How much has the loss of websites (Craigslist/Backpage) reduced your casual hookups?

[dshaw4096]

I get it. Use the words you want.

You could be the type that think the N word is okay to describe black people too.

I was simply pointing out the possible sexist nature of not calling the men he was including with the same label.

I wasn't being sexist. I referred to whore (and I love whores) because I was referring to the paid female service providers, there were no girls going for unpaid hookups on either site.

The men at the time was referring to were Casual Encounters which is two guys jerking off, usually at least one gay the other maybe bi or just married and horny. Those encounters were not paid.

As for the word, I don't view it as negative, just descriptive. Men that are paid for sex are certainly whores too but I would prefer to call them a "male prostitute".

A "service provider" for me is the likes of Rogers or Bell, and they don't have the same skill set so I don't really use that "name" in casual internet banter.

Who ever came up with SP should have found something more catchy and unique.

 

[Jasmine Raine]

I wasn't being sexist. I referred to whore (and I love whores) because I was referring to the paid female service providers, there were no girls going for unpaid hookups on either site.

The men at the time was referring to were Casual Encounters which is two guys jerking off, usually at least one gay the other maybe bi or just married and horny. Those encounters were not paid.

As for the word, I don't view it as negative, just descriptive. Men that are paid for sex are certainly whores too but I would prefer to call them a "male prostitute".

A "service provider" for me is the likes of Rogers or Bell, and they don't have the same skill set so I don't really use that "name" in casual internet banter.

Who ever came up with SP should have found something more catchy and unique.

Okay so you want to call paid female service providers a whore but men that are paid for sex, who you say are certainly whores too, you would prefer to call them a "male prostitute".

But that is not sexist???? Okie Dokie

I figured a whore is a whore is a whore. Male, female, trans, fluid, etc

Thanks for enlightening me on the difference. LOL

As someone I am sure said somewhere in this thread, back to the topic at hand.....

 

[RachelNicole]

I once carelessly referred to clients as John's in a thread and another member privately messaged me with concern. His note was kind and nonconfrontational. He said that the term John was not a very nice one and was equivalent to calling us hookers or whores. And he said that men preferred to be called clients. I understood and edited my post because my intention was not to be derogatory nor was it meant to insult. I respectfully apologized to that member for being thoughtless. Just sayin..if you are not meaning to be offensive than why argue semantics. Seems petty and impolite.

 

[dshaw4096]

Okay so you want to call paid female service providers a whore but men that are paid for sex, who you say are certainly whores too, you would prefer to call them a "male prostitute".

But that is not sexist???? Okie Dokie

I figured a whore is a whore is a whore. Male, female, trans, fluid, etc

Thanks for enlightening me on the difference. LOL

The general discussion was around Casual Encounters, 99% of the men there are not looking to be paid to hookup. All the women are. Whore implies being paid.

Whore has a female connotation, probably because in the old days there were few male "whores" looking to be paid compared to females. Just a fact of life, women are prettier and men are horny dogs.

Whore has an automatic connotation of being female, due to historic usage. I prefer to use words that express what I mean succinctly as opposed to being "politically correct" and trying to make everything gender neutral.

I am ok with calling a trans (male to female) a whore, find with a CD guy being a whore if he dresses up like a girl. No idea what fluid is.

Interesting discussion tbh, I guess times change and even our favorite whores want equality. But to achieve that we probably need to pay male prostitutes more.

 

[dshaw4096]

I once carelessly referred to clients as John's in a thread and another member privately messaged me with concern. His note was kind and nonconfrontational. He said that the term John was not a very nice one and was equivalent to calling us hookers or whores. And he said that men preferred to be called clients. I understood and edited my post because my intention was not to be derogatory nor was it meant to insult. I respectfully apologized to that member for being thoughtless. Just sayin..if you are not meaning to be offensive than why argue semantics. Seems petty and impolite.

That is hilarious. I guess his name was John? I don't like the word "John" because it is just weird to call a guy looking for whores (or male prostitutes) a christian name (and I don't mean it in the religious sense).

Personally I see no difference between to a whore and a male prostitute. I like the word "whore" because it is dirty and naughty and gets my blood flowing in the right places. Prostitute has too many syllables.

Service Provider, meh not so much though I understand why some girls want to make it clinical, emotionless and separated from the reality.

 

[Jasmine Raine]

The general discussion was around Casual Encounters, 99% of the men there are not looking to be paid to hookup. All the women are. Whore implies being paid.

Whore has a female connotation, probably because in the old days there were few male "whores" looking to be paid compared to females. Just a fact of life, women are prettier and men are horny dogs.

Whore has an automatic connotation of being female, due to historic usage. I prefer to use words that express what I mean succinctly as opposed to being "politically correct" and trying to make everything gender neutral.

I am ok with calling a trans (male to female) a whore, find with a CD guy being a whore if he dresses up like a girl. No idea what fluid is.

Interesting discussion tbh, I guess times change and even our favorite whores want equality. But to achieve that we probably need to pay male prostitutes more.

Male sex workers do charge more than the average $250/hr that is a Toronto norm. Just sayin'.

It's okay to admit you are sexist and prefer using the word whore for women and not equally applying it to men as well. Just own your sexism.

As Rachel pointed out if you are not trying to be offensive, why argue semantics? Thou do protest a little too much, but it is okay, your secret is safe with TERB.

 

[Frontstreet]

The demise of backpage has reduced supply of Indy SPs driving prices higher. Most SPs in the downtown core who have a good reputation now charge much higher.

 

[dshaw4096]

Male sex workers do charge more than the average $250/hr that is a Toronto norm. Just sayin'.

It's okay to admit you are sexist and prefer using the word whore for women and not equally applying it to men as well. Just own your sexism.

As Rachel pointed out if you are not trying to be offensive, why argue semantics? Thou do protest a little too much, but it is okay, your secret is safe with TERB.

I was protesting that using the word "whore" is not sexist because 95% of whores are female.

Me personally, absolutely sexist in many things, though I do prefer female heroes to male heroes in my movies.

 

[skidor]

Never used either one - most ads are bogus

Watched too many Terbites fall on their own sword