How Does A Married Man Hide His Hobby

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[enduser1]

I think the worst damage being an SP and reading this board have done to me, is that I see the lengths now that men will go to (or people in general) to lie and cheat on their wives. It makes me not want to ever get married. Im worried that I know about this secret life and I will never trust another man to not cheat. Now I have a healthy appetite for sex so I hope any SO of mine never feels the need but how will I really truely know from now on? It really scares me that I have damaged all my future relationships with this. I loved seeing clients while I did but I dont while i am in relationships.

Do you want a monogamous relationship? IMHO, if a guy is into promiscuous woman and willing to admit it to himself then an open marriage might be a solution.

EU

 

[enduser1]

I've cheated using escorts. Here's my list of dos and don'ts.

6. This one is obvious but it bears repeating. Have a good cover story for why you are away from home and work and unavailable by cell phone. Depending on your line of work meeting clients is the standard story.

5. Cover your financial tracks. It helps if your business gives you access to a source of untraceable cash (construction and restaurants are good; lawyers, accountants and other professionals sometimes get paid in cash).

4. Some would advise you to get a "beard", meaning have a good friend who knows about your hobbying, will cover for you, and who holds a sealed envelope with instructions about what to do in the case of your accidental death (i.e. delete email accounts, delete browsing history, destroy incriminating hobbying evidence, pay off any secret "hobbying" credit card or close out a secret hobbying bank account, etc.).

I advise against this. Chances are you will not die in an accident. If you're worried about what the Missus will find after you are gone, don't hobby. My advice is to tell no one about the hobby. Do not tell buddies, if someone you know talks to you about escorts, MPs, etc., feign ignorance. The more people who know you hobby, the greater the chances of being found out.

3. Do not go to strip clubs in your home city unless the Missus approves. Someone who knows you will see you one day, the Missus will find out, and will suspect you, even if you protest that you only went with a business client and did nothing more than look.

2.Carry your own soap with you. Make sure you wash off all trace of any scent of the escort. Join a health club with a swimming pool. After sex with an escort go for a swim; the chlorine will purge any residual scent. Do not use the health club as an excuse to go visit escorts. Something the Missus may perceive as an emergency may come up and she may try to get ahold of you at the club - and then you're busted.

1. And this is the most important one. Fuck your wife or girlfriend regularly. If you're not banging her, she already knows you're fucking someone else. But give her a good pounding once or twice a week and she'll never suspect anything, and will even mistrust her own intuition if you slip up a little once or twice.

Hi

Your post is worth reposting. It is excellent.

EU

 

[Herodotus]

If you must cheat and use the hobby as a sexual outlet (not my thing, but I can't and won't judge), my recommendations - on top of johnhenrygalt's excellent advice:

1. Always use cash - keep your playtime bank account separate
2. Never give your real name and personal information (relationship status, job, interests, etc.) to anyone in the biz
3. Use a separate pay-as-you-go "hobby" phone or call from different numbers (never your own home, cell or work) all the time
4. Don't use a shared computer (except for library, internet cafe, etc.) for the hobby - have your own, password-protected personal computer
5. Wash yourself well and double-check for makeup stains/perfume odours
6. Don't exchange phone numbers or pursue a relationship with anyone in the business outside the hobby
7. Don't repeat too often with any one lady - things can get personal and you, or she, may slip and push for something more

 

[goalie000]

Be Very, Very careful!!!!!

 

[The Houdini]

I think the worst damage being an SP and reading this board have done to me, is that I see the lengths now that men will go to (or people in general) to lie and cheat on their wives. It makes me not want to ever get married. Im worried that I know about this secret life and I will never trust another man to not cheat. Now I have a healthy appetite for sex so I hope any SO of mine never feels the need but how will I really truely know from now on? It really scares me that I have damaged all my future relationships with this. I loved seeing clients while I did but I dont while i am in relationships.

The truth is, eventually a guy will want the "strange". It does not matter how beautiful you are, how much you love each other, and how much sex you have with your s/o. It's just a matter of time and opportunity. It may be months, it could be years, but it will happen. Our DNA is programmed this way.

It's sad but it's true.

 

[WhaWhaWha]

Blame her if you catch something. Chances are she is messing around on you anyhow. Worked for a buddy of mine.

He has his SO in tears and she actually admitted to it although he was the guilty one! Totally turned the tables on her while she was handing over his prescription to detox!

Now, THAT'S a rat bastard!

 

[Nickelodeon]

Brings back fond memories as we head into golf season.

Play around of golf. Get all sweaty, go to an MP or SP, get a shower, massage out the aches and pains, release of some sort (BBBJ preferred) and then home to significant other.

Saturday afternoons must be busy at the massage parlours during the summer.

 

[mcdoste]

If you like to gamble use the casino as your cover. Everyone believes that you will loose money there but if you actually go from time to time you may also win a bit and be able to cover some of the costs. If she doesn't mind you blowing a few hundred for some entertainment at the card table then you entire cash flow is covered.

 

[massman]

This is the toughest part of the hobby if you are attached. I have being doing this for years and so far am ok. I do like others - LEAVE NO TRACES, i.e.
1. No cc's or debit cards - even at the SC, cash only.
2. Dont hobby too often. $100-200 for a MP SP visit every month or so will never be tagged as suspicious, unless you are in tough financial straits - in which case maybe you should save your money. However 100-200 3-4 times a week will be obvious.
3. I never use any personal detail whatsoever - what if the girl walks up to me at the mall and says "hey massman, hows the car business doing" while Im out with the SO or friend / family? I know most are savvy enough not to do this, but some of the less experienced girls might.
4. I now almost never hobby in my backyard. This makes it much safer, however limits my hobbying to times when I am travelling.
5. Leave no electronic trace. I use an anaoymous yahoo email, Ive turned off the inline completion, password completion in my browser, my browser erases the history when I logout. Is it a bit of a pain to try and find that one website you saw a month ago - sure, but not as bad as getting caught. I put ulabelled #s in my cell for storage, and delete when I no longer need them. ALso try to call from payphone or the hotel phone when possible.

The recurrent question, is why do we guys go to all this hassle, and how terrible it is to cheat like this. It is a bit, but if you've been in a long term relationship, built a life, and while that life was built, the sexlife / physical intimacy disappeared - youd think the same way as I. I laughed when the guy earlier in the thread said to have sex with the so 1 or 2 times a week - HA if I was doing that I'd never need to see the sp. But when you are made to feel like a pest for wanting some type of satisfaction more frequent than every 1-2 months - then you need to look elsewhere, or end the relationship. Since the latter would be a disaster for all involved, I chose the former.