aren't getting what they want, so they turn to SP's. That is what I call recreational sex. Once the SO finds out about it, the relationship almost always inevitably ends... because the spouse is unable to separate the two types of sex.

SP's hobby because there is something missing in THEIR lives. The financial means to live the sort of lifestyle they want. That is not to say that some (many) also enjoy their jobs, because many of them do. Sex FEELS good! (If done properly of course... as with all things there are exceptions to every rule...) I know many SP's say they do this for a living because they just enjoy sex so much, and while I'm not disputing that they DO in fact enjoy it, (I know first hand that many of them do...) they don't do it for THAT reason exclusively, because then they'd be doing it for free. LoL

Occasionally, there comes a time when recreational sex turns into emotional sex (for one or both partners...). If this feeling is mutual, (which by the way almost never happens...), that is when you consider dating an SP. However, unless the SP is willing to quit the business and find a new vocation and/ or means of living their lives to the standard they want, (e.g. Sugar daddy...) and the hobbyist is going to stop seeing other SP's, then this relationship is pretty much doomed. Its the nature of the beast. That inevitability is almost always 100% guaranteed.

Time and time again have I read and heard stories of SP's and clients trying to make a go of it, but unless they are both completely committed to the relationship and cut themselves off completely from other recreational sex partners, it won't last... It may survive for awhile because everyone is having fun, but eventually the inevitable will happen. In this case, the only possible solution is to have recreational AND emotional sex with the same partner... exclusively.

Having said all that, tell "your friend" to avoid all this drama, and see another SP right away.

 

[lazysausage]

And yet another; I've fallen for my SP thread... There are numerous threads on this subject, and literally thousands of posts.

Here's my take on it... Dating an SP will never work.

Recreational sex (ie "sport fucking") is different than emotional sex.

Recreational sex is what this "Hobby" is all about and that is what "your friend" is having with his SP.

Emotional sex is what a relationship is all about. The two cannot coexist... because one will be the demise of the other. I know that is not going to be a popular opinion on this forum, but it is almost always the case.

Us guys "hobby" because there is something missing in our lives: gratifying sex! Those of you with SO's and who are still in love with those SO's, aren't getting what they want, so they turn to SP's. That is what I call recreational sex. Once the SO finds out about it, the relationship almost always inevitably ends... because the spouse is unable to separate the two types of sex.

SP's hobby because there is something missing in THEIR lives. The financial means to live the sort of lifestyle they want. That is not to say that some (many) also enjoy their jobs, because many of them do. Sex FEELS good! (If done properly of course... as with all things there are exceptions to every rule...) I know many SP's say they do this for a living because they just enjoy sex so much, and while I'm not disputing that they DO in fact enjoy it, (I know first hand that many of them do...) they don't do it for THAT reason exclusively, because then they'd be doing it for free. LoL

Occasionally, there comes a time when recreational sex turns into emotional sex (for one or both partners...). If this feeling is mutual, (which by the way almost never happens...), that is when you consider dating an SP. However, unless the SP is willing to quit the business and find a new vocation and/ or means of living their lives to the standard they want, (e.g. Sugar daddy...) and the hobbyist is going to stop seeing other SP's, then this relationship is pretty much doomed. Its the nature of the beast. That inevitability is almost always 100% guaranteed.

Time and time again have I read and heard stories of SP's and clients trying to make a go of it, but unless they are both completely committed to the relationship and cut themselves off completely from other recreational sex partners, it won't last... It may survive for awhile because everyone is having fun, but eventually the inevitable will happen. In this case, the only possible solution is to have recreational AND emotional sex with the same partner... exclusively.

Having said all that, tell "your friend" to avoid all this drama, and see another SP right away.

There are such cases as sp and client falling in love and getting married, but only if certain aspects of the quota are met.

 

[Ridgeman08]

There are such cases as sp and client falling in love and getting married, but only if certain aspects of the quota are met.

Yes, I'm aware of that. Which is why I included that line:

In this case, the only possible solution is to have recreational AND emotional sex with the same partner... exclusively.

And even then, those cases are likely trackable by the fingers one hand.

 

[joe_blown]

As Miss Jessica Lee has stated, she could be just good at her job. But a difference should have occurred, on both sides if your friend thinks she is interested in more. If the SP does have feeling for your friend, the sex should have intensified since the first encounter. Some of those clues would be seen and felt, by your friend. The other area would be if she has made any effort to make their relationship more personal, then a client and SP. Ask your friend those questions, if the answer is no to both, then he should just accept the fact she is not interested. Not much different for the answers, then from dating. If a woman is interested, she will give you those clues, that she wishes more then what you are presently doing. Your friend needs to accept reality, by looking at what is occurring. Then he should be able to move on, without any issues. Or know whether to bring up the subject with her.

You can also develop feelings between you and a SP, but it will still be a professional relationship only. If you both enjoy each others company, that should occur. But does not translate to actual interest, in the more traditional relationship. That would be more like being friends with each other, with benefits. So your friend has two areas that could apply.

Thanks for the advice.

 

[joe_blown]

Unless she sees him off the clock, calls him, talk alot , talks about their future, and gives him sex because she indeed has feelings and wishes to have a future with the person, then forget it. just another gold digger

Thanks.

 

[joe_blown]

...and see another SP right away.

I totally agree.

 

[explorerzip]

Okay, I hope this is the right area to post this thread. If not, I'm sorry.

I have a personal friend that has an issue, and he is not listening to my suggestions. I'm not a psychologist or counseller. I have a friend who has seen an SP for a while, and he seems to have some feelings for the SP - no I will not the provide name. How does my friend separate the feelings and move on without cause financial and emotional/psychological damage to himself? What should he do? If you prefer, PM me. Thanks.

If he's not listening, then it's his choice to pick the potential financial, emotional, etc damage to himself. I don't think there's anything logical that you can say to him that will get him to stop. You could badger him until he relents, but then you put your friendship at risk. All you can do is wait until his house of cards comes tumbling down and don't be an ass when it does.

 

[pablice]

There is nothing wrong with feelings. I can't believe some of you are so scared to show some emotion to an SP or MPA even though you feel it. What is wrong with this exactly? Feelings need to be managed, but not suppressed. Life is so beautiful to waste it by running from intense moments when the opportunity is there. In my head I know I always come back to my SO no matter how intense it gets. This has opened many beautiful moments i have never experienced with anybody but industry girls. Although these moments are very rare it is quite foolish to run from them b/c of being scared of hurt. When you guys are old and frail and can't hobby anymore you will regret not fully enjoying this hobby.

Don't get me wrong many times it's very fun just to fuck or talk or whatever, but don't limit yourself just to one, especially as we are so fluid.

 

[IM469]

There is nothing wrong with feelings. I can't believe some of you are so scared to show some emotion to an SP or MPA even though you feel it. What is wrong with this exactly? ....... When you guys are old and frail and can't hobby anymore you will regret not fully enjoying this hobby.

I feel sorry for those who confuse paid intimacy with normal social interaction. I also feel sorry for SP & MPA's subjected to unwanted emotional burdens from individuals incapable of social interactions with a female and then use paid service providers as emotional surrogates.

Thank God when I am old and frail I will have no regrets that I had complete fulfillment in the enjoyment of the services I paid for and never wasted my life in confusing the services with the real life experiences that were shared and not purchased.