How do you dump your date?

[Leimonis]

So let’s say you were meeting a potential sugar baby in a restaurant and you realize that she is not your type. How do you go about parting ways with her? Assume that you like the restaurant and want to avoid a scene so that you could later come back with other women etc. So telling her “you looked 20lb lighter in your pics” is probably not an option.
Also I’m getting soft lately and don’t want to say something that could make her go into depression etc. But being soft like that can lead to a date against your best judgement and then your dick doesn’t work and then it’s you who needs therapy

In the past a couple of times I have secretly paid the bill and left through the back door. Especially if I felt that it’s their responsibility for using fake pictures etc. Women went nuts messaging all sorts of things lol but you could always block them.

The most obvious solution seems to be picking shitty restaurants for your first date and then you don’t care if she throws a scene or not because the city is full of other shitty restaurants.

But is there a nice way to do it?

 

[Claudia Love]

So let’s say you were meeting a potential sugar baby in a restaurant and you realize that she is not your type. How do you go about parting ways with her? Assume that you like the restaurant and want to avoid a scene so that you could later come back with other women etc. So telling her “you looked 20lb lighter in your pics” is probably not an option.
Also I’m getting soft lately and don’t want to say something that could make her go into depression etc. But being soft like that can lead to a date against your best judgement and then your dick doesn’t work and then it’s you who needs therapy

In the past a couple of times I have secretly paid the bill and left through the back door. Especially if I felt that it’s their responsibility for using fake pictures etc. Women went nuts messaging all sorts of things lol but you could always block them.

The most obvious solution seems to be picking shitty restaurants for your first date and then you don’t care if she throws a scene or not because the city is full of other shitty restaurants.

But is there a nice way to do it?

Tell her daily you get explosive diarrhea from eating the wrong foods. Then say I just ate the wrong foods with you. Excuse yourself go to the washroom stay in there 10 minutes. She may have left already or if shes still there say would it be ok if i use your washroom tonight i clogged my toilet last night. and if she still wants to hang with you after all that. Then say sometimes i shit myself after eating wrong foods could we first stop at a drugstore to buy some diapers for me. and if she still wants to hang out with you after all that. Marry her!

 

[cynalan]

I guess chivalry is dead. Walking out and leaving her on her own is so tacky, not gentlemanly at all. If you are not getting the chemistry, she probably isn't either. Suck it up, finish the dinner, take her home and let her know that you had a nice time but you just didn't feel the chemistry. Does it really cost so much to be civil?

 

[xmontrealer]

I don't know much about sugar baby stuff, but I used to go on "blind dates" back in the pre-internet days. It would usually be a coffee date just is case there was no click, whether on her side or on mine. Once in a while it was a dinner date. Same deal just a bit longer and a touch more expensive.

I would never never do what you did. Worst case I would try to make the best of the situation and be friendly and warm throughout the date. Then I would drive her home and walk her to her door. That, said, of course, I wouldn't call for a second date, but at least I wasn't being an asshole...

Maybe I don't understand the rules of your game. Was additional cost sex expected after dinner as part of the first date arrangement?

 

[y2kmark]

Tell her daily you get explosive diarrhea from eating the wrong foods. Then say I just ate the wrong foods with you. Excuse yourself go to the washroom stay in there 10 minutes. She may have left already or if shes still there say would it be ok if i use your washroom tonight i clogged my toilet last night. and if she still wants to hang with you after all that. Then say sometimes i shit myself after eating wrong foods could we first stop at a drugstore to buy some diapers for me. and if she still wants to hang out with you after all that. Marry her!

Either way, she'll eventually tell all her friends - eeeew...

 

[Brill]

So let’s say you were meeting a potential sugar baby in a restaurant and you realize that she is not your type. How do you go about parting ways with her? Assume that you like the restaurant and want to avoid a scene so that you could later come back with other women etc. So telling her “you looked 20lb lighter in your pics” is probably not an option.
Also I’m getting soft lately and don’t want to say something that could make her go into depression etc. But being soft like that can lead to a date against your best judgement and then your dick doesn’t work and then it’s you who needs therapy

In the past a couple of times I have secretly paid the bill and left through the back door. Especially if I felt that it’s their responsibility for using fake pictures etc. Women went nuts messaging all sorts of things lol but you could always block them.

The most obvious solution seems to be picking shitty restaurants for your first date and then you don’t care if she throws a scene or not because the city is full of other shitty restaurants.

But is there a nice way to do it?

A potential sugar baby indicates this is an unpaid date, right?
I think it’s cowardly to leave without saying goodbye, there’s no reason you couldn’t have been a civilized gentleman.

 

[kherg007]

Prepare in advance, let them know you're simply seeing if you're compatible and won't decide immediately the night of the date, so she knows a 'no' is possible. And if you invited then you pay. And if she's hot tell her how shes so amazing you're going to break your rule about waiting a day and go at it now,

 

[primetimebob]

Tell her you are going to the washroom, go pay the bill and take off. You are not going to see or talk to her again.

 

[Spacealien2]

She was lying to you from the get-go by catfishing you.

