How do you dump your date?

[Jasmina]

Even if there is no chemistry it doesn't mean you have to dehumanize them, catfish or not (and a few lbs more than pics is hardly cat fishing). Have a lovely dinner, chat and find some mutually enjoyable topics, have a fun time out. And yes, tell them the next day that you enjoyed yourself but are not interested in continuing further. It is that simple, and super easy, and everyone walks away feeling good. (because let's face it, you probably aren't gods gift to women and she will recover just fine)

 

[Beagle_]

Lol this is so stupid.

ps: don’t lie.

 

[angrymime666]

This seems fair and I did that and I had girls throwing fits because they expected money out of this evening and rejection is demeaning and I don’t want to draw attention like that in my favourite restaurants.

unless you both agreed on money being exchanged they are being rather entitled to expect money. rejection is a part of life. Im sure they would have no problem rejecting you if you could not pony up enough money.

I dont think you will find a strategy that will work 100% of the time. human behavior is so unpredictable. the only thing you can predict is your own behavior. that being said you can control yourself and the environment. change meeting places to somewhere that isnt a fav and you dont mind burning a bridge there. go to low key spots with few patrons.

Ive ghosted people. I dont owe anyone explanations about the whys. given the instability of people to manage their feelings appropriately ghosting seems like the most safest and efficient way.

 

[Tony2000]

I was chatting with a woman on SA and she wanted 200 just for a platonic meet and greet dinner. Then on the second date we would proceed to the bedroom. I laughed and said no thanks.
I agree with the suggestion of using a video call to make sure that they look like their pictures and that you have a connection. I have used it several times and it works great.

 

[canada-man]

walk away

 

[Josephine Grey]

I'm talking about situations when they become pushy during dinner and forcefully express expectations to be taken to my place and paid. Obviously if I could kick it over to another day without risking to hear them whining about who do I think I am to not like them there would be no need for this topic.

That being said, I think the good old emergency phone call or a stomach ache should take care of it. Thank you to all who responded.

I don't know sweetheart. If somebody is pushy or express expectations I will just tell her that this is not how you do these kind of arrangements.

However, I know being pushy can be an extreme turn off. When I face pushy guys I have a 3xno rules. If I ever have to say no 3 times, I will stand up at the third one and tell him I am leaving right now because he is being pushy and uncomfortable. Why lying hun? You don't need to.

 

[downbound123]

That being said, I think the good old emergency phone call

I had a friend who when he was meeting a lady for the first time used to get me to call him about 20 min after the start of the date. He told me just to call and he would do the rest. If it wasn't going well he would say "oh no I can't believe that, I will be right there" and if things were going well he would say " I can't talk now, will give you a call tomorrow".
Worked well until the time I called and just as he was saying hello we got disconnected so I called right back and he got caught talking into a phone that was ringing. Fortunately he was going to bail anyway so it really didn't matter that he got caught.