How long should a deposit be held for?

[Jenesis]

A clearly communicated cancellation policy, whether written or provided upfront, would have addressed this. Nevertheless, the payment accounts for your time, and given the elapsed duration, I suggest you retain it!

But did he cancel??? Since we didn’t confirm a time, only a date and location - was it fully booked??? Just things that make me think…..

I misread Jen's post and this would have been their first dinner date but she had seen him before and he was a good guy. Why all of a sudden would he go rogue when his broken foot isn't in question? I wouldn't say return the deposit but for a good client who makes for a decent session, I think to be willing to postpone for a later date isn't unreasonable. I do it often in my own business with repeat clientele. I would never lose $10,000 throughout the year to pocket $500.00 today but that is just me.

I get what you are saying and being a business owner in the mainstream word, this is usually standard practice for smart business so I would most certainly apply it here but he is not that good of a client. He is not that frequent.

It would be different if was a client that I have been seeing for years on a monthly basis or something but this as been less then handful of dates.

 

[Jenesis]

Because clients go rogue just like good providers sometimes. I have many regulars that went rogue after a few session. Obsession, mistreatment, stalking, time wasting, drugs ect. Hell in 2019 I was seeing this guy for almost 2yrs who promised me that he would be taking care of me when I go back to school and I wouldn't have to work anymore. I retired for him to ghost me right after I announced it. I spend a good year wondering what I have done Thinking I was a bad provider, my client would laughed at me for believing this ect. I met a few girls years later and learned that he did the same to ALL of them.

Moral of the story: you don't know people really are and being too trusting will only hurt your business. People go rogue all the time and even the people you think would never do that.

My girlfriend had a guy who said he was a doctor and would give her a monthly allowance to be exclusive and she retired only to find out he is not a doctor at still lives with his mom in her house at the age of like 60 something.

Totally messed her up for a while. He played for a good couple months never meeting the amount he said and always having an excuse of tied up funds. He promise to pay for things if she bought it which put her in debt. It was fucked.

 

[Josephine]

My girlfriend had a guy who said he was a doctor and would give her a monthly allowance to be exclusive and she retired only to find out he is not a doctor at still lives with his mom in her house at the age of like 60 something.

Totally messed her up for a while. He played for a good couple months never meeting the amount he said and always having an excuse of tied up funds. He promise to pay for things if she bought it which put her in debt. It was fucked.

It makes you really grateful for the good people but I truly think events like that changes you forever. Its a hard awakening, just like that guy who got scammed 7k. I try to be a good human in general but this get you thinking like people really do shit like that ? and they get off on it because they do it again!

Sad. Sorry for your friend

Oh and sorry for sharing my personal stories in your thread. I never really speak about how people hurt me in this business because guys don't think it's attractive. I however hoped it helped people understand both side.

 

[gollumtroll]

How long does the deposit get held for? I knew about the hurt foot and even though plans were made to the 90% mark, it was not complete in my mind. The time was not picked but the date itself was held for 3 weeks before he said he can’t give a time because he is still injured. So the date itself was held for him.

Seeing it doesn't sound like the session was finalized in terms of date and time schedule. I say give him back his deposit. And then going forward make use of a "retainer". That way it puts the onus on the client to cancel the appointment within your cancellation policy (e.g. 48 hours advanced notice). If the client doesn't follow your policy then you keep the retainer. In terms of the retainer maybe 25-35% that way it doesn't scare away clients from wanting to prebook.

 

[Jenesis]

It makes you really grateful for the good people but I truly think events like that changes you forever. Its a hard awakening, just like that guy who got scammed 7k. I try to be a good human in general but this get you thinking like people really do shit like that ? and they get off on it because they do it again!

Sad. Sorry for your friend

Oh and sorry for sharing my personal stories in your thread. I never really speak about how people hurt me in this business because guys don't think it's attractive. I however hoped it helped people understand both side.

I don’t understand some people either. I always say I want to try and understand the mentality of some people but I just can’t. It doesn’t always compute for me what they do or why they do it.

And Never apologize to me for sharing your stories.

