chunkylover53 said:
Humans have emotions. Our actions and reactions don't always follow logically concluded paths. Moreso the case when emotional trauma is involved. If someone's family died in a plane crash, wouldn't their apprehension about flying be understood? Even if they logically understood that the statistical probability of dying in a car accident is much higher?
Not to get too off topic, but yes, I'd agree there might be a fear of flying in your example, just as I'd agree that there might be a fear of men in the case of rape. I guess the analogy would have to suggest that if it were a white plane v/s a silver plane v/s a black plane...would the colour of the plane make a difference? Would the person fear a white plane but readily board a silver? Ok, back on topic:
chunkylover53 said:
I don't think her response is intended to be malicious. It's not a logical reaction, it's an emotional one. I doubt that she truly thinks badly of all black people. From the original post, I think it's clear that she understands that the rapists' actions were not indicative of an entire race. That's why she sat down and discussed it with i_am_good. However, there is still that emotional component that is hard to eliminate through reason alone.
Don't get me wrong, I've said all along that, right or wrong, people are free to think what they will. I wasn't suggesting that her free thoughts were malicous in nature, certainly inaccurate, but not malicious. If her or any other Provider chose not to provide service to me based on skin colour, as I said before, that's their choice and life goes on...as will I to the next one on my list
The comments I've made were an attempt to answer i_am_good's questions and concerns:
1. How do you do it - tell someone, in a nice way, that you cannot see them?
spartan5782 said:
But to answer your original question, how to tell someone in a nice way you can't see them? There probably is no nice way, it just needs to be said. But, in this business working for someone else, it's more difficult.
2. Her, as well as others, insistence that somehow this is the Agency's responsibility: "Now, her anger rages toward the owners. Do they not respect her wishes? Why do they always do this to her?"
spartan5782 said:
If she worked as a waitress, and she refused to serve Blacks for the same reason, does she get the "White Only" section? Again, not wanting to seem unsympathetic, but how is it her employer's responsibility? She works for them.
3. Finally, what I thought may have been an ill-advised gesture on i_am_good's part, as well as her's, to complete the transaction in the midst of tears and heartache. But, the bottom line was he came there for sex and she works there for money and everthing else ended up to be just storyline...thought provoking and heart tugging storyline, but storyline just the same.
So no, I'm not passing judgement on her or anyone who thinks like her. It's inaccurate and I will say loudly that skin colour has not a damn thing to do with behavior, just as in your analogy, the colour of the plane had nothing to do with the crash. In the Provider's tragic experience, she was raped by 3 men, vicious criminals to be sure. But to somehow attribute skin colour as a contributor and something to be mistrustful of is, of course, the illogical conclusions that society has been working on for years.
We certainly won't solve anything or even change minds much in this thread...but it's always worthy of discussion, especially for me. I'm a numbers kinda guy. There's currently about 2.5 million blacks in prison or on parole in the US. Tack on about another million that are just a$$holes...so about 3.5 million. That's about 9% of the 40 plus million blacks in the US, about the same number of the entire population in Canada. Yet, I know that when I walk through a door, damn near any door, I'm not viewed as one of the 91% (37 million) work your ass off, raise your kids the right way, productive part of society that happens to be black. So, I welcome any opportunity to voice on this topic. May not change much, but what the hell, sure as shit couldn't hurt!
Now, Back to our regularly scheduled Hobby!!!