How do you control your feelings?

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FunnyFace

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Okay this might be sound so stupid but i have to ask..

I am not a expert hobiest but since i started i saw 20-25 ladies.. just a few i repeated. Recently i have a weird feeling.. I saw a lady.. I cant get her out of my head.. I just keep seeing other ladies to forget how i feel about this lady but it doesnt work well.. Now i want to see her again.. and again.. but i am scared i will get attached to her.. So i am trying hard not to see her.. but that doesnt work either..

How the hell you guys get over this kind of feelings? Do i need a psychiatrist? or is this normal?
 
How do you not form an attachment to someone you've been intimate with and clicked? I'm sure it happens all the time, and I have to say there are a couple of ladies I am attached to, but not being able to get them out of mind? I've got too much other crap going on in my life for that.

If the feeling is mutual, then maybe you'll be one of the few who form a LT relationship with an SP. If not, then she'll break your heart and you'll move on.

Any of the longer term hobbyists have any ideas?
 
FunnyFace said:
Okay this might be sound so stupid but i have to ask..

I am not a expert hobiest but since i started i saw 20-25 ladies.. just a few i repeated. Recently i have a weird feeling.. I saw a lady.. I cant get her out of my head.. I just keep seeing other ladies to forget how i feel about this lady but it doesnt work well.. Now i want to see her again.. and again.. but i am scared i will get attached to her.. So i am trying hard not to see her.. but that doesnt work either..

How the hell you guys get over this kind of feelings? Do i need a psychiatrist? or is this normal?
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You found your soulmate (your weird feeling tingles). Just don't give her all your money when she asks for it...and when she does, if she does, then please click it to your head that she is using you then leave her unless you want to be used.

Why would you try hard not to see her? Are you married? Just see her, have fun, enjoy life, there's nothing wrong with you. I once had a Corona, I liked the taste so I bought more and more... I don't drink 6 beers on a daily basis, so I don't think there is anything wrong with me, I just like that brand. And so do you.
 
PurpleMonkey said:
You found your soulmate (your weird feeling tingles). Just don't give her all your money when she asks for it...and when she does, if she does, then please click it to your head that she is using you then leave her unless you want to be used.

Why would you try hard not to see her? Are you married? Just see her, have fun, enjoy life, there's nothing wrong with you. I once had a Corona, I liked the taste so I bought more and more... I don't drink 6 beers on a daily basis, so I don't think there is anything wrong with me, I just like that brand. And so do you.
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Corona? your such a wuss....:D
 
Thanks for all replies...

I know that its her job to make you feel good.. Its a reality, maybe she will make her next client feel like this too. My mind doesnt listen to me right now..

Ivan, Thats what i was trying.. so far i am at 5 but it doesnt work well.. lol.. lets see how it will work when i hit 10..:D


Yes i am married.. And i dont really want to get attached to this lady.. But like i said.. my mind doesnt listen to me right now...
 
Purejoker said:
Well if you are married and you don't want to get attached to this lady, the answer is simple.

You are already attached.

Time to stop seeing her completely. You WILL eventually forget her.
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Yes i know.. But its not that easy.. on the other hand when my marriage doesnt go so well.. Not because of her.. it has been bad for a long time..

Either way i have to get over her.. I am trying to find the best way for it.. The ones i have been trying didnt do well..

So I think i am screwed big time!!
 
Purejoker said:
I for one am going to go for broke and ask to see her "on the outside". I fully expect her to say no, and then my uncomfortable and uneasy feelings about whether she will date a client will be answered. Then I'll be able to move on. If she says yes, great, we'll try it out. Either way, I will an get answer.

I suggest you do the same!
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Good luck! I hope it ends the way you wish..

I cant be this much brave and do this.. At least not for now..
 
FunnyFace said:
Yes i know.. But its not that easy.. on the other hand when my marriage doesnt go so well.. Not because of her.. it has been bad for a long time..