Be a man and tell her the true story and leave

 

[Claudia Love]

Either way, she'll eventually tell all her friends - eeeew...

think about for a second ...i've gone on blind dates and as I was eating dinner the guy says to me can you cut half of your steak and put it on my plate infact cut it in pieces like my mom cuts my steak and don't order any drinks or pop were having water. Now this guy needed the dirarea story because not only was the dinner from the twiliht zone hahaha but he repeatedly said at dinner will you tuck me in before i go to sleep tonight and rub my stomach in circles. I was dying so my brothers always told me if you want to et out of a blind date im not talking escorting but civillian dates say something gross and i could give two shits of what he tells his friends

 

[Claudia Love]

I don't know much about sugar baby stuff, but I used to go on "blind dates" back in the pre-internet days. It would usually be a coffee date just is case there was no click, whether on her side or on mine. Once in a while it was a dinner date. Same deal just a bit longer and a touch more expensive.

I would never never do what you did. Worst case I would try to make the best of the situation and be friendly and warm throughout the date. Then I would drive her home and walk her to her door. That, said, of course, I wouldn't call for a second date, but at least I wasn't being an asshole...

Maybe I don't understand the rules of your game. Was additional cost sex expected after dinner as part of the first date arrangement?

all kidding aside with my gross anser to this question....this is the best answer in my opinion.

 

[ziprogers]

Not to familiar with the sugar baby deal, but here are my go-to ways to tactfully duck out and escape from a Tinder meet and guarantee that they won't talk to you again:
- Pay for dinner. Nut up and tell her that she didn't look like the person in the photo. But tell her that she resembles someone you know too closely, and it would be weird.
- Tell her up front that this dinner was a mistake and that you have decided to pursue other candidates (or an ex), but that you wanted to tell her that in person.

I should come up with a couple more. But the best way is to just be up front about it and talk with authority. Don't be apologetic but don't be an asshole.

 

[Brolaf]

I usually ask them to do a FaceTime call before meeting in person. That way we can see if we're actually into each other before spending the time and effort into meeting in person. Also don't be afraid to ask if her photos are recent/accurate, better to be upfront about it at the beginning.

In times where I've met someone in person and I wasn't into them I treat it just like any other normal date where I don't have any intention of asking her out again; try to enjoy my food, make conversation as best I can, pay the bill and move on. Most women are usually pretty good at picking up on body language and social cues, if you're not into them its usually obvious.

 

[angrymime666]

So let’s say you were meeting a potential sugar baby in a restaurant and you realize that she is not your type. How do you go about parting ways with her? Assume that you like the restaurant and want to avoid a scene so that you could later come back with other women etc. So telling her “you looked 20lb lighter in your pics” is probably not an option.
Also I’m getting soft lately and don’t want to say something that could make her go into depression etc. But being soft like that can lead to a date against your best judgement and then your dick doesn’t work and then it’s you who needs therapy

In the past a couple of times I have secretly paid the bill and left through the back door. Especially if I felt that it’s their responsibility for using fake pictures etc. Women went nuts messaging all sorts of things lol but you could always block them.

The most obvious solution seems to be picking shitty restaurants for your first date and then you don’t care if she throws a scene or not because the city is full of other shitty restaurants.

But is there a nice way to do it?

you: Im not feeling the vibe or chemistry Im looking for. take care

 

[Leimonis]

Prepare in advance, let them know you're simply seeing if you're compatible and won't decide immediately the night of the date, so she knows a 'no' is possible. And if you invited then you pay. And if she's hot tell her how shes so amazing you're going to break your rule about waiting a day and go at it now,

If you tell them your won't decide immediately you gonna scare off a good portion of good babies. They will see you as a time waster.

 

[Leimonis]

you: Im not feeling the vibe or chemistry Im looking for. take care

This seems fair and I did that and I had girls throwing fits because they expected money out of this evening and rejection is demeaning and I don’t want to draw attention like that in my favourite restaurants.

 

[Beagle_]

Be a gentleman and finish the date, don't be an asshole unless you know it’s going to be embarrassment. Who cares she mislead you, don’t owe her nothing Lol.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Just slip out the back Jack. Make a new plan Stan.

 

[Josephine Grey]

I tend to dump people the same way I would like to be dump

Finish your dinner, go back home, sleep on it, text the morning after and tell him that unfortunately you slept on it and you did not really feel it. Thank him for his time and wish him well.

It cost zero dollars to be a decent human being.

 

[Leimonis]

I tend to dump people the same way I would like to be dump

Finish your dinner, go back home, sleep on it, text the morning after and tell him that unfortunately you slept on it and you did not really feel it. Thank him for his time and wish him well.

It cost zero dollars to be a decent human being.

I'm talking about situations when they become pushy during dinner and forcefully express expectations to be taken to my place and paid. Obviously if I could kick it over to another day without risking to hear them whining about who do I think I am to not like them there would be no need for this topic.

That being said, I think the good old emergency phone call or a stomach ache should take care of it. Thank you to all who responded.