 

[harryass]

I say keep the deposit. You have given him more than enough time to reply back and rebook If he is a good guy, he should know your time is important and the deposit is yours without any questions asked. Re-booking now should require a new deposit.

 

[Mr.Gr33k]

Deposits should be transferable to the next of kin, grandfathered sorta speak. So if a man's grandkids call you up in a few years...

 

[xix]

What kind of a clown leaves money behind after 3 weeks?

Contact him (text) once more if you don't hear from him with in 36 hours money is yours.

 

[Fun For All]

What kind of a clown leaves money behind after 3 weeks?

Contact him (text) once more if you don't hear from him with in 36 hours money is yours.

Why would you give a deposit in the first place?

 

[y2kmark]

So a date is in the process of being booked.

He says a certain date, the evening is planned, dinner at Rama, fun at the hotel after. Big call so required a deposit (you guys know how I feel about deposits but for a date like this, no choice.) So $100 is discussed as well as times for the date. During this time I know he has a hurt foot. He broke it, says should be heel by the date.

Deposit sent. 3 weeks goes by, date comes and he can’t do it, foot still messed up. Don’t have a new date in mind yet. And have now not heard a word from him in 2 weeks.

How long does the deposit get held for? I knew about the hurt foot and even though plans were made to the 90% mark, it was not complete in my mind. The time was not picked but the date itself was held for 3 weeks before he said he can’t give a time because he is still injured. So the date itself was held for him.

I know most escorts would say a new deposit would be required for a new appointment. He lost his deposit when he didn’t commit to the time of the date but the date itself was booked. So no refund or transfer.

I’m wondering what you guys think.

Return is should not happen in my opinion. The date was held for 3 weeks and no other appointment could be booked because of it. That is part of what a deposit does.

But if he calls in 2 weeks, does the deposit get transferred? What if he calls in a month? Two months? How long is it held for to transfer to a new date? Or not transferable at all?

Opinions…..

Until you hear back what are you going to do? Take the money and call it a service fee for wasting your time?

 

[Jenesis]

Until you hear back what are you going to do? Take the money and call it a service fee for wasting your time?

Well that is the thing. I will do nothing with it. It will sit in the account assigned for this work and do nothing. Until I decide it is mine to keep it as payment. Either for a new booking if he called tomorrow for example or if I decide too much time as gone by and I’m keeping it as a payment for cancelation.

 

[richaceg]

Keep the deposit. a deposit is simply that....to secure a booking and when everything falls apart and it's not in your end. you are entitled to it ...if the client sent full payment and the date falls apart, IMO that's when I believe he's entitled to at least half of the amount...

 

[Dirkpit]

I don’t do deposits. The deposit makes sense if it is to hold a future time slot. I would if I trusted the girl. So, in good conscience if you took the deposit and your time was wasted, you keep the deposit. You held his slot and did not fill it. That’s the purpose. If he wants a future spot, he should pay to have you hold it. Whatever you deem your time to be worth based on how much holding his spot inconveniences you.

 

[JackBurton]

Take the deposit and donate it as an act of charity to some animal rescue center on his behalf?

 

[boomboom]

off topic
but I did prepay with 4 SP during covid (all of whom I saw saw several times before) & followed up once things opened up & we felt comfortable partaking. some were earlier than others, but for personal reasons, I understood the delay.
2 had elderly parents & laid low for some time

IMHO
hang on to its, since he is or was a regular for a bit longer, or use it as an extention of time if he rebooks down the road or as someone else mentioned, donate to a charity of your choice.

Boom

 

[GemyNetron]

Wow, this deposit debate is getting heated! I feel like the length of time a landlord holds your security deposit shouldn't be a guessing game. Ideally, it should be returned as quickly as Sherlock Holmes cracks a case – all the facts are laid out, no room for shenanigans. Transparency is key.

In a perfect world, deposits would be like boomerangs – they come back to you eventually, especially if you haven't left the place looking like a scene from Slot77 after a particularly wild night. A reasonable timeframe, say 30 days after move-out with a clean inspection, seems fair.