Either way i have to get over her.. I am trying to find the best way for it.. The ones i have been trying didnt do well..

So I think i am screwed big time!!
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Tell us who she is and you will get your dose of reality . You are just a client like so many others . You don't get anything more than anybody else . If it is someone like a Kareena you are defintely one ,in a long line ,that want to make an honest woman of her (LOL) .

A good SP wants your repeat business so as long as you are paying she will see you .

You want to get over her then ask her out "off the clock" . You will get your answer . Not saying whoever this woman may be will say no but at least you will know where you stand.
 
Purejoker said:
You should separate your marriage issues from your thoughts about this lady. As you said, your marriage problems existed before this lady. You obviously should work on solving those.

The sooner you stop seeing this SP, the better! With time you surely will forget about her...trust me, I've had to do this with women in the past, you just have to move on and think about other things. Time works wonders and soon you'll never think about her again.
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I know but we were trying to resolve our marriage problems long long time and we didnt get anywhere. So marriage is just on the paper right now..

Do i want to forget her?? hell i dont! well i think she needs kick my butt to resolve this problem..
 
smylee52 said:
Tell us who she is and you will get your dose of reality . You are just a client like so many others . You don't get anything more than anybody else . If it is someone like a Kareena you are defintely one ,in a long line ,that want to make an honest woman of her (LOL) .

A good SP wants your repeat business so as long as you are paying she will see you .

You want to get over her then ask her out "off the clock" . You will get your answer . Not saying whoever this woman may be will say no but at least you will know where you stand.
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I wish she was Kareena.. She is so easy to talk.. I could just tell her there :D like lots of other clients already asked her out.
 
smylee52 said:
Tell us who she is and you will get your dose of reality .
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I dont have any problem to telling her name.. But she doesnt even know what is going on with my feelings. Its not fair to her just jumping in public giving her a proposal! :D
 
If you are trying to forget her, just give it some time, and continue to see others. Time will alter your feeling.
 
doug51 said:
Just PM her name to all of us .
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Now that is funny.

FF, Its hard to say get over it as feelings are involved. Listen to Termites answers.

Its only a business, we pay they love us for an hour and then they go to their boyfriends or husbands.

Get a reality check buddy
 
silee said:
If you are trying to forget her, just give it some time, and continue to see others. Time will alter your feeling.
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I do want to forget her. Because this wont go anywhere..


poonhunter said:
Don't let the pecker head confuse the one between your ears :)
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Hahahha thats a good one..

Sukdeep said:
The real question is - do you want to forget about her?

If you really do, just remind yourself that this is her job, she is very good at it, and you pay her $$$ for it.

But, it sounds like there's a part of you that doesn't want to move on. If that's the case, there's no advice that we can give that you will take...
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I do really want to forget her. Thats what i am trying.. keep seeing other ladies. Like i said i know that its her job.. It doesnt matter what my heart says.. I do want to get over her... But it is not easy...
 
FunnyFace said:
I do want to forget her. Because this wont go anywhere..





Hahahha thats a good one..



I do really want to forget her. Thats what i am trying.. keep seeing other ladies. Like i said i know that its her job.. It doesnt matter what my heart says.. I do want to get over her... But it is not easy...
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I know that feeling. But all you can do is try to not see her. Cherish the memories if you want, because reality won't be as nice if you try to ahead with this as a relationship.

There are two ways to deal with stuff like this. First, get yourself thoroughly and completely screwed over pursuing something that can never be (for a lot of reasons, some of which you mentioned) and eventually it will be a totally bad enough experience, and enough pain that you will want to be done with it....or

Leave it now...remember the good times, but for the sake of your sanity and your life, and perhaps hers too....stop now. Be in love with her as much as you want....eventually it will fade to the background, but at least it can always be something somewhat happy. It might take a few years to get over the intensity of the feelings...but worth it compared to the alternative.
 
get HER to tell you it's only business (if it is...) - you gotta hear it from her

you gotta be straight up - the truth shall set you free
 
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