How to say good bye?

[passsionplayer69]

I have been with the same indy SP for several years now. I am thinking about moving on to another provider. Things are going great, just thinking it's time for a change. How do I say good bye? Do I tell her that I am moving on or just not call her again. I wouldn't feel right not letting her know. Yes it is business but after several years, you build a connection. What if I decide to return to her later? And I thought being married was difficult.

SP's, what is your take on this? What is the proper way to handle this?

 

[Klute]

Ask her for a referral. She should get the hint.

It seems cold to just walk away if you have seen her for a few years.

Klute

 

[Jennifer_]

don't say anything.

It's kinda part of the business. There are people who I saw regularly for a long time who just disappeared.

I worry about a few and wonder how a few are doing - but I don't begrudge any of them.

It's a bit nicer to think that perhaps they moved onto another phase of their lives than to wonder which girl they chose over me lol.

There are people who I used to see very-regularly who come to see me way less regularly nowadays.... perhaps I'm harder to get ahold of now - perhaps they've met other ladies who they enjoy seeing... I don't over-think it.

She may wonder what is up with you - I can't see her questioning you if you show up after a long absence. We are kinda used to it.

 

[blackrock13]

don't say anything.

It's kinda part of the business. There are people who I saw regularly for a long time who just disappeared.

I worry about a few and wonder how a few are doing - but I don't begrudge any of them.

It's a bit nicer to think that perhaps they moved onto another phase of their lives than to wonder which girl they chose over me lol.

There are people who I used to see very-regularly who come to see me way less regularly nowadays.... perhaps I'm harder to get ahold of now - perhaps they've met other ladies who they enjoy seeing... I don't over-think it.

She may wonder what is up with you - I can't see her questioning you if you show up after a long absence. We are kinda used to it.

The best advise.

 

[TeasePlease]

don't say anything.

It's kinda part of the business. There are people who I saw regularly for a long time who just disappeared.

I worry about a few and wonder how a few are doing - but I don't begrudge any of them.

It's a bit nicer to think that perhaps they moved onto another phase of their lives than to wonder which girl they chose over me lol.

There are people who I used to see very-regularly who come to see me way less regularly nowadays.... perhaps I'm harder to get ahold of now - perhaps they've met other ladies who they enjoy seeing... I don't over-think it.

She may wonder what is up with you - I can't see her questioning you if you show up after a long absence. We are kinda used to it.

That was some great insight. Thanks, jenn.

 

[Celticman]

It's a bit nicer to think that perhaps they moved onto another phase of their lives than to wonder which girl they chose over me lol.

Jennifer, that is a wonderfully feminine comment. I love it

 

[wazup]

I suspect the conversation might go something like this,

You........ I know we`ve seen a lot of each other the past few years, but I was thinking of moving on to another provider.

Her....... OK

 

[mightymouse007]

I would write them a letter. But hey, that's just me. I can't speak for everyone else. Just tell them in the letter how much you enjoy seeing the SP and the great time you had together. And inform her you will be moving on to another phase of your life or something.

I think something like this is more appropriate especially if you are a regular client of that SP. Although its part of the business, there is a mutual relationship, and you don't want to have the SP wonder or worry about why a regular client suddenly just disappear to thin air.

 

[Casa_Nova]

Offer a severance package?

 

[Celticman]

I suspect the conversation might go something like this,

You........ I know we`ve seen a lot of each other the past few years, but I was thinking of moving on to another provider.

Her....... OK

OMG, that is funny !!

 

[drstrangelove]

I would write them a letter. But hey, that's just me. I can't speak for everyone else. Just tell them in the letter how much you enjoy seeing the SP and the great time you had together. And inform her you will be moving on to another phase of your life or something.

I think something like this is more appropriate especially if you are a regular client of that SP. Although its part of the business, there is a mutual relationship, and you don't want to have the SP wonder or worry about why a regular client suddenly just disappear to thin air.

My mother once told me to be very careful about putting things in writing, you never know when it may come back to haunt you in the future. Of course, Mom wasn't thinking about this scenario, but hopefully you'll get the picture.

 

[mightymouse007]

My mother once told me to be very careful about putting things in writing, you never know when it may come back to haunt you in the future. Of course, Mom wasn't thinking about this scenario, but hopefully you'll get the picture.

I get your picture, but I would assume anybody participating in this type of hobby are consent adults. They should at least know how to clean up their mess.

But hey, if you want to look at the bigger realm of things, there are risks in everything.
It could come back to haunt you, even if you think everything is perfect.

How would you know there isn't a surprise camera recording your session?

 

[frankcastle]

I'd say good bye. I know that there are a few that I wish I had the chance to wish them well when they left the biz.

There's no harm is saying good bye. You were or should have been free to see other women so telling her that you are moving on is your right and choice.

 

[fuji]

"Well I'm not going to be able to see you for awhile, but I sure have enjoyed our time together. You may hear from me again in a couple of months."

 

[Petzel]

How would you know there isn't a surprise camera recording your session?

Are you worried about spying and conspiracies? Sounds a bit paranoid.

 

[Aris1300]

How about cutting it off cold turkey. No explanation. I tried to cut off mine about two years ago. She started sending me desperate texts and I went back.

 

[lurkerdick]

···with a facial

 

[Petzel]

One SP once told me about a client she saw every 2 weeks for about a year and then he just stopped. She confided that they had come to know each other quite well (family details etc) and she was hurt that he just stopped seeing her with no good bye. I would've at least said sorry i can't see you anymore and goodbye.

 

[ultistar]

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?391505-What-is-the-best-way-to-leave-an-ATF

Similar thread a few weeks back; before it degenerated into a pissing match, as they always do.
Wish Jennifer had chimed in then; would have saved me a lot of grief

 

[Born2Star]

They all say treat people the way you want to be treated. OP, if your reg SP retires (and knowing she won't see you outside), what would you like her to do?